You know I would think that common sense would dictate the nature/nurture idea, but hormones more than likely play one of the greatest roles. Testosterone itself plays a key role in masculinity, both physically & emotionally.
What’s horrible for a person is when they are born hermaphrodite. I met a little girl, 7 years old about 6 years ago. After knowing her for about 2 years, I noticed that she started going to school, the same school she had always attended, dressed as a boy. I gently asked her mother what was up with that, and she told me of her child’s condition and said that her daughter has decided she wanted to live as a male.
Her mother never let her wear a bathing suit because it outlined both of her sets of genitalia. I have to say the emotional trauma this child may experience from going through school where peers knew her as a girl, could put her/him over the top. I think I may have considered changing schools to give her/him a fresh start, with no one ever knowing his female side.
Some people say that they would have had one of the sets of genitalia removed at birth. Well, which one? This is difficult because you need to wait & see which way the child’s hormones are going to push their development, especially emotionally. But who decides this? As a parent, who would risk it? I don’t know what I personally would do if I had a child like this.
I think its a confusing issue, because of the emotions involved. The physical appearance doesn’t have half the impact that the emotional side has in pushing a person to a like gender.
What you describe is hardly the same thing. Sexual behavior is highly varied and is limited only by the imagination. One only has to explore documented fetishes and varied sexual behavior to understand this. Hermaphroditism is another thing altogether and I do see a flaw in your reasoning though I have great sympathy for such children and the adults they become. The idea that hormones be the guide for behavior is the casting off of the mantle of humanity. The desires of a person can be varied and sometimes even violent but while all men have desires all driven by the endocrine system interfaced intimately with the mind in such a way that it is hard to determine sometimes which comes first. That is not to say a child born with ambiguous genitalia does not faces real challenges and offer a unique situation.
A good link is below.
However confusing this with the plight of sexual activists would be an great injustice. Homosexuality in particular has a history of being defined as a mental disorder. Also the goals of sexual activists should not be confused or married with the tolerance of such individuals. Their desire to use the public schools, government, and popular culture to enforce sexual ambiguity and to promote an incorrect sexual behavior on the general populace places the egos and sexual desires of a minority over the psychological well being and the normal development of majority which even now faces threats at the mere question or debate of such issues.
Some have no choice about their physical malformations but everyone with a certain degree of intelligence has a choice about how they ultimately behave in relation to others whether it be sexually or not. Those that promote the idea that their individual sexual behavior is not within their realm of control are promoting a dangerous license of which we have already seen the result not just among Homosexuals but among heterosexuals with disease and single mothers and the furtherance of the idea that a child does not need both a mother and a father which has had a devastating result for the children involved.