Skip to comments.How the One-Child Policy in China Causes Bad Manners
Posted on 11/28/2008 5:06:01 AM PST by robertvance
This sense of entitlement on the part of Chinese men is a big problem in China. In a country where 'manhood' is still highly prized, however, such behavior is not entirely surprising. One child families - where parents and grandparents spoil their children 'silly' - produce millions of men who grow up believing that they are the kings of the world. After all, even well into their late teenage years, everything is done for them. Their mothers wash their clothes, cook meals for them, and their fathers pay for four years of university - the young men never have to work until the day they step out of the university. Students who I have spoken with on this issue admit to me that they were never taught how to have good manners by their parents. It simply never came up in a conversation.
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Doesn’t sound too different than many places in America.
I wonder what American parents excuses are for raising spoiled kids.
Government policy only makes human nature worse in many cases......like this one.
"We want them to be happy!"
Not only ill-mannered, but they will have to choose HOMOSEXUALITY if there are no women and girls for them to marry.
I lived in China before these one child only boys were old enough to go out in public alone.
The men in China behaved that way then. Nothing has changed e The women have raised them this way since the beginning of time. Men are simply viewed as more important.
I’ve been hearing about the one child policy for decades, but the Chinese population doesn’t seem to have dropped. True, its growth has been arrested, but it seems to be pretty static. That means that, despite the policy, the average birth rate must be close to or slightly above the replacement rate of 2.0 per couple. So what gives? Is it only enforced on the non-connected?
not to mention words/concepts which are foreign to them: brother, sister, sibling rivalry....
The disparity between the numbers of the Chinese male population and the female populations is large and growing, mainly due to the one-child policy (female babies are aborted or put up for adoption). If it continues to grow, China will be the first gay superpower since Sparta....
I don't want them to have to struggle the way I did when I was growing up...(You know, that struggle that gave me the character and drive that made me who I am.)
“I don’t want them to have to struggle the way I did when I was growing up...(”
Like many of another generation I daresay.
“China will be the first gay superpower since Sparta....”
Sounds like a result of the Women’s ERA movement. The liberal ladies never thought about the consequences of true equality.
In most sit-down restaurants and coffee houses in Shanghai there are these neat little wireless units at each table. You can push one button to call a waitress to order, another to call for water, another to call for your check, etc. They all seem to work quite well.
But one constantly hears Chinese men yelling through the restaurant for the waitress, and in very rude and demanding voice. I mean it is sickening. One would think that they are all stinking drunk when they yell out — it is that loud, crude, and belligerent. I always hope the waitress would haul off and slap these men, but of course they will not, but act very humble and as if they are the ones deserving of the insult. It is very demeaning to the help.
And you mention sodomy (you used the PC word, “homosexuality”). We noticed sodomites operating on the tarmac in front of the Harbin City Rail Station at night as far back as 1994! It is a real and growing problem here resulting from the one-child policy which has caused a drastic ratio imbalance between the sexes.
And just another reason why China’s best and brightest females dream of having a Western man.
It is one child in the cities, two for farmers (to also help keep them on the farms), and three for minorities. It averages out to about 1.7-1.8 kids per family. There biggest issue is the great leap forward pushed families up to 3-4 kids, their baby boom. The one child rule was so that all those large families didn’t have large families in turn.
Three for minorities? Aren’t they all Chinese (I’m aware that isn’t a completely uniform demographic)? And don’t the Chinese traditionally look down on foreigners?
Some groups like the Urgurs and other minorities in Western China are allowed three children. Except Tibetans, who are allowed just one, unless they’re married to a Chinese (usually male). Then it’s two.
Very interesting. I bet that if the Uighur community provides a haven for signficant Islamist terrorism this would be a policy subject to revision.
And, one for Tibet is incredibly harsh, and must be part of their policy to slowly obliterate the distinctive Tibetan culture.
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