To: Between the Lines
We explained why we believed that children should have a mother and a father and told them that, should they go though with this, we would sue for custody of our grandchild.
Wow, I'm frankly just appalled by this. I'm a mother and a grandmother, and I simply cannot imagine telling my daughter that if I disagreed with choices she was making in her life I would try to steal her child. And while having a child raised by lesbians might not be ideal, neither would having a child raised by old grandparents. There's a reason for menopause.
I also have to point out that I think you're misinformed if you think a grandparent can simply go to court win custody of a child because they disagree with the lifestyle of the child's parents(s). You'd have to show some harm to the child, and I've never seen a case where the homosexuality of a parent alone is enough legally.
posted on 05/30/2007 1:04:49 PM PDT
Wow, I'm frankly just appalled by this
Standing up for what you believe will always appall someone.
And while having a child raised by lesbians might not be ideal, neither would having a child raised by old grandparents.
Actually we were just 39 at the time. We are 47 now and raising a 3yo granddaughter that has cerebral palsy.
I also have to point out that I think you're misinformed if you think a grandparent can simply go to court win custody of a child because they disagree with the lifestyle of the child's parents(s).
Apparently you don't understand the concept of a bluff. I know how hard it is to get custody of any child no matter how bad the child's circumstance. Two of my 5 children are adopted and even though their parents were abusive neglecting and in prison, it still wasn't easy.
We were bluffing and it worked. We have no regrets for preventing a child from being raised by lesbians even if one of those lesbians is our daughter and even though that child would have been our grandchild.
posted on 05/30/2007 1:38:22 PM PDT
by Between the Lines
(I am very cognizant of my fallibility, sinfulness, and other limitations.)
well said — there isn’t. Grandparents have legal rights in most states for contact and visitation, but not to jerk a child out from a home that has immoral behavior, unless it shows harm to that child.
posted on 05/30/2007 1:52:55 PM PDT
(The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing.)
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