It is interesting when I read what you wrote. In family situations it works much the same way. Once you help them they resent or even hate you. The help most often does not change their lives because they have not changed their behavior.
Not surprising that this translates the same on a national scale.
That is not exactly the way I see it. GWB thought he could buy love. But there was a theory about this they were telling republicans that home ownership creates conservatives, ownership society. That backfired beyond belief. He turned the country side into suburbs and democrat.