I’ll have to say that my father was in a nursing home for the last three weeks of his life, had advanced prostate cancer, and they hand fed him and treated him like a baby. He constantly expressed gratitude to them for everything.
Good for your family. Not all residents are treated badly. The help know who they can treat badly, and “get away” with it. They have compassion for those who are dying, but treat Alzheimer’s residents differently, thinking the residents, “know better”, and are faking some of their illness. No one with Alzheimer’s is a fake. It’s devastating to see once beautiful, smart people become like children or worse. Some linger for dozens of years in a zombie like state. Those are the ones most susceptible to idiots.