Skip to comments.Slouching Toward Fatherhood
Posted on 04/18/2009 7:05:26 PM PDT by huac
"...These were the tiny, fleeting pleasures I clung to after my son was born. They felt like all I had left. When a child was added to my life, it was as if something enormous and coveted was subtracted in return, and the transaction left me reeling, like someone who'd just gambled away his soul. I fell into a well of depression so deep I wasn't even aware of it. It was only years later, after I spoke to a psychotherapist, that I learned I was experiencing male postpartum depression...But not 48 hours after we returned home with our boy, a truth dawned on me with shocking force: my life was gone. Movies, sleeping, long showersall gone. We became slaves to this tiny new thing living in our home...ceded nearly complete authority to my wife, then blamed both her and my son for my feelings of loss and insignificance. I took on every parental responsibility with sucked-up reluctance on the outside and contempt on the inside..."
(Excerpt) Read more at newsweek.com ...
Obviously, this kid is crying because instead of having a man for his father, he gets Tinkerbell. If this guy is a tax cheat, he's a cinch for a Obama Cabinet appointment.
Second Best Line: “...I couldn’t mask my sadness when my work colleagues asked excitedly about fatherhood. “It’s good well, it’s OK,” I said. “Actually, it’s very, very hard.” By then, I was close to tears...”
Oh, Mandy, will you kiss me and stop me from shaking, and I neeeeeeeed yoooooooooooo!
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It’s taking far too long for people to grow up.
I feel sorry for his kid.
No offense if I say that he sounds worse than the traditional Jewish mother.
Good grief, if I didn’t hang out here, I would not know there are real men in existence.
Well, that’s not entirely true. I know some great fathers and very good men. This is not one of them.
The phrase ‘selfish metrosexual d**chebag’ doesn’t quite do him justice.
I truly hope this nonsense is just more breathless media hysterics, and not indicative of what’s happened to men (or in his case, an overgrown boy) in this country.
I remember all my life
Raining down as cold as ice
A shadow of a man
A face through a window
Crying in the night
Thirty one years old and failed to grow up in time for fatherhood. The wife sounded wimpy too and I speak as a woman.
This guy says he was 31 years old at the time,and by saying this, it shows he was not yet a man!
A professional liberal can't deal with life. Why an I not surprised.
"(We had twin girls after my son.)"
*It was only years later, after I spoke to a psychotherapist, that I learned I was experiencing male postpartum depression...*
So this schmuck gives a complete stranger a few thousand bucks and receives absolution instead of being slapped and called a pussy? The West is finished.
This guy was 31? Geesh!
I was 18 when my first child was born, and I wasn’t ready, even though I was the oldest of seven girls. I remember with crystal clarity the second night after we both came home from the hospital.
Her crying woke me from sleep. I didn’t want to get up, having had little sleep the night before. I listened, and it dawned on me that there was no-one else to take care of this helpless little girl. I was it. It was my responsibility and no-one else’s. Her very life depended on me being there to meet her needs.
I became a mother in those few seconds. God called me, and I answered, even though I was young and inexperienced. What was wrong with this 31 year old that he couldn’t hear?
This is the face of Progressive America. A PBS producer publishes a “serious” story in Newsweek about male postpartum depression, monumental selfishness and a lot of crying. But fear not, judging from the portrait of our hero at the URL, he’s got child-bearing hips. With a little more fetal stem cell research, we might finally wrest the monopoly of pregnancy from Womyn.
A professional liberal can’t deal with life...
Hey, come on now, give the guy a break. None of this fatherhood stuff has ever happened to anybody before him.
“...Her crying woke me from sleep....I became a mother in those few seconds...”
The same circumstances reduced Schwartzberg to tears and he became a PBS producer. Go figure.
There's nothing as noisily histrionic as a liberal who slams up against unavoidable personal responsibility. Victimhood positively erupts out of their very bone marrow, even if they have to blame their wives and infants to justify their squalling. This is the very essence of liberalism, this trans-dimensional, galaxy-sized, black hole of pure selfishness. And it also explains the real reason this guy was upset - his new baby stole all Mommy's attention away from him. But that's not enough - then he has the shamelessness to write an article admitting his own stunning level of immaturity! Liberals are stupifyingly pathetic.
The last thing a son wants to see is his dad falling apart. What a pu**y.
It sounds like he never really thought about what becoming a parent means. You do have to give up things, that is part of the deal. I don’t have kids but I do have a sister that is 12.5 years younger than I am so know what having babies around is all about, it sounds like he’d never been around a baby before his son?
“...The last thing a son wants to see is his dad falling apart. What a pu**y...”
I can’t imagine what I would do if I saw my father, or any man, cry like that. It remind’s me of that scene from the movie, Patton, when the good General slaps the crap out of the coward who is crying because he’s afraid to go back to the front. Of course, there is a difference. The individual in the movie is a coward. Mr. S is both a coward and a sniveler.
Not to be contentious, but I suspect that there might be a simpler explanation. Mr. S is a sniveling wimp and classic invertebrate liberal, a massive ego covered with quivering, tear-soaked jelly.
What a self-absorbed POS. That poor kid is starting out in life with one strike against him.
What a pathetic, whiny, selfish. Loser.
What a putz. The world is doomed...doomed I tell you!
Wow! What a shock! /s
Did you see what this loser does for work? He's a producer for PBS. These things just write themselves ;-)
Let’s see...I don’t get to see R-rated movies anymore and I can’t take long showers. In return I get to see my son’s and daughter’s eyes light up whenever I come from work. I’ll take it.
Sleeping is overrated.
Wait until this d-bag’s kids start playing sports or doing dance or scouts or piano or whatever. I haven’t had a Saturday “off” in 7 months and I couldn’t be happier.
...The last thing a son wants to see is his dad falling apart. What a pu**y...
Well, I didn’t “fall apart”, but my kids do see me with a tear in my eye once in awhile. The last time was a couple of weeks ago. I was reading to them from the Declaration of Independence.
They also got to see me angry too.
I hope that happens, for the kids sake. But I think Mom will be the one taking the responsibility. This wuss is going to be a very lonely "man" very soon.
a scene from the Godfather comes to mind.
waaaa waaaaa! Whats da matter wit u! Be a man! boo hoo, god father god father, (SLAP) Tom Hagen snickers in corner
Somebody needs to give that boy a godfather talking to.
This is the result of us expecting nothing from the youth today. Everyone says, oh, your sooooo young, you don’t know what your doing. Bull hockey! I have always told my kids, age is NOT an excuse!! God selected the Virgin Mary at 15 to bear the Son of God, so you can MAN UP! My 21 year old is getting married this Jan, my 17 year old is bound for seminary next Sept. Start expecting things of your kids, they will NOT let you down. They will always give you what you expect of them, and that sniveling snot bag is proof that when you expect NOTHING thats what you get.
Oh yeah, and try keeping the boys away from body lotion, eyebrow waxing, and manicures. They seem to be women enough already! YEESH!
My ex-husband could have written this, which is the biggest reason he is my ex-husband. He would never even touch the babies unless there was a third party there to see him do it, and as soon as they were gone whatever baby he was holding would get dumped. The hardest part was just keeping them alive.
Yeah, about as bright as Levi Johnston running his trash mouth on TV. No class, and both poor excuses for "men."
Bawling like a baby and indulging in some metrosexual feminized getting in touch with your feelings gland is nauseating.
Some people just shouldn’t have children. If you’re contemplating starting a family because “that’s what people do after they get married,” please—don’t.
Not everybody is cut out for parenthood. Of course your normal guy who finds that out too late becomes a workaholic, keeps you away from the kid and gets you money for stuff like nannies and schools on the other side of the country.
I remember the feeleings when our daughter was a baby. Two in the morning and sitting on the edge of your bed, convinced that you just can’t do it any more. And I also remember the memories of sitting in the glider at 2:20 in the morning, rocking her back to sleep and realizing that there just is no better feeling in the world.
I can't imagine why! /sarc
I’ve seen a lot of these types of stories lately and it’s sad.
Yes, babies take time, but I never remember resenting it or feeling trapped. They are just such a joy... at least that’s the way I remember it.
But what’s goin’ on with all these downside of parenthood stories.
*This poor kid’s mama must have been sleeping around and got knocked up, because it’s pretty obvious that this guy has no balls. *
The best part of the story is the dumbass fathers twins with his wife even after the first kid totally ruins his pathetic life. So he couldn’t even man up and get a vasectomy to save himself further torment. Then the b*tch dumps him and he’s on the hook for 3 child support payments. High-larious.
The story is a lot worse than this snippet looks.
He’d drive an hour for his doughnuts, but wouldn’t spend ten minutes of proud father face time with his son.
Fehh, you still get to go to movies after fatherhood - they are just 2 hour long toy commericals.
I believe a very important thing for a son is to know that his father is proud of him whenever he does well. Aloof and contemptuous fathers poison the next generation of men.
Parenthood goes by so fast it is more like a blur anyways.
I was 27 when my daughter was born. She was born healthy, we took her home from the hospital two days later, and she started screaming about midnight that first night.
At about 0130, I was thinking she has a clean diaper, Her mom just breast fed her, what could be wrong? Then as I sat there rocking her I passed a finger over her lips and she tried to suck on it. Somehow the thought came through that my wife’s milk hadn’t come in yet and she was hungry.
I think that may have been the point I became a father. We didn’t have any formula on hand so that was my first barely awake, eyes half closed late night trip to the store.
WHO are these people who think that just because you have a child that your life is over? no movies? no long showers? GET REAL!!! I’m pretty sure that all of us who have children still go to movies and take showers and sleep.
You know it seems to me that there is an epidemic of men who just don’t feel that paternal bond to their children.
That instinctive need to love, protect and nurture your offspring.
No kidding. I was so glad when my son was old enough to see PG movies with me. "Spiderman" was the first time for that. I was free!