I do not like the T-shirt either. I think that a woman who wants support can find it in other ways. HOWEVER, I was taken aback by your very angry attitude towards rape victims. Why? I was raped. It was more than 20 years ago, and I knew my attacker. We had been out that evening. He KNEW I was not interested in sex with him — he was simply a friend of my roomates boyfriend— and one other time he tried to force himself on me and I was able to stop him. That time he apologized and blamed drinking. The second time a few weeks later I could not stop him. He was determined and stronger than I was. Should I feel ashamed? No! Did I? YES!!! I never told anyone for many years. Then I tried to tell my first husband after he playfully held me down on the bed to kiss me and I freaked out. That husband told me “get over it...I would not hurt you”. No support there! I do not have a great solution to the situation I admit. I still know that woman need to feel safe and secure when/if they report it and printing their names in newspapers will not make that happen. Woman are still treated as if they “caused” the rape and that is wrong. Publishing names would be even worse. Personally I think we should try punishing the women who LIE instead and printing those names. It might stop the abuse of false reporting.
You posted an awful lot. Let me respond.
1. Welcome to Free Republic.
2. I am sorry for the ordeal you went through. As a man I will never know the intensity a woman feels after a rape. Men can be raped also, but I'm told women deal with it harder.
3. My angry attitude???? Sorry, I'm not angry. I don't have an axe to grind. I have no experience in any of the nasty aspects of rape. But I do know that false accusations of rape account for about 1 out of 3 reported cases.
And drugs and/or alcohol are usually involved. As they were in your case. Bad decision lead to rape.
4. Why is rape the only crime where the accuser get anonymity? Studies show that women are empowered only if they come forward. They are able to deal with the guilt and shame.
and one other time he tried to force himself on me and I was able to stop him. That time he apologized and blamed drinking. The second time a few weeks later I could not stop him.
You were in this creep's company A SECOND TIME? Are you for real?
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