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Ocala Woman Charged With Neglect After Going "On Strike"
WWSB ^ | 2/21/2008 | n/a

Posted on 02/21/2008 7:54:03 AM PST by Pyro7480

OCALA, Fla. (AP) - Police say a mother of 4 teenage boys has been charged with neglect after saying she was going "on strike" because she was fed up with them.

Ocala police say 43-year-old Melissa Dean told the Department of Children and Families that she went on strike because no one would help her with the boys ages 17, 16, 14 and 13.

Police have gone to Dean's home 12 times since September 2007 due to the boys' misbehavior.

Dean tells the DCF that she thought there would be peace if she gave up her bedroom to 1 of the children.

She said she supervised them by making frequent calls and bringing meals to the house.


TOPICS: Crime/Corruption; Culture/Society; Extended News; News/Current Events; US: Florida
KEYWORDS: florida; neglect; ocala; teens
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A local Fox news crew went to the Dean home, and the teens did appear to be out of control, using abusive and obscene language. Video at http://www.myfoxorlando.com/myfox/pages/News/Detail?contentId=5837588&version=4&locale=EN-US&layoutCode=TSTY&pageId=3.2.1

The Fox link also had this information: Melissa Dean claims she has lost control of her four sons, ages 13,15,16 and 17, so she moved out to live with her boyfriend only going home to drop off food.

The mother:


1 posted on 02/21/2008 7:54:05 AM PST by Pyro7480
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To: Pyro7480

Where are we going? And why am I in this handbasket?


2 posted on 02/21/2008 7:56:08 AM PST by ClearCase_guy
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To: Pyro7480

I guess it just plain silly to ask, “Where’s the father?”...............


3 posted on 02/21/2008 7:57:26 AM PST by Red Badger ( We don't have science, but we do have consensus.......)
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More info from Fed-up mom goes 'on strike,' is arrested

Police have gone to the home 12 times since September 2007. Wright noted he has gone four times, and that the children know him by name. Before Dean was arrested early Tuesday morning, Wright asked one of the boys what it would take to stop the fighting and he told the officer he wanted his mother to spend more time at home.

Once, one of the boys was picked up by authorities and she wanted him held overnight at a juvenile detention center, but officials told her to come pick him up. After that, the report said, she took no further steps to get help for him or his siblings.

Police were called to the home Monday because two of the boys were fighting over a computer cord and one had run to the neighbor's home. The day before, Wright said, police went there because one of the boys broke a sliding glass door with his fist.

She admitted she spends nights at a friend's home because the constant scrapping kept her up at night and she works mornings as a manager at a Walgreens. One of the boys told Wright that she spends the night at her boyfriend's home.

5 posted on 02/21/2008 7:58:02 AM PST by Pyro7480 ("Jesu, Jesu, Jesu, esto mihi Jesus" -St. Ralph Sherwin's last words at Tyburn)
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To: Gabz

mommy ping?


6 posted on 02/21/2008 7:58:18 AM PST by tioga (Beware: conservative with back to the wall. Proceed with extreme caution.)
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To: Pyro7480

After seeing the “kid’s” behavior I would go on strike too...with a Louisville slugger.


7 posted on 02/21/2008 7:58:23 AM PST by cripplecreek (Just call me M.O.M. (Maverick Opposed to McCain.))
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To: Pyro7480

Of course if she’d taken the measures that needed to be taken to prevent these boys from becoming “out of control”, they’d have been hauled off by DCF a long time ago, and would now be demonstrating their out-of-controlness within the Florida DCF’s notorious foster care system, instead of in the house they’ve driven their mother out of.


8 posted on 02/21/2008 7:59:18 AM PST by GovernmentShrinker
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To: Pyro7480

I seem to recall my mom doing something like this when my brother and I were in our teens. But we didn’t call the cops.


10 posted on 02/21/2008 8:02:12 AM PST by squidly
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To: Pyro7480
The mom lost this fight years ago. You don't have uncontrollable teenagers without first failing to control them as toddlers, preschoolers, etc..

Children learn to respect and obey their parents at a young age, or they don't learn it at all.

11 posted on 02/21/2008 8:02:16 AM PST by TChris ("if somebody agrees with me 70% of the time, rather than 100%, that doesnít make him my enemy." -RR)
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To: najida

I’m calling it guilty. ;^)


12 posted on 02/21/2008 8:02:38 AM PST by tioga (Beware: conservative with back to the wall. Proceed with extreme caution.)
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To: Pyro7480

I watched the Fox report this morning, and those boys are out of control. They aren’t little kids. They are man-sized, and went after the reporter (on tape). IMHO, these ‘kids’ need a Drill Seargent to put them in line (and keep them there.)


13 posted on 02/21/2008 8:02:53 AM PST by yorkie
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To: Pyro7480

“I had these 4 kids. Now who is going to help me with them? I’m waiting.”.


14 posted on 02/21/2008 8:03:33 AM PST by AppyPappy (If you aren't part of the solution, there is good money to be made prolonging the problem.)
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To: Pyro7480

Another successful single mom story.


15 posted on 02/21/2008 8:04:32 AM PST by manic4organic (Send a care package through USO today.)
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To: Pyro7480

This is what happens when a single woman tries to raise four boys without a father. They will all probably wind up in prison.


16 posted on 02/21/2008 8:04:48 AM PST by monday
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To: Pyro7480

43? Rough life!


17 posted on 02/21/2008 8:06:02 AM PST by jaydubya2
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To: Pyro7480
Once, one of the boys was picked up by authorities and she wanted him held overnight at a juvenile detention center, but officials told her to come pick him up. After that, the report said, she took no further steps to get help for him or his siblings.

In other words, the state government made it clear to her that they were not interested in helping teaching these kids a lesson that wrong actions have unpleasant consequences. And it's safe to say that the boys have been attending Florida public schools, where they've been getting the same message that wildly out-of-control behavior entails no negative consequences. And now the state wants to blame the mother because the boys behavior has gotten so bad that she can't live in the home with them anymore.

She admitted she spends nights at a friend's home because the constant scrapping kept her up at night and she works mornings as a manager at a Walgreens.

In other words, she wants to work for a living, and doesn't think the boys should be permitted to prevent that.

18 posted on 02/21/2008 8:06:46 AM PST by GovernmentShrinker
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To: Pyro7480

One simple question: where is dad?

This same sad story is repeated thousands of times in the inner cities of America every day.


19 posted on 02/21/2008 8:09:08 AM PST by SoFloFreeper
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To: squidly

My Catholic mother-in-law had 6 boys, and precious little help controlling them from their dad. One night (when they were still young), she was at her wit’s end with their squabbling. So she went outside to the freshly dug up septic tank, poured gasoline into it and lit it. She went back inside and told them the devil was on his way up to get them, just look outside.

The boys never forgot that, and laugh about it today. They turned out OK, too.


20 posted on 02/21/2008 8:09:42 AM PST by MJemison
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To: Red Badger
I guess it just plain silly to ask, “Where’s the father?”...............

Exactly. Her husband, the boys' father, who lives at home with them, should take a direct approach.

22 posted on 02/21/2008 8:12:16 AM PST by Responsibility2nd (John McCain. 2008ís version of Bob Dole.)
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To: Pyro7480

Now that she has been arrested, will the boys go into foster care? Maybe the state can send them to military school instead of paying foster parents. That might straighten them up.


23 posted on 02/21/2008 8:13:07 AM PST by keepitreal
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So she went outside to the freshly dug up septic tank, poured gasoline into it and lit it.

"That's the second biggest flaming bag of poo on the doorstep I've ever seen!"

24 posted on 02/21/2008 8:13:37 AM PST by Alex Murphy ("Therefore the prudent keep silent at that time, for it is an evil time." - Amos 5:13)
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To: Morgana

Hey, I’m supporting her. I don’t think the state has any business arresting or charging her when they refuse to arrest and charge the boys when they engage in criminal behavior.

P.S. Nobody is going to hire these kids. The state should have hauled them off to one of those juvy boot camps a long time ago.


25 posted on 02/21/2008 8:13:41 AM PST by GovernmentShrinker
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To: tioga; najida

Guilty???

Ohhhh you are gonna get it when najida shows up!

(I’d hit it. With a Louisville Slugger!)


26 posted on 02/21/2008 8:15:25 AM PST by Responsibility2nd (John McCain. 2008ís version of Bob Dole.)
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nah.....private joke.


28 posted on 02/21/2008 8:16:44 AM PST by tioga (Beware: conservative with back to the wall. Proceed with extreme caution.)
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To: yorkie
They are man-sized, and went after the reporter (on tape). IMHO, these ‘kids’ need a Drill Seargent to put them in line (and keep them there.)

Now, now.

Let's not over-react when we all know that the boys just need a "timeout" to get them straightened out.

< /sarcasm > Because I learned all to well that no matter how obvious, NEVER forget to use the < /sarcasm > tag.

29 posted on 02/21/2008 8:18:23 AM PST by N. Theknow (Kennedys: Can't drive, can't fly, can't ski, can't skipper a boat; but they know what's best for us)
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To: Morgana

Would you really let one of these kids onto your property with a can of gasoline?? Be my guest. Sure ain’t gonna happen at MY home!


31 posted on 02/21/2008 8:21:24 AM PST by GovernmentShrinker
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Teenaged boys are hardly boys — except emotionally. I like the Louisville therapy idea.

Mom may have contributed to the situation in a number of ways but sheesh no need to beat her up.


32 posted on 02/21/2008 8:22:33 AM PST by biscuit jane
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The neighbors aren't helping either:

"All they need is just love and supervision," said Gene Pennington, who lives across the street from the family.

So, Gene, how about YOU go over there and love them and supervise them.

33 posted on 02/21/2008 8:23:24 AM PST by GovernmentShrinker
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To: TChris
The mom lost this fight years ago. You don't have uncontrollable teenagers without first failing to control them as toddlers, preschoolers, etc..

That's a lot of kids to take care of while they're young (4 in 5 years). Parenting skills do not come naturally. They have to be learned. She probably threw up her hands very early in their lives because they were more than she could handle.

34 posted on 02/21/2008 8:24:57 AM PST by DallasDeb ((a.k.a. USAFA2006Mom!))
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To: Red Badger
I guess it just plain silly to ask, “Where’s the father?”...............

Maybe 'Dad' decided to dump her and run off with a SYT and left no way for her to get in contact with him. Wouldn't be the first time.

35 posted on 02/21/2008 8:25:13 AM PST by Ol' Dan Tucker (After six years of George W. Bush I long for the honesty and sincerity of the Clinton Administration)
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To: Pyro7480

I think she’s on to something here. Isn’t the outcome of most Florida child neglect cases to remove the children?


36 posted on 02/21/2008 8:26:43 AM PST by 386wt (Be free and don't die!)
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To: Pyro7480

Just whom does she expect to “help” raise her sons after she allowed them to get out of control?

Sounds like: I created a problem; now it’s yours.


37 posted on 02/21/2008 8:27:32 AM PST by tennteacher (Hunter Conservative)
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Mom may have contributed to the situation in a number of ways but sheesh no need to beat her up.

Exactly. It seems that of the two parents, only Mom is the one who did the right thing.

How do we know that Dad didn't dump her for a SYT and took off for Tahiti leaving no forwarding address?

38 posted on 02/21/2008 8:28:42 AM PST by Ol' Dan Tucker (After six years of George W. Bush I long for the honesty and sincerity of the Clinton Administration)
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"we all know that the boys just need a "timeout" to get them straightened out."

Good point. (lol!) Or, maybe a cut in their allowance? /s

39 posted on 02/21/2008 8:29:51 AM PST by yorkie
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so she moved out to live with her boyfriend only going home to drop off food.

did you happen to notice that she left to live with her BOYFRIEND? could be she should have been concentrating on raising those boys instead of dating.

40 posted on 02/21/2008 8:30:35 AM PST by xsmommy
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To: DallasDeb
That's a lot of kids to take care of while they're young (4 in 5 years). Parenting skills do not come naturally. They have to be learned. She probably threw up her hands very early in their lives because they were more than she could handle.

Very good point.

The fact that she had to do it with the father gone is certainly a factor in her defense.

41 posted on 02/21/2008 8:32:59 AM PST by TChris ("if somebody agrees with me 70% of the time, rather than 100%, that doesnít make him my enemy." -RR)
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“She can not make them behave at that age!”

You’ve got that right!


42 posted on 02/21/2008 8:33:30 AM PST by acoulterfan
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To: Pyro7480

WOW...glad I don’t live in Ocala...43 looks like 63 down there...


43 posted on 02/21/2008 8:34:36 AM PST by oust the louse (Terrorists are salivating over a Clinton or Obama White House.)
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To: Responsibility2nd; tioga

LOL!
VERY inside joke. Besides, tioga’s my friend and I respect her.


44 posted on 02/21/2008 8:35:39 AM PST by najida (I am so grateful that stupid isn't contagious.)
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To: tennteacher

She didn’t create the problem by herself. No way are those boys behaving like angels in school, and they clearly haven’t gotten appropriate discipline there. Given that the state is running the schools, the state gets plenty of the blame for how these boys have turned out.


45 posted on 02/21/2008 8:43:33 AM PST by GovernmentShrinker
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To: DallasDeb

You posted: The mom lost this fight years ago. You don’t have uncontrollable teenagers without first failing to control them as toddlers, preschoolers, etc..
That’s a lot of kids to take care of while they’re young (4 in 5 years). Parenting skills do not come naturally. They have to be learned. She probably threw up her hands very early in their lives because they were more than she could handle.
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This woman has obviously made a number of mistakes. 4 kids, no apparent idea of how to raise them, poor choice of father(s). Teenage boys should be able to take care of themselves at that age, not sure about the neglect charge.

I guess I should be thankful for my two well-behaved 16 year olds, and a wife who makes sure they stay that way. I know some behavior is “hard-wired” into the kids, but it is hard to believe better parenting couldn’t have mitigated some of these problems.


46 posted on 02/21/2008 8:43:46 AM PST by NCLaw441
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She said she supervised them by making frequent calls and bringing meals to the house.

She didn't just go on strike? She moved out? Hmmm. What kind of parent does that, anyway?

48 posted on 02/21/2008 8:45:20 AM PST by LouAvul
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Hmmm, so what you are saying is that it takes a village to raise a child. I’m sorry to see your role model, Hillary, losing to Obama so badly.


49 posted on 02/21/2008 8:46:20 AM PST by SengirV
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To: najida

aw, that’s sweet - it’s mutual!


50 posted on 02/21/2008 8:47:32 AM PST by tioga (Beware: conservative with back to the wall. Proceed with extreme caution.)
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