Skip to comments.Dr. Maier: Spanking (with love) not abusive
Posted on 08/22/2008 6:28:24 PM PDT by Tolerance Sucks Rocks
A noted child and family psychologist says spanking a child can be an effective form of discipline, despite a recent study that states otherwise.
A new report titled "A Violent Education: Corporal Punishment of Children in U.S. Public Schools" shows that more than 200,000 children received corporal punishment in U.S. schools. Texas accounted for the majority of the cases, although 21 U.S. states allow the use of corporal punishment. The study was conducted by Humans Rights Watch and the American Civil Liberties Union.
According to a Reuters article on the study, "liberal groups regard corporal punishment as a barbaric relic of an unenlightened past that harms self-esteem and promotes violence." But Dr. Bill Maier, vice president and psychologist in residence with Focus on the Family, has a different perspective.
"Appropriate disciplinary spanking, done in the context of a loving parent-child relationship, is not abusive," he states.
Although Maier says Focus on the Family does not take a position on the use of spanking in school, he does say the practice has positive results when used properly in one's home.
"If it's done in a loving context, if it's followed up by an explanation, there is no evidence that it would harm their self-esteem," he explains. "In fact, we have some evidence that kids who grow up in an extremely permissive environment, in which there are no boundaries, no limits, and no guidelines, ...have a great deal of difficulty with their self-esteem -- and particularly later on in life, because they have such a sense of entitlement that basically the world owes them everything on a silver platter."
Dr. Maier also referenced the American College of Pediatricians, which has done extensive studies on the subject of spanking one's child. In a study posted on its website, the group agrees that disciplinary spanking of young children is an effective tool for parents.
Am I the only one who can't remember having ever heard the term "self esteem" until the last 10-15 years?
Nowadays all the rods are spoiled. But then even the Dalai Lama, that quintessential man of campassion and peace, was whipped occssionally by his tutors , when a boy.
But how does that boil down to the liberal wing nut position, that ALL discipline is BAAAAhahad?
Simple: The liberals want to raise sheep while conservatives want to raise lions.
Sheep do what they are told, and do not think. They only bleat. Thats the result of "no corporal punishmnt."
Guess I was lucky,never had to spank our youngins’.
Just made them think they were gettin’ one.
Talk about fun.
(Cat - omfg) - That is the cutest and funniest picture!
“Just made them think they were gettin’ one. Talk about fun.”
That was my Dad’s way. But my Mom!!! Look out, she didn’t rattle before she struck!
I had a spanking stick for my boys. A piece of lath about 18” long. Made a nice satisfying smacking sound, but was harmless. It was labeled, “Board of Education. Apply briskly to seat of learning.” Three well-mannered, well-adjusted men will vouch for its effectiveness.
How can you feel good about doing well when there are no standards to measure your accomplishment by?
No surprise there is no self-esteem, nor the self-respect which comes with accomplishing something worthwhile, because there is no way to measure the worth of an accomplishment.
Children crave boundaries and a sense of accomplishment, and all the parental and cultural laziness of an "anything goes" culture do is rob them of both.
I remember having to get my own switch.And it better be a good one.
Those were the days.
That’s one is cute too. I have to work on pictures.
Fact: I was spanked as a child.
Fact: I’m not the least bit damaged nor spoiled, and will likely instill the same principles of discipline with my children. (If I can ever find Mrs. DaveLoneRanger...)
“Those were the days.”
My Dad would say, “Keep it up and I’ll take my belt off.” But he never did. My Mom used this thin wooden breadboard or the yardstick. Ouches, that hurt. But he was the one I was scared of. Go figure.
My mom used a wooden spoon. Even when we were pretty young, we learned really quickly. All she had to do was rattle the spoons in the drawer and we’d shape up really quick.
And what happens to a parent who spanks a child in public?
The hypocrisy is that foster parents are prohibited from spanking at all in their home, but educators can do it in the schools.
Any parent who spanks in public is risking having their kids put in foster care, but the schools can do it without reprisal?
Honestly, I'm most surprised that ANY schools have that policy in place these days. I though it had been totally done away with.
My parents never spanked me or my brothers, and we turned out okay. Parents have to decide for themselves what course they want to take on this. It’s not the government’s place to give orders on the subject - one way or the other. If I ever have kids, I’ll probably go the same way my parents went with me.
My boyfriend, on the other hand - when he’s naughty, I spank him.
My Mom kept the hot wheel tracks on top of the fridge. She gave my brothers too much time to run when she was fishing around up there. :P
Hey, no fair making me hot when I'm web-surfing! :-)
Is there a way to contact Dr. Maier. I’m having some eating issues with my 10 month old.
I wish I could help with that one. Google him, perhaps?
Yeah, but he probably enjoys it. :=)