Skip to comments.The Peter Pan Myth: The Real Reason Men Won’t Settle Down
Posted on 11/19/2008 6:36:46 AM PST by AJKauf
Just how popular is Kay Hymowitzs City Journal essay, Love in the Time of Darwinism, which decries the phenomenon of marriage-avoiding man-children? So popular that it was sent to me by no less than three different friends today (all males) and its been featured on two different traffic engines this week: Arts & Letters Daily and Real Clear Politics.
Her brief is actually a mild apology for a previous essay in which she reprehended the jaded and loveless men of my generation for, as she puts it here, whiling away their leisure hours with South Park reruns, marathon sessions of World of Warcraft, and Maxim lists of the ten best movie fart scenes instead of humming Cole Porter tunes and throwing their jackets over puddles in the street for their intendeds. Courtship is dead, and mankind may well be facing extinction given how many men refuse to grow up, get hitched, and start procreating. What happened to Cary Grant? He turned into Seth Rogen.
The question isn't "Why aren't more men getting married before age 30?" It's "Why are any?" ....
(Excerpt) Read more at pajamasmedia.com ...
Why men don’t want to marry...
maybe it has something to do with sex? I mean there have always been loose women, but nowadays it takes no effort at all! Just ‘hook up’ with the nearest skank and you’re done until next time. There is even a buffet of variety!
So unless the seemingly rare man actually wants children and a mate to spend his life with, why not play Xbox all day and make a couple of calls for a booty call at night?
Why give things up if she’s not going to in kind? when working all day is followed by working all evening - with 90% of the benefits thereof going to her?
But we are now in an era which has left morality behind, left etiquette behind, left religion behind, left marriage behind, and is leaving behind the quaint notion of free markets and responsible economic behavior.
What lies ahead for us? I see only darkness.
Call?!?!? They use instant message or 2nd life to hook up — phones are so 90’s /sarc
My God, I think I'm going into a severe depression for the rest of the year.....
Never again would I!
A comedian once remarked, to save the trouble of going through divorce:
“I just find a woman I can’t stand, and buy her a house.”
Real men need damsels to rescue and adventures to live. One of the reasons WoW is so popular. Women these days that will allow themselves to be damsels are rare and as far as adventure goes forget it. You cannot have an adventure when your testicles are in the bottom of a woman's purse.
The feminist movement misdirected efforts into making it OK for women to act as sexually despicable as the men of the time instead of requiring the men to act civilly in order to have “access”.
She says she wants to be treated as an equal, yet she doesnt want you to earn less than she does. She adores gallantry and chivalry except when its seen as misogynist condescension: dare you hold a door open in the wrong setting, and thats not all youll be left holding. She wants sensitivity and good grooming and garrulousness, but too much of that and shell never come right out and say when its too much, youll only find out during the breakup and you risk looking emasculated rather than metrosexual. When shes out on the town, is it a one-night stand shes after or is she aiming to close a deal? Youll never know because as often as you go to bed with a whore and wake up with a virgin, the plot develops the other way about, too. (Dont blame Betty Friedan. Even Byron warned against the amphibious sort of harlot, / Couleur de rose, whos neither white nor scarlet.)
Women... can't live with 'em, can't.....
He also said he has been married 40 years. They were 10 of the best years of his life.
Get rid of no-fault divorce, and the problem solves itself.
The old joke, "If a man says something in the woods and there is no woman around, is he still wrong?" isn't exactly a joke. Too many women see life that way.
Now, men are wising up and not knuckling under to women, so they are branded "man-child" and insulted.
Keep it up. "Ladies"!
I’m not married because I’m looking after an aging parent and a young sibling, which doesn’t leave much time for socializing. None in fact. (We can afford professionals for these things, but when I was a baby, nobody hired a pro to raise me. Can’t buy love!)
So I’m thinking men also have their choices and just 24 hrs in a day. Besides, there are a lot of bad specimens out there. Some of us don’t want to take time away from loved ones to go out kissing toads.
(”You have to kiss a lot of toads before you find Prince Charming!”)
Who did that other than Sir Walter Raleigh, and that wasn't romance but an attempt to brown nose the boss to get a more profitable government job.
It is very difficult to have an adventure without getting arrested. Most "adventurous" stuff has long since been illegalized.
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