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Divorce can predict child's future day-to-day care for aging parents
Dailyindia.com/ANI ^ | 9/17/07 | ANI Correspondent

Posted on 09/17/2007 8:09:48 AM PDT by qam1

Washington, Sept 17: According to a study done by Temple University researcher Adam Davey, Ph.D., the impact of marital disruptions like divorce, remarriage etc can foretell whether a child would provide more involved care to parents in the future or not.

The changes caused by a divorce that took place 30 years ago can have long lasting effects on the mind of the child, claimed Davey.

In particular, divorce predicted that an adult child would be less involved in the day-to-day aid for the aging parents, in future.

"It's not the divorce itself that affects the quality of the parent-child relationship, but it's what happens afterwards such as geographical separation," said Davey, a gerontologist who studies trends in the baby boomer generation and other aging issues.

Davey scrutinised data from 2,087 parents, aged 50 and above, who gave reports on their 7,019 adult children in the National Survey of Family and Households.

"Marital transitions affect families in a number of ways," Davey said.

"They can interrupt the relationship of support between a parent and child, and the evidence suggests that the continuity of support by parents and to parents matters," he added.

The study also reported that early marital commotion in a child's life can be less detrimental to the relationship, than those which occurred in adulthood.

The results suggest that both the type of changeover and the time of its occurrence in the child's life are important.

A father's early remarriage makes it more likely that the child will provide help later in life, but the same transition occurs when the child has reached adulthood the chances of a child helping the father become less.

Also, if the child spends more time with the divorced mother, the chances of providing assistance to the mother when she is old, are more, Davey said.

Astonishingly, it was found that both mothers and fathers are only half as likely to get support from a non-biological child.

"Society does not yet have a clear set of expectations for step-children's responsibility," Davey said.

Contradictory to the findings, this does not mean these potential effects damage the parent-child relationship as a whole, Davey said.

While marital transition doesn't seem to cause irretrievable damages to the support that children provide to parents in later life, it does disrupt the needs and resources of both generations.

"Given how common marital transitions have become, and how complex families have become as a result, it's surprising that the effects aren't even more pronounced." Davey added.

The findings have appeared in Advances in Life Course Research.


TOPICS: Culture/Society; Extended News
KEYWORDS: cheapertokeepher; divorce; genx; moralabsolutes; psychology

1 posted on 09/17/2007 8:09:54 AM PDT by qam1
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To: qam1
Astonishingly, it was found that both mothers and fathers are only half as likely to get support from a non-biological child.

Why are we astonished at this?

2 posted on 09/17/2007 8:12:04 AM PDT by Tax-chick ("My parrot thinks you're cute. I think so, too!")
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To: qam1

“Divorce can predict child’s future day-to-day care for aging parents”

No kidding.


3 posted on 09/17/2007 8:12:54 AM PDT by edcoil (Reality doesn't say much - doesn't need too)
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To: qam1
Heredity is amazing. If your parents did not have children, it is likely you won't either. Astonishingly.
4 posted on 09/17/2007 8:16:32 AM PDT by llevrok (Feral republican.)
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5 posted on 09/17/2007 8:17:36 AM PDT by qam1 (There's been a huge party. All plates and the bottles are empty, all that's left is the bill to pay)
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To: qam1

Well, DUH!


6 posted on 09/17/2007 8:18:54 AM PDT by gridlock (I do not support Hillary Clinton because I am afraid of strong women)
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To: qam1
This "Big DUH!" study brought to you by .
7 posted on 09/17/2007 8:21:45 AM PDT by gridlock (I do not support Hillary Clinton because I am afraid of strong women)
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To: gridlock

My parents are divorced, if my dad fell ill it would be difficult for me to be involved in his day to day care, unless I moved him up to where I live... something I doubt he would want. My mother lives close by.

If my father did not fight me relocating him here, I would have no qualms being as active as I could in his care... when he is 600 miles away however, this makes this sort of involvement much more difficult if not impossible.


8 posted on 09/17/2007 8:22:58 AM PDT by HamiltonJay
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To: HamiltonJay

I think many assume that the government takes care of the elderly.


9 posted on 09/17/2007 8:37:01 AM PDT by ClaireSolt (Have you have gotten mixed up in a mish-masher?)
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To: qam1

bttt


10 posted on 09/17/2007 8:41:01 AM PDT by JamesP81
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To: qam1; Froufrou
marital transitions

So that's what they're calling it these days.
11 posted on 09/17/2007 8:44:22 AM PDT by JamesP81
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To: qam1
"It's not the divorce itself that affects the quality of the parent-child relationship, but it's what happens afterwards such as geographical separation," said Davey, a gerontologist who studies trends in the baby boomer generation and other aging issues.

Wrong.

12 posted on 09/17/2007 8:46:25 AM PDT by thulldud (Millete adi politikacilar gibi yalanci vaadlerde bulunmaktan nefret ederiz. -- (Ataturk))
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To: qam1

Why would anyone personally help strangers in their old age?


13 posted on 09/17/2007 8:47:00 AM PDT by donna (A new study says that Ritalin may stunt growth. Men ARE getting shorter than women!)
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To: Tax-chick

duh.

You reap what you sow!


14 posted on 09/17/2007 8:56:22 AM PDT by BurbankKarl
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To: JamesP81; qam1; Tax-chick

Well, gee, we’re headed for an anything-goes world. On the express train to who-gives-a-crapshoot. Remember, anything you do, all you have to say is, “oops, sorry” and be done with it.


15 posted on 09/17/2007 8:56:58 AM PDT by Froufrou
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To: Tax-chick

Why are we astonished at this?

Because we live in an age where people think that everything is the same, everything is equal.

Example: Two homosexuals = an hetrosexual couple

Her kids = my kids

DOLTS!


16 posted on 09/17/2007 9:00:17 AM PDT by Chickensoup (If it is not permitted, it is prohibited. Only the government can permit....)
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To: Froufrou; BurbankKarl

“Half as likely” means that there are some non-biological children (what, are they robots?) who are caring for their step-parent or adoptive parent. The observations of the study are intuitively obvious, but they’re generalizations, not descriptive of every case.


17 posted on 09/17/2007 9:06:04 AM PDT by Tax-chick ("My parrot thinks you're cute. I think so, too!")
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To: Tax-chick

I hear ya. What about kids who don’t know who their parents are?

Studies and polls are amusing sometimes, but I take it with skepticism, like my horoscope...


18 posted on 09/17/2007 9:09:27 AM PDT by Froufrou
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To: Froufrou
What about kids who don’t know who their parents are?

They weren't part of this study :-).

19 posted on 09/17/2007 9:12:38 AM PDT by Tax-chick ("My parrot thinks you're cute. I think so, too!")
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To: Tax-chick
Why are we astonished at this?

If they are talking about children that were adopted at birth or shortly thereafter, I would find it astonishing that there is such a disparity in level of support.

20 posted on 09/17/2007 9:22:26 AM PDT by MEGoody (Ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.)
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To: JamesP81

Yup. I love that new buzzword/phrase: “marital transition”.

No more divorce or separation, or even marriage. :D


21 posted on 09/17/2007 9:58:14 AM PDT by the OlLine Rebel (Common sense is an uncommon virtue.)
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To: Tax-chick

I’m sure my sister and brother (OK, half-) would help my/”our” father.

When 6, they asked him on getting married if they could call him “Daddy”.


22 posted on 09/17/2007 10:00:57 AM PDT by the OlLine Rebel (Common sense is an uncommon virtue.)
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To: llevrok

LOL!


23 posted on 09/17/2007 10:13:54 AM PDT by Walkingfeather (u)
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To: the OlLine Rebel

Some step parents are much better than the parents.

God bless your father. He must be a good Dad.


24 posted on 09/17/2007 10:58:51 AM PDT by netmilsmom (To attack one section of Christianity in this day and age, is to waste time .)
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To: qam1

Here is an odd point.
My two sisters have five living children. I can bet my right arm that if I needed help, four of those five would be at my side.

If the mothers needed help. I would bet none of the kids would help them. Maybe one, big maybe. And the one who wouldn’t help me, sure wouldn’t help his mother. He is as selfish as she is.

So much for the “me” generation. They reap what they have sown.


25 posted on 09/17/2007 11:03:34 AM PDT by netmilsmom (To attack one section of Christianity in this day and age, is to waste time .)
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To: MEGoody
If they are talking about children that were adopted at birth or shortly thereafter

The next line in the article mentions step-children, so I think that's what they mean.

26 posted on 09/17/2007 11:07:07 AM PDT by Tax-chick ("My parrot thinks you're cute. I think so, too!")
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27 posted on 09/17/2007 11:10:23 AM PDT by Mr. Silverback (Support Scouting: Raising boys to be strong men and politically incorrect at the same time.)
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To: netmilsmom

He is. :) And my siblings, as it were, don’t ever have anything to do with “real dad”. Never have.


28 posted on 09/17/2007 11:24:03 AM PDT by the OlLine Rebel (Common sense is an uncommon virtue.)
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To: the OlLine Rebel
He is. :) And my siblings, as it were, don’t ever have anything to do with “real dad”. Never have.

You sound like one of my step-brothers regarding their bio-father.

29 posted on 09/17/2007 11:28:59 AM PDT by Centurion2000 (“Jesus Saves. Moses Delivers. Cthulu Reposesses...”)
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To: Centurion2000

As Mom said, “a sick, cheating, abusive bum”, and my siblings couldn’t have cared much less whether he was there or not.


30 posted on 09/17/2007 11:40:39 AM PDT by the OlLine Rebel (Common sense is an uncommon virtue.)
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31 posted on 09/17/2007 1:04:55 PM PDT by wagglebee ("A political party cannot be all things to all people." -- Ronald Reagan, 3/1/75)
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To: qam1
"Society does not yet have a clear set of expectations for step-children's responsibility," Davey said.

I have positively no plans to take care of my father's wife.

32 posted on 09/17/2007 1:32:26 PM PDT by T.Smith
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To: wagglebee

Thanks for the ping.


33 posted on 09/17/2007 10:20:59 PM PDT by GOPJ (It's not the spelling ---- groupthink's killing newspapers.)
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To: qam1

It’s more than just divorce. It’s spiritual rottenness. Spiritually rotten parents are less likely to get lots of attention from their kids as elder folk. Sometimes it’s even a role reversal, where the kids were more mature and responsible than the parents by the time they were in their late 20s.


34 posted on 09/18/2007 6:56:35 PM PDT by GOP_1900AD (Stomping on "PC," destroying the Left, and smoking out faux "conservatives" - Take Back The GOP!)
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To: qam1

Not a huge surprise.

Even with both my divorced parents living within 20 miles of me, I’m not sure what I would do.

My father’s wife is 10 years younger than him, and they have their own family and support structure now. My mom has her own life, boyfriend and friends.

I’m not sure some of the people in their life would even want me butting in to take care of them. I’m part of the old family that is politely not spoken of with the new spouses and significant others.


35 posted on 09/20/2007 6:20:15 AM PDT by Shion (Hunter 2008! www.gohunter08.com)
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To: qam1

And knowing that your mother is PRO-ABORTION changes the child/parent bond also.


36 posted on 09/20/2007 6:23:04 AM PDT by Suzy Quzy (Hillary '08...Her PHONINESS is REAL!!!)
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To: qam1

My parents divorced when I was 13 and my sister was 11.

My sister, a little over a year ago, sold her dream house, bought my dads house, remodeled it and added an apartment over the garage (it’s a luxury apt at that) for him to live in. He will never have another bill again.

She is an excellent daughter!


37 posted on 09/20/2007 6:25:04 AM PDT by diamond6 (Everyone who is for abortion has been born. Ronald Reagan)
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To: JamesP81

>>marital transitions

So that’s what they’re calling it these days.<<

It’s a perfectly legitimate expression which was coined to encompass ALL forms of role-changes in marriages (e.g.: death of a spouse, divorce with subsequent geographical separation, divorce without geographical separation, remarriage, etc.).

The study didn’t restrict its scope to divorce.

I don’t believe that the authors of the study were attempting to “sneak in” a (liberal) value judgement.

It’s just a handy term to use.


38 posted on 09/22/2007 3:47:18 AM PDT by alexander_busek
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To: qam1

My parents dumped me when I was 18. Dad told me to either get a job and move out or go to College and move out so they can start their partying.

30 years later, after they have literally drunk themselves into mindless blathering, my folks now want me to take care of them. I put this task on my brothers who are both alki’s along with my parents.

Sorry, but when you kick me out of your lives, don’t expect met to be the good son and give up my life and my kids lives who are in College to provide care when you don’t bother to write, call, or drop in but once every 5 years.


39 posted on 09/22/2007 3:54:02 AM PDT by DownInFlames
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