My son goes to a couple of VFW’s in the Orlando area- he loves talking with the older vets (he likes the music from the 60,’s and 70’s anyway). He says he has more in common with a vet in his 50’s or 80’s than he does with a lot of the guys he went to school with.
He doesn’t go often- but when he’s having a bad day- that’s where he heads to..
I'm sure glad he has that option. It's the very reason these clubs exist in the first place, although it's rarely mentioned. A place to be where everyone 'gets it', whatever the 'it' happens to be depending on personal experience. Everyone there understands, without having to know the exact reasons for a 'bad day' because most have had their own bad days.
It's why figuring out how to get more members is so important. Most think these are simply social clubs for vets, but it's far deeper than that. OTOH, there is a social club component and it's the first reason people first walk in.