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Dr. Laura: Women Share the Blame for Cheating Men. (See, it's mostly her fault).
MSNBC ^ | 3-11-08 | Mike Celezic

Posted on 03/12/2008 4:55:51 AM PDT by ciocia

Dr. Laura Schlessinger has never been one to shrink from controversy, and she leaped headlong into one on Monday when she said that if a husband cheats, his wife may share some of the blame.

“When the wife does not focus in on the needs and the feelings, sexually, personally, to make him feel like a man, to make him feel like a success, to make him feel like her hero, he’s very susceptible to the charm of some other woman making him feel what he needs,” the popular psychologist and radio personality said.

More commonly known as just “Dr. Laura,” Schlessinger made the remarks while participating in one of several panel discussions on TODAY dealing with the breaking news that New York Gov. Eliot Spitzer had been connected to a high-priced prostitution ring.

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What a crock!
1 posted on 03/12/2008 4:55:56 AM PDT by ciocia
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To: ciocia

Well that settles it. Now all I have to do is explain it to my wife.


2 posted on 03/12/2008 4:57:05 AM PDT by Long Island Pete
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To: ciocia

It’s all Hillary’s fault.


3 posted on 03/12/2008 4:57:33 AM PDT by WakeUpAndVote (Pork, just bring the hot sauce!)
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To: ciocia

Wow, Dr Laura isn’t doing any favors to womanhood with that statement. It seems to me that a man will cheat even if he has the most rewarding marriage (sexually, emotionally, etc).


4 posted on 03/12/2008 4:58:03 AM PDT by Slapshot68
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To: ciocia
When the wife does not focus in on the needs and the feelings

The converse when women cheat is often cited as well guys.

I have mixed feelings on this, it doesn't excuse the behavior, but it may explain it. I know a lot of guys who work long hours who find themselves in a divorce after a few years.
5 posted on 03/12/2008 5:00:15 AM PDT by Dominick ("Freedom consists not in doing what we like, but in having the right to do what we ought." - JP II)
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To: ciocia
What a crock!

Not really. Most of my married friends essentially got sex cut off within 1-2 years of getting married.

When the options are celibacy, cheating, or divorce, many choose to have affairs.

6 posted on 03/12/2008 5:00:31 AM PDT by peyton randolph (Vote for the Dim in the primaries that leads to a brokered convention and chaos)
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To: ciocia

Jake Blues: No I didn’t. Honest... I ran out of gas. I, I had a flat tire. I didn’t have enough money for cab fare. My tux didn’t come back from the cleaners. An old friend came in from out of town. Someone stole my car. There was an earthquake. A terrible flood. Locusts. IT WASN’T MY FAULT, I SWEAR TO GOD.


7 posted on 03/12/2008 5:01:22 AM PDT by ConservaTexan (February 6, 1911)
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To: ciocia

Obviously, Silda has let herself go. Can you blame him for straying repeatedly on that semblance of a woman? And she should have acquiesed to his "unsafe" and kinky preferences, in order to keep him happy and satisfied. Because that's what marriage is all about, isn't it?

Do I really need a sarcasm tag?

8 posted on 03/12/2008 5:02:04 AM PDT by shezza (WWRD?)
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To: ciocia
What a crock!

Dr. Self Righteous Indignation speaks!

Utterly amazing that this woman has risen to the level that she has......

9 posted on 03/12/2008 5:06:35 AM PDT by Thermalseeker (Silence is not always a Sign of Wisdom, but Babbling is ever a Mark of Folly. - B. Franklin)
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To: ciocia

My Wife told me not to expect her to join me in front of reporters during my *apology*.

She said I wouldn’t likely be there either.


10 posted on 03/12/2008 5:06:53 AM PDT by wolfcreek (Hank Hill's Dad, Cruella and Curious George=Loony Toons)
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To: ciocia
he’s very susceptible to the charm of some other woman making him feel what he needs,”

That might be true for a mistress, but at $4000 a pop, it ain't her "charm" he's after.

11 posted on 03/12/2008 5:07:10 AM PDT by Izzy Dunne (Hello, I'm a TAGLINE virus. Please help me spread by copying me into YOUR tag line.)
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To: peyton randolph
What a crock!

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Not really. Most of my married friends essentially got sex cut off within 1-2 years of getting married.

When the options are celibacy, cheating, or divorce, many choose to have affairs.

LOL. An even bigger crock.

12 posted on 03/12/2008 5:08:09 AM PDT by evad (.I.)
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To: ciocia

There may be cases in which the mechanism ‘Dr. Laura’ proposes is at work, but I think in general men who cheat on their wives are just lizards. (It’s called the ‘Fall of Man’: humanity having made ourselves more like the brute beasts, subject to irrational passions, rather than ruling over them, through disobedience to God’s command.)


13 posted on 03/12/2008 5:09:07 AM PDT by The_Reader_David (And when they behead your own people in the wars which are to come, then you will know. . .)
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To: ciocia
What a crock!

I'd have to agree with the Dr., but it of course applies to both sexes equally.

A spouse that emotionally or sexually spurns the other has provided an impetus for that person to go somewhere else.

I've seen men that treat their wives like garbage and nasty emasculating women that belittle their husbands with every action. I think it is obvious that those types of spouses bare a great deal of responsibility if their spouse looks elsewhere.

That does not justify cheating (there are more honest ways to confront the problem), but its a contributing factor. Often a large one.

This principle applies to many things. Its wrong to be slothful at work, but a demeaning dishonest boss can bear a lot of the blame for the employees taking every opportunity to stop working.

14 posted on 03/12/2008 5:09:15 AM PDT by SampleMan (We are a free and industrious people, socialist nannies do not become us.)
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To: ciocia
The problem with this reasoning is that it implies that blame can be doled out like slices of a pie. Everyone gets a percentage of blame. But blame is more like the mark from an ink stamp. There are copies of lessor or greater degrees. If two drunks are driving down the road and they cross the center line. Are they 50% to blame for the accident. If they individually hit a lamppost does that now make them 100% to blame for each accident. No.

They are each 100% to blame for any coming accident.

If a man cheats on his wife he is to blame 100%. If a women withholds sex from her husband, she may not be 100% to blame. But she has blame. Her blame does not diminish his. Its her blame.

15 posted on 03/12/2008 5:10:20 AM PDT by poinq
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To: ciocia

I can’t wait to show this to my wife.


16 posted on 03/12/2008 5:11:13 AM PDT by doodad
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To: Slapshot68

Some wives also grant or deny sex as a system of reward and punishment, obviating other dynamics in the marriage.

The principle at work, whether or not explicitly understood or acknowledged is: “If I can give pleasure, I can withhold pleasure”.

Base manipulation.

Cheating on the marriage vows is immoral, but then cheating on those vows sometimes happens in very subtle ways, creating a “victim”.

And no, I do not hold a LCSW certification, nor have played one on TV.


17 posted on 03/12/2008 5:11:17 AM PDT by banjo joe (Work the angles. Show all work.)
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To: Slapshot68
Wow, Dr Laura isn’t doing any favors to womanhood with that statement. It seems to me that a man will cheat even if he has the most rewarding marriage (sexually, emotionally, etc).

Its a matter of percentages. There a scummy spouses that will cheat no matter what. Then there are decent spouses that give in to temptation that they otherwise wouldn't have, if their spouse were a decent person to them.

18 posted on 03/12/2008 5:11:21 AM PDT by SampleMan (We are a free and industrious people, socialist nannies do not become us.)
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To: ciocia

“Dr. Laura: Women Share the Blame for Cheating Men.”

Sounds good to me. My wife seems to have a different opinion though.


19 posted on 03/12/2008 5:11:38 AM PDT by dmw (Aren't you glad you use common sense? Don't you wish everybody did?)
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To: ciocia

The headline is “...Women Share the Blame...”

The story quote is “wife may share some of the blame”

Operative word being “may”

A big difference.


20 posted on 03/12/2008 5:12:04 AM PDT by PurpleMan
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To: najida

We’re on round 2...


21 posted on 03/12/2008 5:12:10 AM PDT by Hoodlum91 (I support global warming.)
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To: ciocia

We’re operating on the premise (Dr. Laura included) that this is a marriage. It seems more a business agreement with sex and progeny. This is no marriage in terms I understand. Few political marriages are.


22 posted on 03/12/2008 5:13:40 AM PDT by timsbella (Mark Steyn for Prime Minister of Canada! (Steve's won my vote in the meantime))
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To: banjo joe

“Some wives also grant or deny sex as a system of reward and punishment”

It’s important to determine this practice BEFORE saying, “I do.” lol


23 posted on 03/12/2008 5:14:32 AM PDT by Slapshot68
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To: ciocia

I was wondering how long it would take for Silda to be blamed for her husband’s lack of moral character.


24 posted on 03/12/2008 5:14:45 AM PDT by dforest
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To: ciocia

Nobody is responsible for someone elses behavior or choices. Dr. Laura is full of it.


25 posted on 03/12/2008 5:14:54 AM PDT by beandog (Quit serving me mud and telling me it's chocolate pie.)
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To: Slapshot68
"It seems to me that a man will cheat even if he has the most rewarding marriage (sexually, emotionally, etc). "

Of course, we're all different but I would suggest that if a man cheats, it is because there is something, somewhere, lacking in his marriage. Seems pretty obvious. This is not to say that the wife is to blame, but he is seeking something he can't get at home, be it, emotional or physical. The same can be said for a cheating wife.

I would even go further to say that if there is cheating going on, the spouse has to have some kind of sense of it. It shouldn't come as a total shock. If there is something missing in that marriage, the spouse should be able to sense it also unless she/he is an idiot living in total denial. People who think that their spouse would never, EVER cheat are the same that think their children are perfect angels. Not to say that their children aren't perfect angels, but they are setting themselves up for an awful big letdown if and when they get that call at 2am to come down to the station and bail their little angel out.

26 posted on 03/12/2008 5:16:26 AM PDT by Hatteras
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To: ciocia
Some people are so incredibly self-absorbed that you can never ever meet their needs, not matter how hard you try. They just take and never give. So the other spouse doesn't necessarily share the blame for anything other than bad judgment in getting married in the first place.

However Silda strikes me as Hillary Jr.

27 posted on 03/12/2008 5:16:48 AM PDT by meowmeow (In Loving Memory of Our Dear Viking Kitty (1987-2006))
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To: SampleMan
I've seen men that treat their wives like garbage and nasty emasculating women that belittle their husbands with every action. I think it is obvious that those types of spouses bare a great deal of responsibility if their spouse looks elsewhere.

Well said, expands upon the point I was feebly attempting earlier.

28 posted on 03/12/2008 5:16:55 AM PDT by banjo joe (Work the angles. Show all work.)
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To: Slapshot68
"Wow, Dr Laura isn’t doing any favors to womanhood with that statement. It seems to me that a man will cheat even if he has the most rewarding marriage (sexually, emotionally, etc)."

And really, she isn't doing any favors to "manhood" either. Seems that she regards men as childlike and perpetually immature. According to Dr. Laura, we are all candidates for "Eliot Spitzerhood." I happen to have a little bit higher regard for myself and believe that my wife does as well.

29 posted on 03/12/2008 5:17:32 AM PDT by davisfh (Islam is a mental illness)
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To: ciocia

This is sickening.....


30 posted on 03/12/2008 5:17:36 AM PDT by Fawn
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To: Slapshot68
It seems to me that a man will cheat even if he has the most rewarding marriage (sexually, emotionally, etc).

You might be right, but I maintain that women who are shrews, spendthrifts, substance abusers or have let themselves become disheveled physically or in the bedroom, often drive their husbands astray.

No one, male or female, can totally hold back the ravages of aging, but people who are overweight, have poor dental or personal hygiene, or become detached or confrontational due to substance abuse or mental illness are giving their spouses every excuse to look elsewhere for what their marriage is lacking.

31 posted on 03/12/2008 5:19:04 AM PDT by CholeraJoe (I'm just here to mosh!)
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To: Slapshot68

I heard a man call a talk show yesterday ...he was 35 and he uses call girls at least once a month. He said it’s his wifes fault for not being pretty and thin enough for him anymore. He said it’s her obligation to be the best she can be because men have ‘needs’. I wish I could of talked to him.


32 posted on 03/12/2008 5:19:08 AM PDT by Fawn
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To: ciocia

Absolutely!


33 posted on 03/12/2008 5:19:12 AM PDT by CDHart ("It's too late to work within the system and too early to shoot the b@#$%^&s."--Claire Wolfe)
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To: ciocia
he’s very susceptible to the charm of some other woman making him feel what he needs

And in Spitzer's case, able to pay $5000/hr to "feel what he needs."

34 posted on 03/12/2008 5:20:41 AM PDT by dawn53
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He obviously wasn’t looking for love.

He wasn’t even looking for a complement.

The “performance” she provided was paid for in cash - nothing heartfelt from her it at all.

It seems liberal men with great power feel they are entitled to sex with other women not their wife. That they are superior and that everyone else is there to serve them. That they are the law.


35 posted on 03/12/2008 5:21:22 AM PDT by DB
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To: Slapshot68
It’s important to determine this practice BEFORE saying, “I do.” lol

Har! Eggxactly! Often the One Who must be obeyed has operated on this principle all her life -- doesn't realize it, and considers it NOP -- normal operating principle -- and probably observed it at work in her parent's marriage.

36 posted on 03/12/2008 5:22:39 AM PDT by banjo joe (Work the angles. Show all work.)
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To: ciocia

Maybe. OTOH, maybe the husband is just scum.


37 posted on 03/12/2008 5:23:50 AM PDT by Tribune7 (How is inflicting pain and death on an innocent, helpless human being for profit, moral?)
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To: Fawn
“I heard a man call a talk show yesterday ...he was 35 and he uses call girls at least once a month. He said it’s his wife's fault for not being pretty and thin enough for him anymore. He said it’s her obligation to be the best she can be because men have ‘needs’. I wish I could of talked to him.”

Talk?

He's hopeless. There's no love there.

The wife needs to leave and find someone who will love her back. There's no hope of that where she's at now.

38 posted on 03/12/2008 5:24:17 AM PDT by DB
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To: ciocia
Reminds me of what Congressman Dick Armey said during the Clinton scandals. Someone asked him what his wife's response would be if she found out he had done what Clinton had done.

To paraphrase his response......

"I would be looking up from a pool of blood and her first question would be 'How do I reload this thing?'"

39 posted on 03/12/2008 5:24:34 AM PDT by TexasNative2000 (Is this tagline governed by McCain-Feingold?)
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To: peyton randolph

What the heck did they do? Or not do?


40 posted on 03/12/2008 5:25:06 AM PDT by Little Ray (It is time to drink the KoolAid: McCain for President!)
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To: DB
It seems liberal men with great power feel they are entitled to sex with other women not their wife.

Are you saying that powerful Conservative men never stray? Two words - Larry Craig.

41 posted on 03/12/2008 5:25:14 AM PDT by CholeraJoe (I'm just here to mosh!)
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To: WakeUpAndVote
I used to wonder if Hillary was the way she is because Bill does the things he does, or does Bill do the things he does because Hillary is the way she is.

I pretty sure it's the former, now.

Slick is scum and destroys everything he touches.

42 posted on 03/12/2008 5:26:26 AM PDT by Tribune7 (How is inflicting pain and death on an innocent, helpless human being for profit, moral?)
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To: banjo joe
Some wives also grant or deny sex as a system of reward and punishment

Had one of those. That's much of the reason she's been an Ex for almost ten years.

43 posted on 03/12/2008 5:28:39 AM PDT by ASA Vet (Do we want Huma answering the red phone at 3 a.m.?)
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To: SampleMan

Excellent comments.


44 posted on 03/12/2008 5:30:24 AM PDT by clyde asbury (Resistance is fertile)
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To: ciocia

A wife needs to make a man feel like a hero? And if she doesn’t, then it is okay for him to cheat? What nonsense!


45 posted on 03/12/2008 5:30:31 AM PDT by Red in Blue PA (Truth : Liberals :: Kryptonite : Superman)
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To: Fawn
I wish I could of talked to him.

Why would you want to talk to a jerk like him?

46 posted on 03/12/2008 5:32:30 AM PDT by ASA Vet (Do we want Huma answering the red phone at 3 a.m.?)
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To: DB
He obviously wasn’t looking for love.

Correct, he was looking for an act his wife wouldn't do.

47 posted on 03/12/2008 5:34:01 AM PDT by ASA Vet (Do we want Huma answering the red phone at 3 a.m.?)
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To: Long Island Pete
Well that settles it. Now all I have to do is explain it to my wife.

Sure...sure..whatever you say. Now if you'll excuse me, I have to go arrange for her bail.

48 posted on 03/12/2008 5:35:16 AM PDT by yankeedame ("Oh, I can take it but I'd much rather dish it out.")
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To: PurpleMan
The headline is “...Women Share the Blame...”
The story quote is “wife may share some of the blame”
Operative word being “may”
A big difference.

Worth repeating.

49 posted on 03/12/2008 5:35:42 AM PDT by clyde asbury (Resistance is fertile)
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To: banjo joe
You are so right. I know someone who basically had another baby to keep her husband, and almost died as a result. Now she uses that as a way to get whatever she wants (and a way to garner attention). He, realizing how much he loves her after her near-death whatever, is obliging her in every way he can. Oh, and by the way, she and the 'save the marriage' child do not get along. I wonder why?

There's no denying women CAN be manipulative in a marriage. But does it justify cheating? I think a good kick to the curb is better than fooling around.

50 posted on 03/12/2008 5:36:13 AM PDT by rintense (You don't advance conservatism by becoming more liberal. Piss off McCain and Huck!)
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