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The Problem with Obama's Father's Day Speech
American Thinker ^ | June 18, 2008 | Bruce Walker

Posted on 06/18/2008 7:45:18 AM PDT by neverdem

Barack Obama's gave a carefully calculated political speech on Father's Day calling attention to the problem of children growing up without a father.  In one important respect, Obama was absolutely right:  Far too many children are being raised without the attention, discipline and care of a father in the home.  But in another equally important respect, Obama took the easy, fast and safe path in his speech.

The problem of children being born into fatherless homes is, perhaps, the defining social problem of our times.  The starkest possible contrast with the fatherless children of America decried by Obama, was tacitly drawn by the tragic death of Tim Russert, whose reverence for his father was the lodestar of his wonderful life.

Why did Russert, whose home was humble, have such a dramatically different life?  Was it because of Big Russ?  Yes, of course, in one sense it was precisely because of Big Russ -- a father who was the model of all positive traits and all ennobling characteristics.  Those rubbed off on Tim.

But there is another difference in the parallel stories between Tim Russert and the child raised without a father.  That difference does not involve Big Russ as much as it does Tim Russert's mother.  She chose not to have a child out of wedlock.  She chose to love Big Russ.  She chose to make her marriage to him work, despite the hardships and problems that the family faced.  Without her choices and will, the life of Tim Russert would not have been the success that it was.

The problem of fatherless families is the problem of mothers as well as absent fathers. Children born out of wedlock, after all, are born because a woman decides that a good father is not that important.  The prior irresponsibility is not these young men, but the young woman who decides to have sex with them, intending or assuming that society, rather than a husband, bear the costs of her pregnancy.

In fact, it has long been possible for a woman to have children without having sexual relations at all.  Does our structure of welfare, food stamps, Medicaid and so forth provide any negative consequences for a woman who wants children as a hostage against society -- and who wants to be artificially inseminated?  No:  The plague of fatherless families could exist without a single unmarried man having sexual relations with a single unmarried woman. 

When young women have casual, indiscriminate sexual relations with a number of young men -- in many cases not even knowing these men beyond their first names -- then the catastrophe which follows is at least as much the fault of the mother as of the father.   If young women stopped having sex before marriage, then the problem of fatherless children would vanish. 

It is much easier, however, to pummel young men, than for Obama to lay blame for fatherless children where it also belongs:  on the reckless actions of those mothers who count upon taxpayers to step in the place of fathers.

As Tim Russert's mother could attest, marriage and raising children in a stable home is no picnic.  Staying married to a man like Big Russ, who works two jobs and has does not have much free time for his children or for his wife, requires a moral commitment for a mother and wife.  Her example, like the example of the wonderful Big Russ, made the life of Tim Russert profoundly different than the lives of so many children, black and white, born into "homes" which are not homes at all, but more like brothels.

What Obama should have talked about was the failure of mothers to understand the importance of fathers.  That is the heart of why we have fatherless homes.  Once, it was accepted that a child needed both a father and a mother to grow up right.  Now, it is politically correct to believe that a father who pays child support and visits his offspring every other week is sufficient.  My mother grew up with a father who was sick and who could contribute very little to his family, except for his paternal love -- but that love was incomparably more important than any wages that he could have earned.  

Money is a sideshow in raising good children, especially here in the richest nation in human history.  Big Russ worked his tail off, but it was not the money he brought home that transformed the life of Tim Russert:  It was the fact of his love, shown by his sweat. 

Marry before having children.  If you have children, stay married. That is a critical theme of Father's Day.  That should have been the heart of Obama's Father's Day speech.  He focused on the easy target of absent fathers, instead less chic idea of a traditional nuclear family.  Tim Russert could have told him how much fathers matter in the home, beside mothers, together loving and raising children.  That is the real message of Father's Day. 


TOPICS: Culture/Society; Editorial; Government; Politics/Elections
KEYWORDS: blackfamily; fatherhood; fathersday; obama
Obama takes an easy, cheap shot at men when it takes two to tango.
1 posted on 06/18/2008 7:45:19 AM PDT by neverdem
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To: neverdem
That speech was just Obama’s “Sista Souljah” moment.
2 posted on 06/18/2008 7:47:14 AM PDT by pnh102 (Save America - Ban Ethanol Now!)
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To: neverdem

BO left out the part that govt programs encourage this behavior.


3 posted on 06/18/2008 7:51:26 AM PDT by Neoliberalnot ((Hallmarks of Liberalism: Ingratitude and Envy))
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To: neverdem

Just more liberal tripe.


4 posted on 06/18/2008 7:52:21 AM PDT by EagleUSA
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To: neverdem

Some sharp pressie oughta ask him if fatherless homes include homes with two gay partners/gay marrieds?


5 posted on 06/18/2008 7:55:37 AM PDT by USNA74
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To: Neoliberalnot
‘zackly. LBJ and the Donks created the environment that allowed government checks to substitute for a father in the house.
6 posted on 06/18/2008 7:59:32 AM PDT by Eric in the Ozarks
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To: neverdem
Moveon has put out an ad of a woman with her baby, saying that McCain can't have him for his hundred year war in Iraq.

No father is mentioned or hinted at. Aside from the mischaracterization of McCain's statement and the fact that her kid would have to volunteer (unless the Dems are successful in reinstituting the draft next time), what is wrong with fathers and grandparents? McCain's people should be calling this the "Babby Mamma Ad".

7 posted on 06/18/2008 7:59:48 AM PDT by Soliton (Investigate, educate, then opinionate.)
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To: neverdem

Some women have babies to get the ADC check and the sec 8 housing.


8 posted on 06/18/2008 8:00:23 AM PDT by yldstrk (My heros have always been cowboys--Reagan and Bush)
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To: neverdem

Obama’s mother did not choose to have a child without a husband.


9 posted on 06/18/2008 8:02:02 AM PDT by sportutegrl
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To: neverdem

The big problem is that this skinny black POS has made fools out of a bunch of idiots and is now on the road to the black house.


10 posted on 06/18/2008 8:03:41 AM PDT by Piquaboy (22 year veteran of the Army, Air Force and Navy, Pray for all our military .)
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To: USNA74

There’s an elephant in the room here. What about Obama’s own father? He was a real piece of work who left his Mom and little Barry. Then again, to the author’s point, what about his Mom who was hell-bent to hook up with someone as different from her as possible - someone who was already married to at least one person back in Kenya. She left little Barry to be raised by grandparents while she continued to “do her own thing.” I couldn’t agree more that girls are the problem way more than the boys and it’s only going to get worse in the years to come.


11 posted on 06/18/2008 8:05:06 AM PDT by Sioux-san
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To: neverdem

12 posted on 06/18/2008 8:06:42 AM PDT by littlehouse36 (Friends don't let friends watch cable news.)
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To: sportutegrl
re: Obama’s mother did not choose to have a child without a husband.

Are we sure of that? Correct me if I am wrong, but I remember reading that Obama doesn't know exactly when his parents got married. And since his father was already married to a woman in Africa whom he never divorced, I am not so sure that a marriage in this country would have been legal anyway under bigamy laws.

13 posted on 06/18/2008 8:07:26 AM PDT by Nevadan
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To: Eric in the Ozarks

—and pointing out that it would happen should be the only legacy of Daniel Patrick Moynihan—especially after his failure to support the Constitution in the Clinton affair-—


14 posted on 06/18/2008 8:08:44 AM PDT by rellimpank (--don't believe anything the MSM tells you about firearms or explosives--NRA Benefactor)
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To: neverdem

I tried to push that in a debate about abortion. People always claim that the mother has a right to an abortion and should have control over her own body, yet they continually act as though she has no control over having sex and that somehow, the male forces her to do it.


15 posted on 06/18/2008 8:09:26 AM PDT by RWB Patriot
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To: rellimpank
Moynihan’s writings on this subject should be mandatory reading for members of Congress.
16 posted on 06/18/2008 8:14:23 AM PDT by Eric in the Ozarks
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To: Eric in the Ozarks
re: Moynihan’s writings on this subject should be mandatory reading for members of Congress.

Add to Moynihan’s writings George Gilder's book, “Men and Marriage”.

17 posted on 06/18/2008 8:19:07 AM PDT by Nevadan
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To: Eric in the Ozarks
--to paraphrase somebody else's comment, I suspect Moynihan wrote more books than the average Congresscritter has read in his/her lifetime--
18 posted on 06/18/2008 8:19:31 AM PDT by rellimpank (--don't believe anything the MSM tells you about firearms or explosives--NRA Benefactor)
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To: rellimpank
From one of Daniel Patrick's books;
Many, many years ago, Ralph Nader worked for Moynihan at the Department of Labor. Nader mentioned to Moynihan that he was sure his Labor Department phone was being tapped.
Moynihan told Nader not to worry. Nothing of national security interest was happening at Labor anyway...
20 posted on 06/18/2008 8:25:46 AM PDT by Eric in the Ozarks
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To: Nevadan

Obama’s campaign is lucky that Obama’s mother is not alive to be asked these questions. I suspect that she’d have been Obama’s “Miss Lillian”, only a lot worse.


21 posted on 06/18/2008 8:27:24 AM PDT by Tallguy (Tagline is offline till something better comes along...)
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To: neverdem

B.O. doesn’t what his daughter “punished with a baby” so abortion is ok. Why then is it not ok for a son to leave the scene to avoid being “punished with a baby”,also?


22 posted on 06/18/2008 9:41:28 AM PDT by tbpiper (NObama '08)
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To: neverdem

What struck me about the speech was two things:

1. When Bill Cosby said this same stuff the black activist crowd was ready to tar and feather him.

2. Obama is a bad poster child for this. sure, he was raised in a home with a strong male role model eventually, but we’re talking about a guy whose Dad abandoned him at the age of two, and who may be POTUS next January. That’s sort of like sending Gene Simmons (ludicrously rich; hot, loving wife; two smart healthy kids and an apparently a quite happy life) out to tell people about how pre-marital sex will ruin your life. Sure, it’s true that it’s a bad idea to screw around before marriage, but Gene’s a guy who beat the system, not a cautionary tale.


23 posted on 06/18/2008 9:55:48 AM PDT by Mr. Silverback (It's not conservative to accept an inept Commander-in-Chief in a time of war. Back Mac.)
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To: tbpiper

You ask an excellent question.


24 posted on 06/18/2008 9:59:43 AM PDT by Mr. Silverback (It's not conservative to accept an inept Commander-in-Chief in a time of war. Back Mac.)
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To: Mr. Silverback

Obama should have pointed out that the real problem is all the Black males who brag about how many women they have [bleep]ed yet could not pick them out of a line-up and have no idea whether or not they even have any children save that the girl brings suit and forces a DNA test on them. As usual, he chooses to look at the situation from an upscale-suburban-elite POV and act as if the real problem in the world is the work-life-balance of overworked stockbrokers.

Time to stop putting out fires and start talking about fire prevention; time to stop valuing yourself by how many wimmin you have impregnated and, like, get a full time job of some kind, maybe?


25 posted on 06/18/2008 10:14:12 AM PDT by Appleby
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To: neverdem
Kind of reminds me of a debate I overheard a few years ago among a bunch of high school juniors and seniors over whether the boy or girl was most to blame if a girl got pregnant.

Finally, "Johnny" (who was rather a trouble-maker and not very academically inclined) effectively ended the debate with the following proclamation: "I think if a girl don't wanna get pregnant, she don't need to be spreading her legs, and if a boy don't wanna get a girl pregnant, he don't need to be sticking his thing between her legs."

Pretty well sums it up.

26 posted on 06/18/2008 10:34:20 AM PDT by Amelia
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To: Mr. Silverback
Gene Simmons (ludicrously rich; hot, loving wife; two smart healthy kids and an apparently a quite happy life)

I get the gist of your post but I don't think Gene Simmons is married. Also, I can't for the life of me believe why some women think this man is "hot" other than for his ca$h.

27 posted on 06/18/2008 11:07:23 AM PDT by frogjerk (Barry Hussein is Neville Chamberlain)
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To: neverdem
The Problem with Obama's Father's Day Speech

There were many problems with his speech. But for some odd reason the MSM/DBM missed it while they laid prone on the floor praying at his feet, to wit:

Like I said, IMO there were a 'few problems' with his speech. But only if you're a taxpayer with a job.

28 posted on 06/18/2008 11:10:31 AM PDT by Condor51 (I have guns in my nightstand because a Cop won't fit)
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To: frogjerk

No, Simmons isn’t married. He and Shannon Tweed have been living together for about 20 years. He even says that the secret to is and Tweeds happiness is the fact that they aren’t married, and that marriage makes people unhappy on balance. My answer to that is, “Speak for youself, buddy.”


29 posted on 06/18/2008 11:58:45 AM PDT by Mr. Silverback (It's not conservative to accept an inept Commander-in-Chief in a time of war. Back Mac.)
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To: Amelia

Johnny is wise beyond his years.


30 posted on 06/18/2008 12:00:22 PM PDT by Mr. Silverback (It's not conservative to accept an inept Commander-in-Chief in a time of war. Back Mac.)
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To: Mr. Silverback
Something else that struck me about Obama's speech was his equating fathers who are AWOL with fathers who are MIA.

Does he even know what MIA means?

31 posted on 06/18/2008 12:36:21 PM PDT by Churchillspirit
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To: Mr. Silverback

“Johnny” really had more sense than the rest of those kids put together. I hope he has done well. The year I taught him he was living with his grandparents, but the next year he went to live with his mother about 300 miles away.


32 posted on 06/18/2008 1:01:21 PM PDT by Amelia
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To: Churchillspirit

You make an excellent point and I’m surprised I hadn’t caught that myself. Yeah, it really is pretty silly to describe anyone shirking their responsibilities as “MIA” because you can’t be MIA while being away from what you’re suppposed to be doing.


33 posted on 06/18/2008 2:02:15 PM PDT by Mr. Silverback (It's not conservative to accept an inept Commander-in-Chief in a time of war. Back Mac.)
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To: Mr. Silverback
I cannot believe that the responsible media has not picked up on Obama's MIA remark.An insult to those who are not at home through no fault of their own.

God bless all those who truly are MIA.

34 posted on 06/18/2008 2:06:06 PM PDT by Churchillspirit
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To: Churchillspirit

I’ll mention it on my blog and give you credit.


35 posted on 06/18/2008 2:24:14 PM PDT by Mr. Silverback (It's not conservative to accept an inept Commander-in-Chief in a time of war. Back Mac.)
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To: Mr. Silverback
Thank you.
36 posted on 06/18/2008 2:26:41 PM PDT by Churchillspirit
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To: neverdem

dear scrawny shit: if you think blacks are angry, just wait till you tangle with a disenfranchised dad.


37 posted on 06/18/2008 2:57:27 PM PDT by the invisib1e hand (The Divine Comedy is not very funny.)
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To: neverdem

The problem with Obama, like most Dems, refuses to pinpoint the most important SINGLE cause of the cultural degradation in much of the black community. That cause is the destruction of the 2 parent black family. The precipitate cause of this tragedy was the welfare state created by LBJ and (mostly) the DemocRAT Party. But since Barack He who must not be middle named Obama wants to extend and expand the welfare state to all of America, he is careful to avoid drawing the correct conclusions. Oh he gives lip service to the notion of personal responsibility, but is extremely careful to avoid any implication of the DemocRAT Party.
When you point out that the Democratic Party’s entire history and policies have been antithetical to the best interests of the black community, and that to the extent that a major political party is responsible for any political and civil liberty that black people have, they owe it to the Republican Party, and even when you can prove that historically and factually the most amazing case of political cognitive dissonance then occurs.

The common response is, well that may be true but only the Democrats are “for us”. They usually go on to an entirely erroneous understanding of Nixon’s Southern strategy, a distortion of Berry Goldwater’s principled opposition to the Civil Rights Act of 1964, and completely ignore the fact that the Democratic Party was founded amongst other things, to extend slavery into the territory’s. The Democratic Party opposed 13, 14, and 15th amendment to the United States Constitution, reconstruction, every bit of foundational civil rights legislation from 1866 to 1968, instituted Jim Crow in the Southern states, refused to enact antilynching laws, and most importantly destroyed the two-parent black family with Lyndon Johnson’s welfare state. When you point out the fact that the modern-day Democratic Party is home to the pro-abortion forces that have enhanced the wildly disproportionate abortion rate in the black community, that doesn’t seem to register either.

The black community is in the throes of the worst political brainwashing outside of the Soviet Union and I just don’t know what can be done about it. I am constantly engaged in debates with people in my community and they are determined to vote for Democrats despite the clear and present evidence of their utterly destructive policies. The staggeringly high level of political cognitive dissonance amongst my people is frightening.


38 posted on 06/18/2008 6:28:50 PM PDT by DMZFrank
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To: DMZFrank
The black community is in the throes of the worst political brainwashing outside of the Soviet Union and I just don’t know what can be done about it.

The Marxist Laboratory.


39 posted on 06/18/2008 8:40:43 PM PDT by rdb3 (Upward, onward, beyond...)
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thanks neverdem.

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