http://whatmenthinkofwomen.blogspot.com/2007/10/predatory-female.html
*chuckle*
Posted on 05/07/2008 11:07:19 AM PDT by buccaneer81
Get what you want this Mother's Day. Twist the ex's arm
REBECCA ECKLER
From Tuesday's Globe and Mail
May 6, 2008 at 9:05 AM EDT
On behalf of my four-year-old, who has a Yahoo account in her name, I recently sent an e-mail to her father, who lives in Alberta.
"Hi Daddy," I typed, as my daughter was fast asleep. "Mommy has been talking about Mother's Day. I only have 143 pennies in my piggy bank. She's the best mommy ever. She's been pretty exhausted. I'd like to get her something nice. Can you help? Love you."
It was a slightly pathetic, but possibly cute, way of reminding my daughter's father about Mother's Day.
On what is perhaps the Hallmark holiday of all Hallmark holidays, what's a single mother to do to get some sort of recognition? It's certainly not going to come from a child who still licks glue and is too young to understand the concept.
But modern single mothers, whether they've chosen to be single, still get along with the father of their children, or have no contact with the father at all, are finding new ways to make Mother's Day special (and, in some cases, more fruitful).
All mothers of young children rely on gifts made by someone else. For the single mom, feeling the need for something more than a crumpled card in a knapsack - something that comes with a gift receipt - presents a particular dilemma. You can't very well hand over $20 to your three year-old to do your shopping.
So some have learned to lobby on their own behalf.
"I've drilled it into him," says Toronto-based Vanessa Craft, the author of Out of Character, about her three-year-old daughter's father, who lives in England.
"Growing up, Mother's Day, like most holidays, had always been recognized in my house. So it's a big deal. I even remind my daughter's father that on her birthday I should also get something, for the fact that I gave birth," Ms. Craft says.
"Her dad knows to make me cards, at the very least, on behalf of our daughter," says Ms. Craft, adding, "I've never had a bad Mother's Day being a single mom."
Carolyn Weaver, the popular television host of five book shows, made the decision to become a single mother via a donor at a fertility clinic, so she has no relationship with her son's biological father.
Last year was her first Mother's Day with her son, Throne.
"In my 30s and having not met the right man in the right circumstances, I decided to try to become a mother. I realized continuing to wait for all the stars to be aligned in the Hollywood movie sort of way was a risk I wasn't willing to take," she says. "In my picture and my son's picture, there will never be the Leave it To Beaver family picture of Mom and Dad."
That doesn't mean, however, that Ms. Weaver and her son don't have a lovely family picture of their own.
Ms. Weaver was shocked at what she says was the "unexpected support" she got on her first Mother's Day. "I received a lovely basket of fruit, with a card saying what a wonderful mother I am, from my son's godmother."
Ms. Weaver's mother, like her father, had at first been unsure about the route she chose to become a parent, but was "extremely thoughtful" on Mother's Day, buying Ms. Weaver a beautiful diamond necklace.
"These sorts of gestures of support are very meaningful to a newly single mother who is still getting her stride in the social context," Ms. Weaver says.
Many single mothers, like Ms. Weaver and Ms. Craft, receive phone calls from friends wishing them a happy Mother's Day - something that non-single mothers rarely get.
Stacey Otis, a single mother of three, says that without a partner there is "such a greater connection with your children," and that Mother's Day is always "awesome."
She celebrates the day at her house, or at one of her siblings' houses, and has turned it into "Family Mother's Day."
Unlike many of my mother friends, who moan about husbands forgetting Mother's Day entirely, or who complain about partners not even giving them two hours of alone time, Ms. Otis says, "My Mother's Days are always special. When my kids get excited to give me what they made at school, it's like gold. When you know all you have is each other, it makes the day really special."
Some single, non-traditional mothers such as Ms. Weaver still think of Mother's Day as a "traditional" holiday, but one that gives unique families an opportunity to define themselves, their tone and outlook on life.
As for me, the e-mail worked. I'll be at a spa, thanks to my four-year-old's request via her mother's e-mail.
Rebecca Eckler is the author of Toddlers Gone Wild!
I hope her ex reads this and sues her for fraud.
I always remind them to call their mother as well.
/johnny/
What a pathetic shallow woman. No wonder she is divorced.
This just proves that Eve’s the one who got us all kicked out of the Garden of Eden.
http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-bloggers/2012529/posts
Slightly different, and a different source.
Single, not divorced!
AND whatever you do don’t do as I did with my wife when asked ‘whqt you getting Treva (name of wife) for mothers day’ and I said ‘Nothing, she ain’t my mother’
OK, I’m confused. Why does it say “ex” in the title?
>>”Hi Daddy,” I typed, as my daughter was fast asleep.
Pathetic! This “Daddy” should consider himself lucky to be away from that lying, materialistic, greedy good-for-nothing!
My ex has mothers day every month on the first when I write her the support check.
I’m usually muttering something under my breath that starts with “Mother”
I’m confused, then. I thought it meant ex-boyfriend, LOL.
One Sick Puppie.
Pity their children.
http://whatmenthinkofwomen.blogspot.com/2007/10/predatory-female.html
*chuckle*
“I thought it meant ex-boyfriend”
That makes sense. I was only thinking ex-wife. I guess there are other kinds of ex’s.
They forgot the last part of that sequence.
The legs re-cross with the wedding band
The best Mother’s day gift one could ever hope for, is the four year old sleeping nearby.
Dad won’t even see her on Father’s day. At least you’ve got that to be happy about.
I always remind my son to send his mother a Mothers Day Present, Letter Bomb, sarin, things like that. I had custody after she walked out on them, my daughter would shoot her down like a rabid dog, she felt that betraied.
Can someone explain to me why a four year old would have a Yahoo account in her name?
might as well make it a clicky link for easier reading...
http://whatmenthinkofwomen.blogspot.com/2007/10/predatory-female.html
MGD keeps asking what I want....I have Mother's Day every day - the man busts his butt for me and the girls and then showers us all with more loving attention than any of us deserve. He's picking up my considerable slack as I go to school, all while doing the work of two men for his employer. I think I'm the one who needs to buy the gift....
Gee, there's no wondering why this lady is alone.
How old are your children? I can't begin to imagine what it must be like for them, being convinced that their own mother has no love for them.
“I’d love to help you out, dear, but mommy says she don’t need no man, and we don’t want to make mommy a liar, do we? We wouldn’t want to make her a liar, like she lied about...oh I don’t know...love....honor...cherish.....till death do us part....WE WOULDN’T WANT THAT STINKING, VILE, GONNOHEA RIDDEN WHORE TO BE A LIAR, WOULD WE! SO JUST GLUE SOME MACARONI TO A PLATE IN THE SHAPE OF A HEART AND TELL HER THANKS FOR DRIVING DADDY AWAY, YOU SOW! Love you baby, see you on visitation.” click!
yep!
weddingcakeosis
Last year was her first Mother's Day with her son, Throne.
THRONE?!?
This kid is sooooooo gonna get his but kicked on the playground on a regular basis...
I always got something really special on each of my children’s birthdays. I gave it to myself. I’d take a few minutes, usually while wrapping presents, and think back over the previous year, and thank God for the opportunity to have that incredible individual in my life for one more year.
Right now, 36 and 34, they were in their teens at the time. Hell hath no furry as Children scorned, sorry Bard.
It is not a case of no love it is a case of betrayal, treason to the relationship, loss of a comfortable environment.
Gold digger ping!
Start by avoiding that strapless sundress that shows off the huge tattoo that sprawls across your shoulders. Seriously.
I stopped into a coffee shop with my husband last week and found it populated by a local org "celebrating" single motherhood with an "appreciation day." After one look around I bit down hard on my tongue and we got out as soon as we could. I later asked my husband, "are there really that many blind men in town?"
The hope that their are still some ladies like you in our society is what keeps the promise of marriage alive for many good, young men.
Selfish twits!!
The best Mother’s Day gifts are those goofy little things the kids made by themselves. Any idiot can buy a card.
What blind men? Those are single mothers. Seems clear that the men didn't like what they saw.
“I even remind my daughter’s father that on her birthday I should also get something, for the fact that I gave birth,” Ms. Craft says.”
Gee, I wonder if she gives her daughter’s father something too; after all, without him, she wouldn’t have a daughter at all.
I feel awful for the little girl who has this shrew for a mother.
They must have liked them for a few minutes.
“Words fail me. “
I have one. how about “pathetic” ?
Wow. Makes me appreciate what I had. My mom, wonderful mother of 3, thinks the ideal mother’s day gift is spending time with her kids and grandkids. My wife thinks the same thing about our kids. My mother-in-law feels the same way about her kids and grandkids.
My biggest problem is figuring out how we schedule it all! [We have to do mothers day over several weekends.]
This mom thinks a great mothers day gift is a day at a spa. I just can’t relate.
I always send my stepchildren’s biomom a mother’s day card. She did a great job raising those kids and I think that should be acknowledged, at LEAST one day a year. I’m blessed that we are all good friends. I can’t imagine being married to a man who has constant drama with the ex. I would never have gotten married if either the kids or the ex didn’t like me or didn’t treat me well.
“Words fail me.”
Me too. I don’t expect things for Mother’s Day. Never did, so when the kids and my husband did get things for me it was really nice. This year I got my gift early, lunch at Red Lobster!
Sr. Cuervo, Mr. Daniels, and Mr. Bean are very popular matchmakers and standard-lowerers.
Beer goggles and/or dark rooms might explain everything.
What a great dad you are!!!
You deserve a Mother’s Day and Father’s Day present. Men like you are the forgotten.
Our Lord Smile on you. Your children do, I’m sure.
Yes, divorce is an abomination. If I’m selfish, pathetic and ugly, and my children should be pitied, why is it possible for me to have one son who is a grad of the USAFA and is now training in a fighter trainer, and another son with a divinity degree who is working on his teaching certificate?
“On what is perhaps the Hallmark holiday of all Hallmark holidays”
I thought the idea was to celebrate “your” mother. not everyone who “is” a mother. Granted, I get my Wife something, but really . . . this lady is nuts.
They are good kids, but the girls get the Aunts Syndrome. My daughter calls me up every day to make sure I am not in Jail, active FReeper, or dead. Not likely in either venue. Be in New London on May 15th, Coast Guard Academy. GOE Event.
Kids are a lot of work. Good kids show that you did a good job.
I had a friend who’s wife left when his kids were 3,2 and 6 months. Left the kids at the sitter and cleaned out the house. The man came home to an empty house and a phone call from the sitter saying the kids were there. Wifie would come around every once in a while. He worked and raised them while she whored around and partied every day. (Funny thing was that my niece worked with her at a fast food place. By her stories, we put two and two together and realized who she was!!!)
He always looked like a crumpled mess but his kids were dressed, fed, clean and happy.
The oldest girl died of a brain tumor at 10, God Rest her soul.
When Make a Wish came in, the mother tried to convince the girl to take her and a boyfriend to DisneyWorld.
Some women are lower than dirt.
This year my hubby is taking my girls to see Grandma and I’m going to see Ironman.
I will eat tons of popcorn and even raisinettes!
My girls give me kisses and make cards. Hubby normally does something but it’s not expected.
NOW Father’s Day is something different. My dad has been gone 25 years. I go all out for the hubby!
Since I have three lovely and sensible teen daughters, I hope those good young men will make themselves apparent (just not too soon!)
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