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Dr. Maier: Spanking (with love) not abusive
One News Now ^ | August 22, 2008 | Pete Chagnon

Posted on 08/22/2008 6:28:24 PM PDT by Tolerance Sucks Rocks

A noted child and family psychologist says spanking a child can be an effective form of discipline, despite a recent study that states otherwise.

A new report titled "A Violent Education: Corporal Punishment of Children in U.S. Public Schools" shows that more than 200,000 children received corporal punishment in U.S. schools. Texas accounted for the majority of the cases, although 21 U.S. states allow the use of corporal punishment. The study was conducted by Humans Rights Watch and the American Civil Liberties Union.

According to a Reuters article on the study, "liberal groups regard corporal punishment as a barbaric relic of an unenlightened past that harms self-esteem and promotes violence." But Dr. Bill Maier, vice president and psychologist in residence with Focus on the Family, has a different perspective.

"Appropriate disciplinary spanking, done in the context of a loving parent-child relationship, is not abusive," he states.

Although Maier says Focus on the Family does not take a position on the use of spanking in school, he does say the practice has positive results when used properly in one's home.

"If it's done in a loving context, if it's followed up by an explanation, there is no evidence that it would harm their self-esteem," he explains. "In fact, we have some evidence that kids who grow up in an extremely permissive environment, in which there are no boundaries, no limits, and no guidelines, ...have a great deal of difficulty with their self-esteem -- and particularly later on in life, because they have such a sense of entitlement that basically the world owes them everything on a silver platter."

Dr. Maier also referenced the American College of Pediatricians, which has done extensive studies on the subject of spanking one's child. In a study posted on its website, the group agrees that disciplinary spanking of young children is an effective tool for parents.


TOPICS: Culture/Society; Miscellaneous; News/Current Events
KEYWORDS: aclu; billmaier; childhood; children; corporalpunishment; drbillmaier; drmaier; focusonthefamily; humanrightswatch; parenting; schools; selfesteem; spanking; study

1 posted on 08/22/2008 6:28:25 PM PDT by Tolerance Sucks Rocks
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To: 3D-JOY; abner; Abundy; AGreatPer; Albion Wilde; AliVeritas; alisasny; ALlRightAllTheTime; ...

PING!


2 posted on 08/22/2008 6:28:59 PM PDT by Tolerance Sucks Rocks (Drill Here! Drill Now! Pay Less! Sign the petition at http://www.americansolutions.com/)
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To: Tolerance Sucks Rocks
Oh gosh! These highly educated folks have finally figured out what we have known since Biblical times: Spare the rod and spoil the child.

Am I the only one who can't remember having ever heard the term "self esteem" until the last 10-15 years?

3 posted on 08/22/2008 6:34:26 PM PDT by basil (Support the Second Amendment-buy another gun today!)
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To: Tolerance Sucks Rocks
You know what I find most ironic (and I am sure I am not the only one).... these nut jobs will tell us in one breath that corporal punishment is a barbaric act displaying one of the grossest forms of violence needing immediate "government" intervention.... and then in the VERY next breath legitimize abortion as a woman's choice.... and of course that ALWAYS leaves me with this face...... Photobucket
4 posted on 08/22/2008 6:37:22 PM PDT by zimfam007 (Courage is not simply one of the virtues, but the form of every virtue at the testing point.)
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To: Tolerance Sucks Rocks
Yes, spare the rod and spoil he child or is it ...ah...obam...uh....hope ...er....change...er....ah......................Spare the child and spoil the rod ??

Nowadays all the rods are spoiled. But then even the Dalai Lama, that quintessential man of campassion and peace, was whipped occssionally by his tutors , when a boy.

But how does that boil down to the liberal wing nut position, that ALL discipline is BAAAAhahad?

Simple: The liberals want to raise sheep while conservatives want to raise lions.

Sheep do what they are told, and do not think. They only bleat. Thats the result of "no corporal punishmnt."

5 posted on 08/22/2008 6:43:06 PM PDT by Candor7 (Fascism? All it takes is for good men to say nothing, (Ridicule Obama))
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To: Tolerance Sucks Rocks

Guess I was lucky,never had to spank our youngins’.

Just made them think they were gettin’ one.

Talk about fun.


6 posted on 08/22/2008 6:45:23 PM PDT by silentreignofheroes (In my day,Flunking gym was not an option , even for Stupid Kids!)
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To: zimfam007

(Cat - omfg) - That is the cutest and funniest picture!


7 posted on 08/22/2008 7:06:45 PM PDT by Stephanie32
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To: silentreignofheroes

“Just made them think they were gettin’ one. Talk about fun.”

That was my Dad’s way. But my Mom!!! Look out, she didn’t rattle before she struck!


8 posted on 08/22/2008 7:08:37 PM PDT by Stephanie32
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To: Tolerance Sucks Rocks

I had a spanking stick for my boys. A piece of lath about 18” long. Made a nice satisfying smacking sound, but was harmless. It was labeled, “Board of Education. Apply briskly to seat of learning.” Three well-mannered, well-adjusted men will vouch for its effectiveness.


9 posted on 08/22/2008 7:09:38 PM PDT by redhead (B-I-NGO...B-I-NGO...)
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To: Stephanie32
Photobucket
10 posted on 08/22/2008 7:12:10 PM PDT by zimfam007 (Courage is not simply one of the virtues, but the form of every virtue at the testing point.)
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To: Tolerance Sucks Rocks
"In fact, we have some evidence that kids who grow up in an extremely permissive environment, in which there are no boundaries, no limits, and no guidelines, ...have a great deal of difficulty with their self-esteem ...

How can you feel good about doing well when there are no standards to measure your accomplishment by?

No surprise there is no self-esteem, nor the self-respect which comes with accomplishing something worthwhile, because there is no way to measure the worth of an accomplishment.

Children crave boundaries and a sense of accomplishment, and all the parental and cultural laziness of an "anything goes" culture do is rob them of both.

11 posted on 08/22/2008 7:14:09 PM PDT by Smokin' Joe (How often God must weep at humans' folly.)
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To: Stephanie32

I remember having to get my own switch.And it better be a good one.

Those were the days.


12 posted on 08/22/2008 7:15:31 PM PDT by silentreignofheroes (In my day,Flunking gym was not an option , even for Stupid Kids!)
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To: zimfam007

That’s one is cute too. I have to work on pictures.


13 posted on 08/22/2008 8:26:07 PM PDT by Stephanie32
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To: Tolerance Sucks Rocks

Fact: I was spanked as a child.

Fact: I’m not the least bit damaged nor spoiled, and will likely instill the same principles of discipline with my children. (If I can ever find Mrs. DaveLoneRanger...)


14 posted on 08/22/2008 8:27:03 PM PDT by DaveLoneRanger (Gun-free zones aren't. Visit ConcealedCampus.com for more)
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To: silentreignofheroes

“Those were the days.”

My Dad would say, “Keep it up and I’ll take my belt off.” But he never did. My Mom used this thin wooden breadboard or the yardstick. Ouches, that hurt. But he was the one I was scared of. Go figure.


15 posted on 08/22/2008 8:30:43 PM PDT by Stephanie32
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To: Stephanie32

My mom used a wooden spoon. Even when we were pretty young, we learned really quickly. All she had to do was rattle the spoons in the drawer and we’d shape up really quick.


16 posted on 08/22/2008 8:39:53 PM PDT by metmom (Welfare was never meant to be a career choice.)
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To: Tolerance Sucks Rocks
A new report titled "A Violent Education: Corporal Punishment of Children in U.S. Public Schools" shows that more than 200,000 children received corporal punishment in U.S. schools. Texas accounted for the majority of the cases, although 21 U.S. states allow the use of corporal punishment. The study was conducted by Humans Rights Watch and the American Civil Liberties Union.

And what happens to a parent who spanks a child in public?

17 posted on 08/22/2008 8:41:00 PM PDT by metmom (Welfare was never meant to be a career choice.)
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To: Tolerance Sucks Rocks
A new report titled "A Violent Education: Corporal Punishment of Children in U.S. Public Schools" shows that more than 200,000 children received corporal punishment in U.S. schools. Texas accounted for the majority of the cases, although 21 U.S. states allow the use of corporal punishment. The study was conducted by Humans Rights Watch and the American Civil Liberties Union.

The hypocrisy is that foster parents are prohibited from spanking at all in their home, but educators can do it in the schools.

Any parent who spanks in public is risking having their kids put in foster care, but the schools can do it without reprisal?

Honestly, I'm most surprised that ANY schools have that policy in place these days. I though it had been totally done away with.

18 posted on 08/22/2008 8:43:57 PM PDT by metmom (Welfare was never meant to be a career choice.)
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To: Gabz

multi-ping


19 posted on 08/22/2008 8:44:20 PM PDT by metmom (Welfare was never meant to be a career choice.)
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To: metmom
"All she had to do was rattle the spoons in the drawer and we'd shape up really quick." (I bet!!!)
20 posted on 08/22/2008 8:46:58 PM PDT by Stephanie32
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To: Tolerance Sucks Rocks

My parents never spanked me or my brothers, and we turned out okay. Parents have to decide for themselves what course they want to take on this. It’s not the government’s place to give orders on the subject - one way or the other. If I ever have kids, I’ll probably go the same way my parents went with me.

My boyfriend, on the other hand - when he’s naughty, I spank him.


21 posted on 08/22/2008 9:01:43 PM PDT by JillValentine (Being a feminist is all about being a victim. Being an armed woman is all about not being a victim.)
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To: Stephanie32

My Mom kept the hot wheel tracks on top of the fridge. She gave my brothers too much time to run when she was fishing around up there. :P


22 posted on 08/22/2008 10:19:43 PM PDT by Politicalmom (I've left the Grand Ol' Plantation. / GOP '08,- NO Soup for YOU!)
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To: Politicalmom
Mom's are like that !
23 posted on 08/23/2008 8:04:21 AM PDT by Stephanie32
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To: JillValentine
My boyfriend, on the other hand - when he’s naughty, I spank him.

Hey, no fair making me hot when I'm web-surfing! :-)

24 posted on 08/23/2008 5:20:22 PM PDT by Tolerance Sucks Rocks (Drill Here! Drill Now! Pay Less! Sign the petition at http://www.americansolutions.com/)
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To: Tolerance Sucks Rocks

Is there a way to contact Dr. Maier. I’m having some eating issues with my 10 month old.


25 posted on 01/07/2009 10:00:54 AM PST by diamond6 (Is SIDS preventable? www.Stopsidsnow.com)
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To: diamond6

I wish I could help with that one. Google him, perhaps?


26 posted on 01/07/2009 6:29:28 PM PST by Tolerance Sucks Rocks (This election gave the drunks the keys to the liquor cabinet!)
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To: JillValentine
My boyfriend, on the other hand - when he’s naughty, I spank him.

Yeah, but he probably enjoys it. :=)

27 posted on 01/07/2009 6:35:19 PM PST by Bob
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