What would you have him do, specifically?
I have no suggestions on what the Cheneys should do in this situation, but I can tell you what I did.
I have a gay daughter and have been loving and accepting of her and her partner, but not of their lifestyle. We have made clear our opinions, but my wife and I do not make life uncomfortable for them because of our opinions.
When they announced that they were going to try and get pregnant, we sat them down and explained our position. We explained why we believed that children should have a mother and a father and told them that, should they go though with this, we would sue for custody of our grandchild. We assured them that living in the South that we had a better than even chance of winning.
Though they were not happy with our decision, they still visited and were welcomed and we have always been welcomed at their home. They thought of moving elsewhere but didn't like any of the places with more liberal laws. (A lesson in how liberalism ruins a place) It has now been eight years and still no babies.
posted on 05/30/2007 11:30:57 AM PDT
by Between the Lines
(I am very cognizant of my fallibility, sinfulness, and other limitations.)
To: Between the Lines
We explained why we believed that children should have a mother and a father and told them that, should they go though with this, we would sue for custody of our grandchild.
Wow, I'm frankly just appalled by this. I'm a mother and a grandmother, and I simply cannot imagine telling my daughter that if I disagreed with choices she was making in her life I would try to steal her child. And while having a child raised by lesbians might not be ideal, neither would having a child raised by old grandparents. There's a reason for menopause.
I also have to point out that I think you're misinformed if you think a grandparent can simply go to court win custody of a child because they disagree with the lifestyle of the child's parents(s). You'd have to show some harm to the child, and I've never seen a case where the homosexuality of a parent alone is enough legally.
posted on 05/30/2007 1:04:49 PM PDT
To: Between the Lines
Wow... all I can say is wow... You sat your child, who you claim to love, down and blatantly threatened her with stealing her child from her because you don’t agree with her lifestyle. The hatred there is alarming. Having been in a similar situation with my own family, I feel I should let you know what exactly your daughter felt when you told her that.
It’s hard to put into words the soul wrenching agony such statements from a parent put a child through, but I will attempt to explain. Imagine a white hot knife, the largest knife you’ve ever held. Now, imagine someone stabbing you with that blade, then twisting it violently before ripping it out. That’s what it feels like to a child every time they hear ‘I love you, but not what you do.’ What those words really mean is ‘I love you, even though you’re not good enough for me.’ I can only imagine that such an outright threat would be even worse. You celebrate your daughter not having children, I would bet your daughter cries that her parents would make such a hate filled statement to her.
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