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What causes a woman to seek out sex with teens?
The Intelligencer ^ | June 15, 2008 | JO CIAVAGLIA

Posted on 06/16/2008 6:07:40 PM PDT by Clint Williams

What makes a grown woman pursue a guy who gets carded at R-rated movies, lives with his parents who give him an allowance and, who if your actions are revealed, would ruin your reputation and possibly land you in jail?

Theories abound. Some might surprise you.

Like how mentally, they are about the same age.

Sexual abuse involving older women and teen boys is an underreported crime, one that experts say has been largely ignored by the public, legal system and academic researchers for reasons including sexual double standards and evidence suggesting teen boys often are willing participants.

But that attitude is changing.

Prosecutions of women for sex abuse have risen nationwide in the past several years, law enforcement experts say. Locally, last week two women from Bucks County were charged with sexual crimes involving teenage boys.

Angela Marie Honeycutt, 38, and Lynne Long, 45, both of Lower Makefield, were charged Wednesday in connection with alleged indecent acts that took place during a teen boy sleepover in April.

Honeycutt was charged with statutory sexual assault, a second-degree felony, and several lesser felonies and misdemeanors. She is charged with engaging in sex acts with two boys, ages 14 and 15. Sleepover host Long was charged with endangering the welfare of children and corruption of minors.

In the past decade, high-profile arrests involving inappropriate and illegal sexual contact between women and boys have captivated the nation.

Among the most infamous cases, both involving middle school teachers, were Debra LaFave, 23, who had sex with a 14-year-old student, and Mary Kay LeTourneau, 34, who began a sexual relationship with her 13-year-old student, later gave birth to two of his children, served jail time for abusing him and then married him in 2005.

An estimated 1,500 women are in prison for sexual abuse of children. The National Center for Juvenile Justice 2005 report on statutory rape found that 5 percent of victims were boys and adult women were overwhelmingly the abusers.

The report also found among children ages 7 to 11 and 15 to 17, boy victims outnumbered girls. On average, female molesters were nine years older than their male victims, compared with a six-year age gap between male offenders and teen girl victims.

Other research agencies like Child Trends in Washington, D.C., are starting to collect data that also suggest sexual relationships between teen boys and older women are more common than many believe.

A 2005 Child Trends research brief on the subject revealed that one in four males surveyed reported his first sexual experiences were with a woman usually a few years older.

Of more than 2,000 males, ages 15 to 24, asked, though, half who had a first sexual experience with an older woman reported an age gap of five years or more.

The abuse connection

Child molesters share some common features regardless of gender, according to the Center for Sex Offender Management in Maryland. Many show evidence of poor coping skills, relationship difficulties, cognitive distortions and an inability to empathize with victims.

But the center also noted some key differences between men and women offenders.

Among them sexual victimization histories are far more common among female sex offenders than men, and their abuse experiences are often more longstanding, extensive and severe. Adult women also are more likely than men to commit sex offenses with a willing participant.

The largest study so far involving female sex offenders found the sexual abuse connection, according to its author, Susan Strickland, a University of Georgia professor and social worker who treats sex offenders.

For her research, Strickland surveyed 130 female prisoners, including 60 serving time for sexual offenses.

She found that women who have sex with boys lack the mature relationship skills to partner with men their age. They are also motivated by a need for power and control, and they see the boy as a blank slate they can turn into the partner they want.

Women sex offenders may never have had a relationship in which they felt safe, Strickland added.

Women who seek sex with underage boys are also more likely than men to focus on one person and to profess love and loyalty and a sense of a particular and profound bond, psychologists say.

Emotional overload

Philadelphia author Alan Soble has written books about sex and love. He believes it's difficult to generalize what motivates an older woman to seduce a teen boy, but that their reasons are probably not much different than a man's.

“Is there any reason to think the motives are different? Then you have to go with the standard story, but with the genders reversed,” said Soble, a philosophy professor at Penn State University's Abington campus.

Emotions are part of why he believes women pursue teen boys.

“It's not simply why would they do it, but why do it knowing they'll be ostracized if they get caught, they are in trouble, and will get more attention than a man would get?” he said. “It's the power the emotions have to kill our rationality, and women seem to be as susceptible as men to having their rationality undermined by their emotions and passions.”

What also remains unclear is the long-term impact on teen boys.

What evidence is available — gathered through male prisoners and men in addiction treatment — is the experience disrupts normal adolescent psychological development, Strickland said.

A teen's immature brain cannot process the adult behavior they are engaging in, and, as a result, it skews social and sexual outlook, distorts thinking and hinders the ability to relate to a partner their own age, she explained.

Most teen boys involved in sexual relationships with older women don't feel they've been violated, a belief that Strickland says is rooted in society stereotypes, while girls in the same relationships are sent the message they've been taken advantage of, boys are congratulated and admired.

FEMALE SEX OFFENDERS

Source: Center for Sex Offender ManagementJo Ciavaglia can be reached at 215 949-4181 or jciavaglia@phillyburbs.com.


TOPICS: Crime/Corruption; Culture/Society
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1 posted on 06/16/2008 6:07:40 PM PDT by Clint Williams
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To: Clint Williams

Not popular with the boys in high school.


2 posted on 06/16/2008 6:08:44 PM PDT by yldstrk (My heros have always been cowboys--Reagan and Bush)
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To: Clint Williams

“Child molesters share some common features regardless of gender”

It’s feels go to them, so they do it... Damn the consequences and damn the impact on the kids.

It’s no laughing matter.


3 posted on 06/16/2008 6:12:19 PM PDT by Keith Brown (Among the other evils being unarmed brings you, it causes you to be despised Machiavelli.)
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To: Clint Williams

“Child molesters share some common features regardless of gender”

It’s feels go to them, so they do it... Damn the consequences and damn the impact on the kids.

It’s no laughing matter.


4 posted on 06/16/2008 6:12:26 PM PDT by Keith Brown (Among the other evils being unarmed brings you, it causes you to be despised Machiavelli.)
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To: Clint Williams

Low batteries?


5 posted on 06/16/2008 6:12:35 PM PDT by cripplecreek (Voting conservative isn't for the faint of heart.)
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To: Clint Williams

“Child molesters share some common features regardless of gender”

It’s feels go to them, so they do it... Damn the consequences and damn the impact on the kids.

It’s no laughing matter.


6 posted on 06/16/2008 6:12:35 PM PDT by Keith Brown (Among the other evils being unarmed brings you, it causes you to be despised Machiavelli.)
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7 posted on 06/16/2008 6:14:35 PM PDT by Dumpster Baby (Real men drink mercury)
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To: Clint Williams
Pictures of women at this link: http://www.transworldnews.com/NewsStory.aspx?id=50502&cat=14
8 posted on 06/16/2008 6:14:43 PM PDT by Koblenz (The Dem Platform, condensed: 1. Tax and Spend. 2. Cut and Run. 3. Man on Man)
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To: Clint Williams
A teen's immature brain cannot process the adult behavior they are engaging in, and, as a result, it skews social and sexual outlook, distorts thinking and hinders the ability to relate to a partner their own age, she explained.

If they can't process the adult behavior they are engaging in, why is it ok for them to have sex even with kids their own age?

susie

9 posted on 06/16/2008 6:15:21 PM PDT by brytlea (amnesty--an act of clemency by an authority by which pardon is granted esp. to a group of individual)
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To: Clint Williams

b.s.

in reality these women are probably no different than males who have sex with teen girls.

normal adults have attractions to the opposite sex,

but when the relationship is one of adult to underage,

the mature adult does not act upon her urges.


10 posted on 06/16/2008 6:18:44 PM PDT by ken21 ( people die + you never hear from them again.)
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To: Keith Brown

Hey, we heard ya Keith - ALL THREE TIMES!


11 posted on 06/16/2008 6:26:42 PM PDT by LasVegasMac (Islam: Bringing the world death and destruction for 1400 years!)
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To: yldstrk

I bet that gal in Florida was pretty popular with the boys in school, Debra Lafavre


12 posted on 06/16/2008 6:38:25 PM PDT by pissant (THE Conservative party: www.falconparty.com)
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To: Clint Williams
What evidence is available — gathered through male prisoners and men in addiction treatment — is the experience disrupts normal adolescent psychological development, Strickland said.

So does the DemoKratic Party.

13 posted on 06/16/2008 6:40:26 PM PDT by LasVegasMac (Islam: Bringing the world death and destruction for 1400 years!)
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To: LasVegasMac

Easy!

I only hit the bloody button once!

Can you understand a malfunction when you see it?


14 posted on 06/16/2008 6:40:41 PM PDT by Keith Brown (Among the other evils being unarmed brings you, it causes you to be despised Machiavelli.)
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To: Clint Williams

How about just plain perverted.


15 posted on 06/16/2008 6:41:33 PM PDT by freekitty (Give me back my conservative vote.)
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To: Keith Brown
I only hit the bloody button once!

The solution is obvious, quit bleeding on the button!

Can you understand a malfunction when you see it?

Nope.

Never had a malfunction.

Ever.

:)

16 posted on 06/16/2008 6:44:26 PM PDT by LasVegasMac (Islam: Bringing the world death and destruction for 1400 years!)
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To: Clint Williams

bttt


17 posted on 06/16/2008 6:45:04 PM PDT by bmwcyle (If God wanted us to be Socialist, Karl Marx would have been born in America.)
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To: Clint Williams

I myself have wondered the same thing. As an adult woman and the mother of 2 boys (and unofficial foster mother to a dozen of their friends over the years) I try to look at them objectively whenever I hear a story like this. The **only** thing I can come up is maybe it’s a power thing, being the Mrs Robinson to his Ben. The experienced, all knowing mature lady inducting a young man into his first sexual experience. What was the beer ad..? “You never forget your first girl.” The determination to be that first girl, because I’ll bet most men remember theirs. Add to that an experienced woman willing to do more things than a 14 year old girl... That’s the only thing I can come up with because they certainly aren’t sex objects to me-

because **I** look at my sons and their friends and I see big kids who may throw a baseball with total grace but can’t walk through the room without tripping over their size 11 feet that they haven’t grown into yet. Who can get the ball through the hoop with nothing but net but can’t pee without getting it on the floor. I see kids in oversized bodies, kids who enjoy generally putting each other down, outdoing each other in Guitar Hero and the accompanying insults, who still think imitating bodily noises is the height of hilarity and anything that sounds like a fart is the highlight of the evening, who aren’t bothered by dirty socks and sportsgear laying on their bedroom floor and see no reason why wrappers should be thrown away when the floor is so readily available.

Don’t get me wrong, I love my boys, all of them. They’re good hearted, enjoyable, interesting kids. But sex objects they’re not.


18 posted on 06/16/2008 6:47:09 PM PDT by ktscarlett66 (Face it girls....I'm older and I have more insurance....)
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To: Clint Williams
I think Madonna gave me some insight as to the young man versus the mature man in her flippant statement and may be part of the attraction of an older woman to a young man or teen....
Young men don't know what they are doing but can do it all night long...
19 posted on 06/16/2008 6:48:37 PM PDT by vetvetdoug
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To: freekitty

Best post in the thread.


20 posted on 06/16/2008 6:53:17 PM PDT by sabe@q.com (Yes, I'm a SW freak!)
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