That’s what I said. You just repeated it with different words.
There are gays serving in the military today. They are allowed to do so. NO candidate for president, in EITHER party, is calling for a ban on gays in the military.
So saying that Mitt Romney “supports” gays in the military is a meaningless charge. There are already gays in the military, they have the official support of the military establishment, and no candidate is saying they do NOT support it.
Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell just means that nobody knows who is gay, at least no officially. As you said, they can’t act on their impulses, they can’t tell people they are gay.
“So saying that Mitt Romney supports gays in the military is a meaningless charge.”
Then explain to me Mitt Romney’s own words in a letter to the Log Cabin Republicans:
I believe that the Clinton compromise was a step in the right direction. I am also convinced that it is the first of a number of steps that will ultimately lead to gays and lesbians being able to serve openly and honestly in our nations military. - Mitt Romney