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Women Prefer Prestige Over Dominance in Mates
Personal Relationships ^ | December 17, 2008 | Amy Molnar

Posted on 12/18/2008 12:33:02 AM PST by 2ndDivisionVet

Los Angeles, CA – A new study in the journal Personal Relationships reveals that women prefer mates who are recognized by their peers for their skills, abilities, and achievements, while not preferring men who use coercive tactics to subordinate their rivals. Indeed, women found dominance strategies of the latter type to be attractive primarily when men used them in the context of male-male athletic competitions.

Jeffrey K. Snyder, Lee A. Kirkpatrick, and H. Clark Barrett conducted three studies with college women at two U.S. universities. Participants evaluated hypothetical potential mates described in written vignettes. The studies were designed to examine the respective effects of men’s dominance and prestige on women’s assessments of men.

Women are sensitive to the context in which men display domineering behaviors when they evaluate men as potential mates. For example, the traits and behaviors that women found attractive in athletic competitions were unattractive to women when men displayed the same traits and behaviors in interpersonal contexts. Notably, when considering prospective partners for long-term relationships, women’s preferences for dominance decrease, and their preferences for prestige increase.

“These findings directly contradict the dating advice of some pop psychologists who advise men to be aggressive in their social interactions. Women most likely avoid dominant men as long-term romantic partners because a dominant man may also be domineering in the household.” the authors conclude.


TOPICS: Culture/Society; Extended News; News/Current Events
KEYWORDS: humans; mating; relationships; sex
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How much do you want to bet that our tax money was used to fund this study?
1 posted on 12/18/2008 12:33:02 AM PST by 2ndDivisionVet
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To: 2ndDivisionVet

If I were a betting man, I’d say $5.


2 posted on 12/18/2008 12:38:25 AM PST by wastedyears ("Life's tough... It's even tougher if you're stupid." - John Wayne)
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To: 2ndDivisionVet

How would one go about finding out if that suspicion is correct?


3 posted on 12/18/2008 12:44:32 AM PST by worst-case scenario (Striving to reach the light)
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To: worst-case scenario

Trust me, it is correct. LOL. Women (most) don’t like the dominating type! Merry Christmas!


4 posted on 12/18/2008 1:30:38 AM PST by LouisianaJoanof Arc (6 hours of mourning is enough. Now, stand up and fight and take back this country.)
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To: 2ndDivisionVet
So most women prefer men who are limp-wristed and kicked around by others?

Men need to stay the hell away from women like that. Avoid them like the plague.

5 posted on 12/18/2008 2:05:11 AM PST by NoControllingLegalAuthority
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To: LouisianaJoanof Arc

Not in my experience.


6 posted on 12/18/2008 2:30:44 AM PST by Vanders9
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To: LouisianaJoanof Arc

Not in my experience.


7 posted on 12/18/2008 2:30:54 AM PST by Vanders9
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To: LouisianaJoanof Arc

Not in my experience.


8 posted on 12/18/2008 2:31:00 AM PST by Vanders9
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To: 2ndDivisionVet
"For example, the traits and behaviors that women found attractive in athletic competitions were unattractive to women when men displayed the same traits and behaviors in interpersonal contexts."

So. my stories about stick-checking my co-workers won't get me anywhere with the ladies?

9 posted on 12/18/2008 2:32:50 AM PST by muir_redwoods (B. O. Stinks!!!)
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To: 2ndDivisionVet

Completely pointless.

What they have done is write out a series of profiles and asked women to choose from amongst them. Interesting, but it proves very little.

I don’t know much about women (what man does) but I do know one thing: What women SAY they want, and what they actually DO want, are two very, very different things.


10 posted on 12/18/2008 2:35:03 AM PST by Vanders9
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To: 2ndDivisionVet

unless your last name is clinton, or madoff


11 posted on 12/18/2008 3:05:45 AM PST by personalaccts (Is George W going to protect the border?)
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To: LouisianaJoanof Arc

Merry Christmas back atcha! But I don’t agree with you. But then, I personally like cowboys.


12 posted on 12/18/2008 3:10:47 AM PST by mathluv ( Conservative first and foremost, republican second)
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To: 2ndDivisionVet

women prefer money.


13 posted on 12/18/2008 3:40:36 AM PST by ken21 (people die and you never hear from them again.)
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To: ken21
women prefer mates who are recognized by their peers for their skills, abilities, and achievements

Some women are really in a beauty competition with other women. They try to 1) make other women envious of them, and 2) destroy that which makes them envious. It isn't about rich doctors with money driving Porsches as much as it is about pissing off other women.

14 posted on 12/18/2008 3:55:12 AM PST by Reeses (Leftism is powered by the evil force of envy.)
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To: 2ndDivisionVet

DR. LAURA:

“Honey... one day you will need a man to protect you and defend you... and if you do not marry a real man... you will not have one”.

LLS


15 posted on 12/18/2008 4:14:44 AM PST by LibLieSlayer (MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!! so sue me!)
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To: Reeses

“Some women are really in a beauty competition with other women.”

You are right! There are many like that.


16 posted on 12/18/2008 4:19:44 AM PST by caver (Yes, I did crawl out of a hole in the ground.)
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To: 2ndDivisionVet
Anyone interested in this subject should read Robert Crumb the famous cartoonist. Crumb, a self-confessed artistic nerd in high school, bitterly complained that the most obnoxious, strutting, violent males got all the women while the skinny, shy, more artistic, non-athletic and non-violent types like him suffered. His asserted that women craved men who appeared powerful, and the more overt the bad behavior, the better.

Crumb later boasted that after becoming famous he made up for lost ground, but he always retained his cynicism towards women because of his high-school experiences. By the way, Crumb is hardly anyones idea of a morally, upright person as he himself readily admitted.

17 posted on 12/18/2008 4:23:04 AM PST by driftless2
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To: Reeses
"pissing off other women"

I've made the same observation before. Many men egotistically believe that all women dress to attract them. Obviously some women do, but, like you, I believe many women are in a competition with other women between themselves.

18 posted on 12/18/2008 4:26:05 AM PST by driftless2
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To: driftless2

“Crumb later boasted that after becoming famous he made up for lost ground, but he always retained his cynicism towards women because of his high-school experiences.”

Yeah well - boo hoo Mr. Crumb.Join the club.
Some of us ladies have retained some of our own cynicism towards men because of our high school experiences too.


19 posted on 12/18/2008 4:26:54 AM PST by Scotswife
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To: driftless2

that’s “he asserted” not “his asserted. “Proofreading is a poster’s best friend. Paragraphs are a close second.


20 posted on 12/18/2008 4:28:17 AM PST by driftless2
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To: ken21

“women prefer money.”

That must be why I was so smitten with my teacher-to-be boyfriend-turned-hubby who was saddled with student loans.


21 posted on 12/18/2008 4:29:32 AM PST by Scotswife
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To: Reeses

“Some women are really in a beauty competition with other women. They try to 1) make other women envious of them, and 2) destroy that which makes them envious. It isn’t about rich doctors with money driving Porsches as much as it is about pissing off other women.”

I have noticed this with some women - but then again - I’ve noticed this with some jerky guys too.


22 posted on 12/18/2008 4:30:57 AM PST by Scotswife
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To: 2ndDivisionVet
women prefer mates who are recognized by their peers for their skills, abilities, and achievements

That would certainly explain why guys with bad teeth and neck tattoos get laid alot.

23 posted on 12/18/2008 4:33:38 AM PST by CholeraJoe ("Hey you, hey you! This won't hurt a bit!")
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To: Scotswife
"boo-hoo"

You're right, and Crumb himself used women as throwaways on achieving success. (He did have one particular quirk in determining how attractive a women was: he found the most desirable (to him) women were the ones with very prominent i.e. large posteriors.) It works both ways. If you are a relatively unattractive wallflower type, your prospects are a lot less than than the popular, athletic, or in-crowd types. Facts of life.

24 posted on 12/18/2008 4:35:29 AM PST by driftless2
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To: najida

ping!


25 posted on 12/18/2008 4:35:59 AM PST by Scotswife
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To: LibLieSlayer

DR. LAURA:

“Honey... one day you will need a man to protect you and defend you... and if you do not marry a real man... you will not have one”.

LLS

Words to live by


26 posted on 12/18/2008 4:39:30 AM PST by roaddog727 (BS does not get bridges built - the funk you see is the funk you do)
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To: driftless2

“Obviously some women do, but, like you, I believe many women are in a competition with other women between themselves.”

These generally would be the ladies caught up in designer labels as opposed to simply picking styles that flatter them.

Now sometimes there is the genuine appreciation for a designer’s talent, and quality of clothing.

But you will see an obsession to buy stuff just because of the name and not necessarily how it looks.
When that happens it is usually competition w/ other women, because men just don’t give a rip about whose name is on the label.


27 posted on 12/18/2008 4:39:56 AM PST by Scotswife
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To: NoControllingLegalAuthority

No. I don’t think that’s what the article is saying at all. Just the opposite.

Here’s my take: Women prefer men with prestige, which means men that are successful in business and social interactions. These are unlikely to be limp-wristed and kicked around by others.

My interpretation (and experience) is that the men who are excessively pushy and swaggering when dealing with women are those who are failures in other areas of their lives. Women sense this and do not like it. Men who are successful in the world at large, don’t need to make up for their inadequacies by being obnoxious and pushy with women.

Most women like strong men, men who are secure in their masculinity and their prestige, strong enough to treat a woman nicely and behave like a gentleman.

I think the word aggressive has been warped into a bad thing. If aggressive means picking fights or hitting a woman over the head and dragging her back to the cave, then no, it’s not attractive to women. If aggressive means taking the initiative, flirting, asking a woman for a date, pursuing a career, playing sports, leading (a company, a boy scout troop, a sports team, ...), defending his family, serving in the military, building things with his hands, exploring the world (physically or intellectually), standing up for what’s right, etc., then it’s very attractive to a woman.


28 posted on 12/18/2008 4:41:40 AM PST by generally (Don't be stupid. We have politicians for that.)
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To: ken21

The women who prefer $$ are not the ones you really want. The best women are the ones who prefer a sense of humor. Luckily, that is a lot of them.


29 posted on 12/18/2008 4:45:28 AM PST by rbg81 (DRAIN THE SWAMP!!)
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To: Reeses
Some women are really in a beauty competition with other women.It isn't about rich doctors with money driving Porsches as much as it is about pissing off other women.

So true. I wish I had realized this when I was in my late 20's.

30 posted on 12/18/2008 4:47:15 AM PST by CholeraJoe ("Hey you, hey you! This won't hurt a bit!")
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To: roaddog727

I thought so too, when I heard her say it.

LLS


31 posted on 12/18/2008 4:53:21 AM PST by LibLieSlayer (MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!! so sue me!)
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To: 2ndDivisionVet
…conducted three studies with college women at two U.S. universities.

That’s one of the problems…

I’d say that “college women” of 2008 are emotionally and intellectually *inferior* to junior-high girls of 1940.

Very naïve, despite their “education” and overall pretty hapless. Probably 35% of them would be good for a quick, easy hit - then ignore them like the other 65%.

Anyway, you might notice that the study (studies?) starts out mentioning “mates” and later muddies the water with “long term relationship” or such…

Just watch a random episode of Maury Povich and you’ll see a lot of “women” that have chosen “mates” that are *other* than their “long term relationship” as they have inexplicably become pregnant by someone *other* than their husband/fiancée, etc.

Incidentally, what cracks me up is the number of sluts that test more than *five* different guys and *still* can’t figure out who the daddy is - but I’m sure all of them were well-respected by their peers on some level.

32 posted on 12/18/2008 4:56:02 AM PST by Who dat?
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To: Scotswife; driftless2

I will bet that Crumb, as a nerdy high school guy, was only interested in dating the homecoming queen or other beauty queen types. If he found them to be shallow due to the fact that they were uninterested in him, I think he should first look at his own shallowness. Did any girl who was not Playboy material have a chance with him? He expected them to appreciate his good qualities and “inner beauty” when he could not appreciate theirs?

I think many of us who were not either beauty queens or star athletes had similar high school experiences with dating (or lack of it). Most of us grew out of it. Those of us who are lucky manage to find partners who grew out of it, too!

Sure there are guys and gals out there who are still shallow. Plenty of men over 50 are only interested in dating women in their 20s. But would you really want a guy like that? Many women are only interested in dating Brad Pitt. Do you really want a woman like that?


33 posted on 12/18/2008 4:56:28 AM PST by generally (Don't be stupid. We have politicians for that.)
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To: generally
Brad Pitt is feminine in appearance. I've never understood the attraction.
34 posted on 12/18/2008 4:59:41 AM PST by trisham (Zen is not easy. It takes effort to attain nothingness. And then what do you have? Bupkis.)
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To: 2ndDivisionVet

It would be interesting to see a profile of the “university students” used in the study. It appears to have a severe sample bias.

The number one attraction in relationships is that “We are attracted toward personalities who are similar with persons who we have unresolved conflict.” It’s a soul cleansing thing. It’s the reason most women marry their father and most men marry their mother. Problem is in these relationships, when we get close enough to begin experiencing true intimacy, we are comfortable enough to allow our unresolved conflict to surface and we hate the person and have no idea why. Thus marriage can be defined as that dance where we find a comfortable distance where we can tolerate but still be close enough to be in the relationship!

The irony is that women who have conflict with their mother tend to marry submissive men while men who have conflict with their father marry submissive women. That is unless a gay relationship is intellectually acceptable, in which case they will look for the conflict personality for a relationship. Even in gay relationships, one is masculine dominate and one is feminine dominate.


35 posted on 12/18/2008 5:10:59 AM PST by tired&retired
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To: trisham

It’s the personna projected by the person, not the gender.


36 posted on 12/18/2008 5:12:08 AM PST by tired&retired
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To: generally
"Crumb"

Crumb had-has weird sexual quirks, to put it mildly. He loved women with huge rear ends. And he had a shoe fetish. He idealized women in some respects, but disliked them in others. He's a typical nationalize everything leftist, but hates feminists and rock and roll...especially Bruce Springsteen. He confessed that he didn't find skinny women attractive. In short, he was a mess. Which he readily admitted in his comics which were mostly autobiographical.

I haven't read anything by him since he moved to France over ten years ago, but I doubt he's changed much. An award winning documentary was made about him (called "Crumb") in the nineties shortly before he moved to France.

37 posted on 12/18/2008 5:53:54 AM PST by driftless2
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To: mathluv

To all who disagreed with me, ok, I would never try to dominate your thinking! Merry Christmas.


38 posted on 12/18/2008 5:55:34 AM PST by LouisianaJoanof Arc (6 hours of mourning is enough. Now, stand up and fight and take back this country.)
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To: Who dat?

Incoming ........... head for cover!


39 posted on 12/18/2008 5:57:07 AM PST by Old Badger (After this sorry election, boy do opportunities abound!)
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To: 2ndDivisionVet

I couldn’t be with a man who was more girly than me. No way.


40 posted on 12/18/2008 5:59:18 AM PST by JenB987
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To: 2ndDivisionVet

So according to the “study” there are two kinds of guys:

Successful guys. And guys who use aggression to (try) to be successful, but who aren’t. The clear missing factoid being, the second group seems pre-defined to exclude guys, who are the combination: aggressively successful. The traditional alpha male.

No bias in that study, nope.

And it might be noted, utterly missing the fact that most guys are best at just being guys - not “networking” blue-state dweebs whose pentultimate goal in life, is winning silly contests of office politics.

Sheesh.


41 posted on 12/18/2008 6:05:04 AM PST by Cringing Negativism Network ("Free Trade" = Fire Americans. Buy another company then fire more Americans.)
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To: Scotswife

“That must be why I was so smitten with my teacher-to-be boyfriend-turned-hubby who was saddled with student loans.”

Amen!

I’m far more in love with and proud of my husband for his qualities as a man than his paycheck.


42 posted on 12/18/2008 6:07:48 AM PST by JenB987
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To: wastedyears
If I were a betting man, I’d say $5.

No, no, no. The question wasn't "what are the results worth?" The question was how much did they pay for this study -- I'd guess half a million dollars or so. Actually, the results are worth a warm bucket of pi$$.

43 posted on 12/18/2008 6:13:24 AM PST by ProtectOurFreedom
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To: 2ndDivisionVet

It’s a given.


44 posted on 12/18/2008 6:26:55 AM PST by GOPJ (Gun Control-:- like trying to control stray dogs by neutering veterinarians.- G. Jonas)
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To: Scotswife

Thanks-— I’m sharing it with the girls.


45 posted on 12/18/2008 8:15:16 AM PST by najida (Alone is not an illness to be cured, but a gift to be cherished..)
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To: Reeses

Men, if you are confused about women, listen to these wise words. Then go try to find you a woman who doesn’t do that, if they exist.


46 posted on 12/18/2008 8:48:42 AM PST by Free Vulcan (No prisoners. No mercy. 2010 awaits.....)
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To: 2ndDivisionVet
What do women want? I think George Harrison said it best
............

I got my mind set on you

But its gonna take money
A whole lotta spending money
Its gonne take plenty of money
To do it right child

47 posted on 12/18/2008 9:26:02 AM PST by Nonstatist
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To: Cringing Negativism Network

“Successful guys. And guys who use aggression to (try) to be successful, but who aren’t. The clear missing factoid being, the second group seems pre-defined to exclude guys, who are the combination: aggressively successful. The traditional alpha male.”

That’s exactly it. I suppose you could say the more attractive ones are smarter with their aggressiveness.
Could it be? Maybe they manage to not be jerks?

Maybe they are more successful because they are more pleasant to be around?

naw - that couldn’t be it.


48 posted on 12/18/2008 10:41:12 AM PST by Scotswife
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To: NoControllingLegalAuthority

It sounds more like women like men who have earned a high status rather than men who are just jerks to everyone.


49 posted on 12/18/2008 10:44:37 AM PST by MediaMole
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To: driftless2
Crumb, a self-confessed artistic nerd in high school, bitterly complained that the most obnoxious, strutting, violent males got all the women while the skinny, shy, more artistic, non-athletic and non-violent types like him suffered. His asserted that women craved men who appeared powerful, and the more overt the bad behavior, the better.

That may be true in high school, but such behaviors are not a way to make it in the post-high school world.

Women tend to be attracted to guys who are successful. But, the definition of "success" changes from environment to environment. The high school football star is not as attractive 10 years later when he's an insurance salesman who can't stop talking about his high school glory days.

50 posted on 12/18/2008 10:47:20 AM PST by Citizen Blade (What would Ronald Reagan do?)
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