A member of the ambiguosly gay duo turning to his life partner when his wife insists on speaking to the press for him?
Posted on 08/14/2007 5:57:01 PM PDT by 2ndDivisionVet
When many of us hear the words "domestic violence," we automatically assume the victim would be a female and the attacker would be a male. After all, men are traditionally viewed as the more aggressive of the two sexes, and the victims of most domestic abuse situations are indeed women. But a surprising number of domestic violence episodes do involve women as the aggressors, creating a new category of victim known as the battered husband. A battered husband suffers the same emotional, verbal and physical abuse as a battered wife, but is less likely to report these crimes to authorities.
The relationship between a battered husband and his abusive spouse can be very complex. A battered husband often employs the same defensive tactics as a battered wife, including denial, withdrawal and disconnection. The shame of owning up to a spouse's abusive behavior could cause a battered husband to defend her around others. Some excuses may be that his own actions triggered her violent response, or she's only reacting to post-natal stress. Denial can be a powerful coping mechanism for a battered husband, especially if he dreads the idea of having meaningful discussions with his abusive spouse.
Another characteristic of a battered husband is the tendency to disconnect from his own domestic problems. A battered husband will often spend more and more time at work, or take up a hobby outside of the home. In order to avoid potential conflicts, a battered husband may decide to sleep in the family car or spend his waking hours in a private den or office. A violent spouse may also be abusive towards children, either in the form of physical attacks or excessive punishments for minor infractions. A battered husband could remain in the abusive home strictly to protect his children from further abuse.
A battered husband may also find it difficult to pursue legal remedies against an abusive spouse. A number of states have domestic violence laws requiring law enforcement officers to arrest at least one of the combatants if physical injuries are visible. A battered husband may have been the victim of severe mental and emotional abuse for hours, but one defensive slap could tip the balance in the abusive spouse's favor. Enforcing a temporary restraining order against an abusive wife could also become problematic for a battered husband, especially if children are involved.
There are a number of support groups dedicated to sufferers of "battered husband syndrome." These groups also provide online information for men who may want to break away from a violent relationship but fear the aftermath. Some studies suggest that over 800,000 men become victims of domestic violence every year, but only a fraction ever report the abuse to authorities. Many men fear the social stigma of admitting they were powerless against a violent spouse, or the loss of meaningful time spent with their children following a divorce.
Been there, done that.
Nahhh, that could never ha-
Hold it...
A member of the ambiguosly gay duo turning to his life partner when his wife insists on speaking to the press for him?
I have actually seen the double standard. Battered women’s shelters are very “in vogue” with the liberal woman lawyer set. At one fundraiser I remember chatting with a woman lawyer who said men can’t be real victims because they have the possibilty of fighting back because of their strength. Before I could even comment one of the councelors who worked at the center which was the subjecto of the fundraise jumped in and said that battered does not always need to be physical.
Her statement was that women are just as vicious with the mental abuse and demeaning attacks because men generally do not hit women because of the physical unfairness.
It was an interesting moment to see a non-laywer social worker type zing a feminist lawyer.
A battered husband would be some that had been sort of breaded. He must have fallen into a vat of batter. Thats all I can figure.
I am.
Opps you're not talking about leather, chains, and whip toy's are you?
My bad. /;-)
Few of the PC crowd acknowledge this. On top of that, men are expected to defend our nation, to see all sorts of horrifying violence, and then come home and act as if none of it ever happened.
Such is the lot of the majority of US males.
And we laugh about it. We are what makes our nation great.
Pass the watermelon.
a battered husband is one that allows his dominating wife to bitch slap him into submission to her will 90% of the time.
( a common malady in todays Liberal family unit)
a battered husband is one who has failed to promote
domestic democracy within the family unit.
peacefulness and mutual respect , happy willingness to compromise on both partners behalf , no power tripping and no
yelling and screaming and brow beating .
And if one of the two feel inclinations to physical violence , take up karate , at the dojo , as a white belt...
You’ll get over it fast :^)
The more pseudo-masculine man-haters we train, the more women will shoot, stab, bludgeon and drive over their husbands.
The following are Fortune 500s that filed briefs in favor of “affirmative action” in the Michigan “Grutter v. Bollinger” (Michigan University) case.
http://www.umich.edu/~urel/admissions/legal/gru_amicus/32_internatl.pdf
3M
Abbott Laboratories
American Airlines
Ashland
Bank One
Boeing
Coca-Cola
Dow Chemical
E.I. Du Pont De Nemours
Eastman Kodak
Eli Lilly
Ernst & Young
Exelon
Fannie Mae
General Dynamics
General Mills
Intel
Johnson & Johnson
Kellogg
KPMG
Lucent Technologies
Microsoft
Mitsubishi
Nationwide Mutual Insurance
Nationwide Financial
Pfizer
PPG
Proctor & Gamble
Sara Lee
Steelcase
Texaco
TRW
United Airlines
General Motors Corporation
http://www.umich.edu/~urel/admissions/legal/gru_amicus/gru_gm.html
Who Controls Education Policies?
Eagle Forum
Phyllis Schlafly
http://www.eagleforum.org/psr/2003/aug03/psraug03.shtml
Caving in on Title IX
“The Bush Administration has just re-affirmed the Clintonian feminists’ Title IX outrages, which impose a gender quota-like system on college sports. The feminists are squealing with joy and the National Women’s Law Center calls it a “huge win” — for the feminists, of course. Bush is dreaming if he thinks they will ever reward him with their votes.”
Vicious, You hit me with a flower, You've got that kind of power, Baby, you're so vicious(Lou Reed Vicious)
The reason many men are battered is that they know if they respond to their wife’s violence, even in defense, they themselves will be charged with abuse. Things generally go downhill from here.
BINGO! My ex knew I wouldn’t lay a hand on her and took advantage of that fact.
I never struck mine back, but I did hold her down when she attacked me. After I ended things, she hooked up with a poor fellow that she slapped around at will. She eventually shot and killed him.
Whoa. Can tell you’ve never actually been in a relationship with a woman before.
“Leave the b*tch.”
Most of my unhappily married friends will tell ya...
“it’s cheapa-ta-keep-ha”.
Otherwise you have battered husbands wallet syndrome.
Have you? 
Yep. And it looks like the MSM is revving up the feminazi issues to set the agenda for the 2008 elections.
There’s a word that describes a battered husband. It begins with “p” and ends with “y.”
Yes. But I can usually tell from two attitudes than my interlocutor has not:
1) The “just smack her upside the head” attitude (which will get you tossed in the klink with a restraining order to keep you from your kids faster than you can say “but she deserved it”), and the
2) “You are just being unreasonable. You need to share more and things will get better.”
Women get away with things that would get them a pool cue crammed up their noses to pre-frontal lobe position if they were men just because they know that either their man is too manly to hit a woman or because they know that the police will come along to take him to the slammer on only her word.
In such cases, a simple reminder that if she lays a hand on you she won't live long enough to file charges will usually suffice.
But if the "relationship" even gets to that point, it was over a long time before - and the man for some reason has chosen to pretend that it wasn't. These things never come out of the blue.
I have never seen that one before. :)
If he's battered on an ongoing basis, I tend to agree with you. However, lots of "battered" husbands have been men who were too much of a gentleman...or too legally canny...to hit back.
Put that on a t-shirt with that statement and you can sell thousands.
On the rare occasions I’ve been punched or otherwise accosted by a female, I’ve thoroughly deserved it. That said, I can see how this happens. Most men won’t hit back, and if they do they’ll probably never see their kids again. Given the sad state of family law in this country, what does the woman have to lose? Unless she’s a crack-addicted whore, she will get custody and a significant portion of the man’s income until the kids are all on their own no matter what the circumstances are.
Being in a relationship with someone who is obviously manic depressive, narcissistic and manipulative leads one to become “battered”, emotionally and mentally, at least.
Never had charges filed against you, eh? Or, maybe the wife is planning her gasoline bath for you very soon....and a candle to set the mood.
Just shoot your wife in the back while she is sleeping and cry on the witness stand and say she made you watch porn and you will get away with it.
yea , right...married twice , still to my second wife for 19 years . I could write a book...
I got it off of Freep from someone who posted it last year and insisted it was a real photo, but when I look closer I think it is photoshopped. For one thing, the skin tones don`t match, and second if you look at Kerrys nose, it looks pretty obvious it`s been manipulated. But on the other hand maybe it isn`t being that they are both closet homosexuals. LOL!
It was all down hill from there, thanks to their incompetent, unprofessional, and unethical advice.
I found out that one got a call from the FBI about a "client" that was murdered.
I can understand the murder if the poor woman was getting the same "counsel" as my then-wife was.
A neighbor said a woman at her work location was murdered and FBI poking around about the murder and multi-million credit card fraud.
A couple of years later, I'm watching "Unsolved Mysteries" ...murder/company/location/credit card theft ring...and I said to myself, "Oh, that must be the poor victim of my ex-wife's quack social worker friends" (death due to quack therapy when dealing with a bunch of corrupt, and apparently violent, coworkers.)
bttt
‘What is a battered husband?’
A wimp and an idiot.
There’s no USA price on the cover — that mean it’s not available here?
Not in my house and not by my choice:
1) Hubby is griping because he can't retire...at age 53;
2) I work a hectic full time executive job, cook full meals every night and clean house and do laundry on weekends. I do all of the shopping (even buying his clothes) and any other errands. When he needs something from Home Depot, I get a cell phone call on my way home from work even though most of the time he goes right by one on his way home from work. He goes to work, comes home, plays Nintendo every night and does the yard on the weekends. We have a joke around our house that Bubba, my dog, is my husband because he loves me unconditionally and sleeps with me every night...hubby is just the gardener who I have an occasional fling with.
3) I take care of all of our financial transactions, his only contribution is to gripe "Where is all the money going" and then wanting me to stop when I start telling him exactly to the penny where it is going.
4) When I need something fixed around the house, I start on it, end up cussing and he then finishes it so he doesn't have to hear me cuss.
However, he's my best friend, he doesn't beat on me (I do hit back), cheat on me and he comes straight home every night (not hanging around in bars), so I deal with it. Oh...and I buy him watermelon every week.
Remember to leave most ALL of your stuff, youre money and your children.
“Women get away with things that would get them a pool cue crammed up their noses to pre-frontal lobe position if they were men just because they know that either their man is too manly to hit a woman or because they know that the police will come along to take him to the slammer on only her word.”
and for those reasons right there I will never get married again. Neither will my boys since they have seen this kind of thing up close and personal.
Ahm lookin fer a job.
Most men are born with two feet and two legs. They can walk out. And thank you, my marriage is fine.
Most men are born with a stoic sensibility that demands they tough out any situation. Up to, and including, dealing with a less than stable woman.
You imply there's another kind?
My ex-wife, however...and the lunatic software HR/PR consultant I was shacked up with....well.......the stories I could tell........(shiver)
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