Skip to comments.Slouching Toward Fatherhood
Posted on 04/18/2009 7:05:26 PM PDT by huac
"...These were the tiny, fleeting pleasures I clung to after my son was born. They felt like all I had left. When a child was added to my life, it was as if something enormous and coveted was subtracted in return, and the transaction left me reeling, like someone who'd just gambled away his soul. I fell into a well of depression so deep I wasn't even aware of it. It was only years later, after I spoke to a psychotherapist, that I learned I was experiencing male postpartum depression...But not 48 hours after we returned home with our boy, a truth dawned on me with shocking force: my life was gone. Movies, sleeping, long showersall gone. We became slaves to this tiny new thing living in our home...ceded nearly complete authority to my wife, then blamed both her and my son for my feelings of loss and insignificance. I took on every parental responsibility with sucked-up reluctance on the outside and contempt on the inside..."
(Excerpt) Read more at newsweek.com ...
Obviously, this kid is crying because instead of having a man for his father, he gets Tinkerbell. If this guy is a tax cheat, he's a cinch for a Obama Cabinet appointment.
Second Best Line: “...I couldn’t mask my sadness when my work colleagues asked excitedly about fatherhood. “It’s good well, it’s OK,” I said. “Actually, it’s very, very hard.” By then, I was close to tears...”
Oh, Mandy, will you kiss me and stop me from shaking, and I neeeeeeeed yoooooooooooo!
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It’s taking far too long for people to grow up.
I feel sorry for his kid.
No offense if I say that he sounds worse than the traditional Jewish mother.
Good grief, if I didn’t hang out here, I would not know there are real men in existence.
Well, that’s not entirely true. I know some great fathers and very good men. This is not one of them.
The phrase ‘selfish metrosexual d**chebag’ doesn’t quite do him justice.
I truly hope this nonsense is just more breathless media hysterics, and not indicative of what’s happened to men (or in his case, an overgrown boy) in this country.
I remember all my life
Raining down as cold as ice
A shadow of a man
A face through a window
Crying in the night
Thirty one years old and failed to grow up in time for fatherhood. The wife sounded wimpy too and I speak as a woman.
This guy says he was 31 years old at the time,and by saying this, it shows he was not yet a man!
A professional liberal can't deal with life. Why an I not surprised.
"(We had twin girls after my son.)"
*It was only years later, after I spoke to a psychotherapist, that I learned I was experiencing male postpartum depression...*
So this schmuck gives a complete stranger a few thousand bucks and receives absolution instead of being slapped and called a pussy? The West is finished.
This guy was 31? Geesh!
I was 18 when my first child was born, and I wasn’t ready, even though I was the oldest of seven girls. I remember with crystal clarity the second night after we both came home from the hospital.
Her crying woke me from sleep. I didn’t want to get up, having had little sleep the night before. I listened, and it dawned on me that there was no-one else to take care of this helpless little girl. I was it. It was my responsibility and no-one else’s. Her very life depended on me being there to meet her needs.
I became a mother in those few seconds. God called me, and I answered, even though I was young and inexperienced. What was wrong with this 31 year old that he couldn’t hear?
This is the face of Progressive America. A PBS producer publishes a “serious” story in Newsweek about male postpartum depression, monumental selfishness and a lot of crying. But fear not, judging from the portrait of our hero at the URL, he’s got child-bearing hips. With a little more fetal stem cell research, we might finally wrest the monopoly of pregnancy from Womyn.
A professional liberal can’t deal with life...
Hey, come on now, give the guy a break. None of this fatherhood stuff has ever happened to anybody before him.
“...Her crying woke me from sleep....I became a mother in those few seconds...”
The same circumstances reduced Schwartzberg to tears and he became a PBS producer. Go figure.
There's nothing as noisily histrionic as a liberal who slams up against unavoidable personal responsibility. Victimhood positively erupts out of their very bone marrow, even if they have to blame their wives and infants to justify their squalling. This is the very essence of liberalism, this trans-dimensional, galaxy-sized, black hole of pure selfishness. And it also explains the real reason this guy was upset - his new baby stole all Mommy's attention away from him. But that's not enough - then he has the shamelessness to write an article admitting his own stunning level of immaturity! Liberals are stupifyingly pathetic.
The last thing a son wants to see is his dad falling apart. What a pu**y.
It sounds like he never really thought about what becoming a parent means. You do have to give up things, that is part of the deal. I don’t have kids but I do have a sister that is 12.5 years younger than I am so know what having babies around is all about, it sounds like he’d never been around a baby before his son?