Posted on 06/11/2007 10:30:30 AM PDT by Excuse_My_Bellicosity
Two months after giving birth to her daughter, Jen McClure-Metz received a phenomenal job offer. If she wanted to become a producer on a hit television show, she’d have to start in a month.
McClure-Metz and her husband talked it over and made the same decision many families are making: Dad would stay home full time and take care of their daughter.
“While I never thought that I would end up staying home with Sarah, I knew that I was fully capable of doing so,” says Brian Metz, McClure-Metz’s husband.
But almost four years into it, McClure-Metz began to feel her husband was maybe too capable. He had become more competent and assertive in the child-care arena and it showed in small ways. Metz took over when his wife struggled with the car seat, or put the kibosh on plans when he thought their daughter needed down time.
“Basically, he was the parent in charge and I often felt trumped,” says McClure-Metz.
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Interesting. What's she going to do, complain that her husband is too good at doing his job around the house? We're always told that running a household and raising kids is a horribly difficult and demeaning task for a wife, which justifies them treating the husband as though he just cruises through his easy days at work. If he complains about stress or being tired from the workday, he's just being a whiner. They do this so that the husband doesn't get any ideas about switching roles.
If staying home to raise kids is so horrible and demeaning, why do so many wives fight tooth and nail to do it?
She should count her blessings and cut the carping. Once the children get older things will change and mom will have more clout.
Gee, I wonder how we got here?
So the stereotype of the bumbling husband and the calm, indispensible problem-solving wife is no longer operative?
No one respects a Stay at Home father, even if he got laid-off. TAKE MY WORD FOR IT.
Why? While men can be good at mothering, I've never heard anyone claim that mothers make good fathers.
I think it’s just the one who does the tasks most often becomes the most proficient. It doesn’t matter if it’s laundry, cooking, child care or surgery!
Practice makes perfect!
Dear Womyn,
Do y’all remember that ad a few years ago?
The one that argued on your behalf, “Who says you can’t have it all”?
Breaking news: It was just an ad. Just marketing schtick.
You really *can’t* have it all.
Undoubtedly, this comes as a huge shock. But it’s the simple truth.
Sorry about that!
(signed)
Reality
The lies of the feminist movement have caused quite a mess and have left an entire generation of men and women incapable of doing what they are best fit to do.
Now days, the people that know a child the best is the day care company.
No one respects a Stay at Home father, even if he got laid-off. TAKE MY WORD FOR IT.
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Not a stay at home dad, nor have I played one on TV, and I didn’t sleep at a Holiday Inn Express last night, but after I got past the age of 30 (now 49), I really stopped giving a flying you know what about other people think of me. The people who matter recognize what matters.
Those who make life decisions based on what they think other people will think are pretty useless, IMHO.
But massgopguy, if you’re a good stay at home father, I would have no trouble respecting you, for that and whatever other talents you bring to the table. F the other people.
I wonder if mom has to do the yardwork and repairs around the house when she gets home or does her poor abused overworked husband have to do those things as well.
I think it’s because most women want to stay home with their babies. They’ll convince themselves they don’t, but if the husband is staying home, that has to throw it back in their faces in a way that just picking the kid up from daycare can’t.
She wants to be the breadwinner and the Mommy at one and the same time.
eeeeeeeeeech!
If the mom is making more money than the dad, then it makes logical and financial sense for the dad to stay home if they can live without the extra paycheck. What's the problem with that?
I'd have less respect for a father that causes his family to suffer financially because he insists that his higher-earning wife stay at home and not work because his ego is too big.
I spent the first two years of my oldest daughter's life as her primary caregiver under quite similar circumstances. It never occurred to me whether I was appreciated or not by others. I was too busy appreciating the situation for myself! I would not have traded those two years for all the gold on earth. To this day she and I have a close relationship. Of course, she's now 15 and I have become an idiot in her mind, but we are still close.
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