When that scandal first came out, she accepted all of the "I'm sorry " calls.
Posted on 03/11/2008 5:30:41 PM PDT by Cecily
Dr. Laura Schlessinger has never been one to shrink from controversy, and she leaped headlong into one on Monday when she said that if a husband cheats, his wife may share some of the blame.
“When the wife does not focus in on the needs and the feelings, sexually, personally, to make him feel like a man, to make him feel like a success, to make him feel like her hero, he’s very susceptible to the charm of some other woman making him feel what he needs,” the popular psychologist and radio personality said.
More commonly known as just “Dr. Laura,” Schlessinger made the remarks while participating in one of several panel discussions on TODAY dealing with the breaking news that New York Gov. Eliot Spitzer had been connected to a high-priced prostitution ring.
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Watching a few episodes of COPS tends to support Dr. Laura’s theory.
I think wifes should not use their husbands sexual need as leverage to control him.
I think wifes should just meet their husbands needs without trying to make him into her gigolo.
Wow... It’s one thing to stand up for the virtue of forgiveness it’s another completely to blame the women for the failings of their husband. (I too wonder how she feels about wives who cheat — if it’s the husband’s fault?)
In any marriage there are two sides to a problem, and the breakdown of a marriage can certainly have aspects that both partners share responsibility for. However, to blame another person for their spouse cheating, ridiculous!
The cheating spouse MADE A DECISION, a BAD decision, but it was THEIR DECISION ALONE!!! This gives the cheating spouse an “out”, a way to avoid taking responsibility for their own failures! Her ideas of who is at fault take away from the cheating spouse the necessary guilt and shame that leads them (sometimes) to true understanding of their mistake, truthfully and humbly seeking forgiveness for cheating despite what problems may be in the marriage — a necessary step if the marriage is to be saved at all! It’s about understanding the commitment to working the problems out, and not straying from the marriage in an attempt to avoid facing the problems in the first place! Without acknowledgement by the cheating spouse that their actions were their responsibility there is no hope that their behavior will change!
This is the kind of thinking that keeps women (and men) in abusive relationships! Thinking that the abuse is somehow their fault. And cheating is a form of emotional abuse, IMO.
How irresponsible for her to push this idea forth. As I said it’s one thing to acknowledge that when a spouse is cheating there are probably problems on both sides that need to be dealt with, another thing completely to blame the non-cheating spouse! UGH!
As usual, Dr. Laura is right; no one would bat an eyelash if she reversed the sexes. There is no excuse for adultery, and there’s also no excuse for being a bad spouse.
I guess abused women should just stop pissing off their husbands. Who knew that the solutions to life’s complicated problems could be so easy?!
Not wanting to pry, but how often IS that? You don't have to answer if you don't want to.
Funny how Dr. Laura knows more than God. If both were to blame for adultry, there would be no provision for divorce IMO.
Key word here is MAY. That's quite a gamble.
She was on Hannity’s radio show today. She didn’t say anything I disagreed with.
sorry, thought I did read it all, but guess I misunderstood when I read it.
You nailed it Ken!
If the old man ain’t getting what he wants at home, He is driven by instinct to obtain what he desires elsewhere!
The true man works his whole life to control those urges because he will be destroyed if he doesn’t!
Elliot Spitzer stepped into a trap set for all males!
This is the f****** you get, for the f****** you got!
You weren’t strong enough to resist!
When that scandal first came out, she accepted all of the "I'm sorry " calls.
Ha, wouldn’t you like to know! LOL!
“Ooh, you’re my hero!” said the prostitute to the schmuck.
My husband was just saying the same thing yesterday... I was remarking at how the women standing by these men at these press conferences were being humiliated. My husband said, “It’s not like what you think”. He too, thinks that most of these marriages are for political reasons - that the spouses are also getting a high off the power/money, etc... And, that’s why they stay and put up with this type of behavior. If they weren’t getting something out of it, they wouldn’t stay...
It’s Oprah’s fault - teaching women that they have to take care of themselves first, that it’s all about them, that their needs come first, etc and all the ‘you go girl’! junk that follows.
Marriages are hard work, but they’re about equality and selflessness. Giving to each other, not looking out for the individual.
So much for the effect adultery has on the children in a family too, in Dr. Laura’s book. Hubby’s “needs” rule supreme!
If Dr. Laura is so big on building up her man, why didn’t she take her husband’s name, and why does their son have her surname, and not Lew Bishop’s? This repulsive loon is such a phony it isn’t even funny.
Then again the national epidemic of ballbusting has its consquences. The women's magazines and the sitcoms need to ease up on teaching that to women.
More than likely there will be a substance abuse angle to the Governor's prostitute addiction. Sounds like obsessive compulsive behavior and fits in with the Type A personality, low-grade anger, fits of rage, aggression. If there was a problem in the bedroom they should have tried talking about it.
Nothing is sexier than my husband folding laundry...or gulp..when he comes in from doing yardwork all hot and sweaty....OMG!
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