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Posted on 06/24/2009 4:13:16 PM PDT by ConservativeStatement
A woman left her baby on a Metra train Tuesday but immediately called police when she realized her mistake, allowing officers to reunite mother and child soon afterwards.
The woman stepped off a Union Pacific North Line train at 6:11 p.m. in North Chicago and quickly realized she had left her baby on the train in a stroller, said Judy Pardonnet, a spokeswoman for Metra.
"She just said she forgot to take the stroller off the train," Pardonnet said.
She called North Chicago police and the train was stopped a few minutes later, she said. North Chicago police called Waukegan police to meet the train at the Waukegan station and take custody of the baby until the mother could arrive, Waukegan Police Lt. Ed Fitzgerald said.
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I’ve got three, six through 18 months, and I have never forgotten one of them. I don’t understand how people can leave their kiddos in the car or anywhere.....I’ve got a crazy busy life, between work and kids, but I know my priorities.
How could a mother forget her child?? I’m still looking for the diaper bag and I’ve not carried one for a decade.
Depends on the age of the kid - try going months with 2-3 hours of sleep, you can get a bit crazy.
(Son #4 didn’t sleep through the night till he was 18 months old - I was so tired from lack of sleep, I started to have irrational fears, not a pretty sight)
I agree. I have grandkids and look for things in my purse that I KNOW were there..................30 years ago. That wouldn’t happen if I hadn’t been so focused on them. All these years later, it’s still second nature. You just “do”. Automatically. Kids are a priority and you never forget them or their care.
My second one was awake all night until he was 2. Colic. Cried all night. Found out he was allergic to milk. I never forgot him or his older brother.
I’m sure she would’ve said the same thing, until then.
I could see myself nodding off because of lack of sleep in the first months of my daughter’s life.
Mom, who rides the train often (even before she had a baby), nods off. Suddenly the doors open, with an announcement of her stop. She flies off, the doors close and suddenly she realizes her baby is still inside.
Things I was taught before I turned twelve...include:
“Once you have a baby, you take on a different identity. You’re not ‘you’ — you are the baby’s life support.”
If this woman on the train had something on her mind more weighty than her baby, I’m betting it was drugs.
Something just occurred to me. I didn’t forget them because I never used a stroller or carrier. Just a car seat. I always had their hands or carried them. Maybe that’s the difference.
I was four, my brother was three and my Mom had just given birth to our new brother. Grandma and Grandpa were visiting us from another state, in our new house, where we had just moved so my Dad could start his new job.......his first after college graduation!
My doting grandparents LOVED to take rides in the car, so with a crew like that, a car ride was probably the easiest type of recreation we could pull off. We all piled in the car, waiting to take off, when my mother cried out, “Oh my God, we’ve forgotten the baby”..........
That was a good stick which my brother and I twisted regularly on my little brother over the years..............”we went for a ride and almost forgot you”................
How could a Mom forget her baby?????............no Mom wants to admit how easy it is....................
Unless you’ve gone through long periods of sleep deprivation, you can’t possibly understand the stupid things you are capable of doing!
I had to keep checking the washing machine cause I was terrified I was going to accidentally put the baby in there. I never did. The washing machine was in the basement, I NEVER took the baby down there, but my thinking was so messed up from lack of sleep, I had to check every load of laundry 2 to 3 times.
And he was my fourth - figured I was an expert by the time I had him - so much for that :-)
(The baby is now almost 13 & never did end up in the washer, though he still doesn’t sleep more than 6-7 hours a night)
>>>no Mom wants to admit how easy it is....................
>>>(The baby is now almost 13 & never did end up in the washer, though he still doesnt sleep more than 6-7 hours a night)
See, you were (are) an expert :)
“If this woman on the train had something on her mind more weighty than her baby, Im betting it was drugs.”
Most parents, if honest, will admit that they have done something stupid due to the lack of sleep and stress associated with having an infant. It is good that this story turned out well. there is no evidence at all that this woman was anything other than a loving parent who made a mistake. All people make mistakes, and have accidents, including you. I doesn’t help when people start throwing around accusations and ugliness.
Her priorities weren’t her child. I’ve taken a stroller on the Max, I never took my hands off it. You don’t forget your kids if you are caring for them properly.
>>Unless youve gone through long periods of sleep deprivation, you cant possibly understand the stupid things you are capable of doing!<<
Seriously. I understand.
My nephew was committed because he went three days without sleep (broke up with a girlfriend) He was running the streets and babbling.
He was and is perfectly fine once he slept it off.
Glad no one ended up in the washer!!!!
I probably would have said almost the same thing, before I had to call rescue. My son was 2 years old choking, and I had to call rescue. We had it dislodged just before they got there, but they still wanted us to take him to the ER. I almost went with them in the rescue until I remembered my infant daughter sound asleep upstairs. Some things blur your rational thinking at some point. Although, unless that train ran over my other child, I don’t think I would have left the one in the stroller.
I only used a stroller while excercising. I always wore my kids (front pouch, slings, backpacks).
I think the hands off the child makes a difference too.
I passed out with my newborn next to me propped up on pillows.
When I woke up, she was folded over and blue.
She is 11 now and very bright, Thank YOU Dear Lord!!!!
No, seriously. It is.
I wore my babies. Until about 9 months, each was on my hip.
I was an “attachment parent” before there was such a thing.
But lack of sleep can do strange things.
Bet this will never happen again to her baby.
Yes, the forgetting does happen. Now, I still count my children twice and am always certain I forgot one, even when they are all there.
I always say there is no reason for people to do drugs when sleep deprivation has the same effect.
I always stop by posts like this to say a word for the parents.
For all those who can handle intense sleep deprivation and never have a serious mental lapse, congratulations.
I for one am a human being and have had brief moments of total idiocy. Thank God my children were spared. I pray daily for God’s protection because. . .
I AM NOT SUFFICIENT.
>>I for one am a human being and have had brief moments of total idiocy. Thank God my children were spared. I pray daily for Gods protection because. . .
I AM NOT SUFFICIENT.<<
We had a very large family at my church forget one of the daughters at a parish soccer game.
Another family called them on their cellphone and said, “Did you forget something?”
Dad said, “No.”
Caller said, “Mary?”
The caller could hear the entire family flipping out.
And this is a VERY good family.
Glad she was ok. I left my son in the car while I was driving to work. He was asleep, so I forgot he was there. When I got to work, I jumped out of the car, and he made just a little sound. I realized that I forgot to take him to grandma’s. I was on shift so I had to ask a dispatcher to take him back for me.
I always remember that moment, when I realized how horrible it would have been if I hadn’t realized he was there. It was hot that day, and he couldn’t have lived more than an hour had I left him in the car. Good parents make mistakes too. By the Grace of God, we make it through.
At home I could see nodding off but in public I was paranoid about protecting my kids and keeping them with me at all times. Shopping was difficult as I paid more attention to the kids and it took twice as long. Hold one and the other had ahold of purse straps or a pocket.
Oh yes, I am still paranoid, and take lots of steps for their safety. However I have screwed up at least once with each one, and I thank God alone that my kids are ok.
I know I am not the only one. If you talk to ALMOST any mom, they have a “near miss” story. We are fallible human beings.
NetMils, I’ve read you on this forum for years. I will not believe you if you told me you ever left your child on a train, plane or automobile. You would not. Lack of sleep does not equal forgetting a child on train. Falling asleep at home with your child doesn’t equal this either.
I have 3. My boys were 10 and 14 when my daughter was born. It was easier when I was in my early 20’s. At 35 I wasn’t ready for this. She was colicky and I was food and sleep deprived. She was about 18 months and we went to the store. She never took naps. I usually ate holding her and was up at night with her crying. She fell asleep in the car. A very rare occurance. We got home and I very briefly thought about leaving her sleep in the car. I just couldn’t. My Mom paranoia was screaming that I had to have her in sight. Lord I was a “clutchy” Mommy! Good thing too. My car burned in my driveway.
You’re a sweetheart, but seriously, something like this was my worst nightmare.
You might be right. Oh geez I would not want to be this mom. The guilt and horror of “what could have happened” would haunt me forever.
>>My car burned in my driveway.<<
That’s quite a story!
Gave me shivers!
I cried because what could have happened scared me to death. It was before airbags and her carseat was in the front seat. It was an engine fire and melted the dash. I went inside and came back out in 5 minutes, holding her, and the whole front end was engulfed. 3 year old car. I NEVER thought about leaving a kid in the car again.
We all have that horror. Even KosmicKitty wrote above that she had that horror and she thought it made her a questionable mom. It is that horror that kept her baby out of the dryer. It is that horror that will keep DJ MacWoW and I forever looking for the diaper cloth in the handbag, even though it has been there for decades. It is that horror that will prompt us to look around for a child’s hand even though they are off and married with their own. It is that horror that made us good moms. It is those that don’t have that horror that are not.
Wow. God bless you.
And there is the key. The reason why all of our children were safe. That Mom paranoia.
Heightened awareness ;)
Wow, am I relieved that I wasn’t the only sleep deprived crazy Mom.
I went out to the store and got a few blocks from home and realized I left my firstborn infant napping in his crib......I ran all the way home half hysterical when I realized. I was shaking so much I never even went to the store that day. Sounds like this mom only got a few steps, not a few blocks. (putting MY stone down and walking away)
No you weren’t! lol
Well there you are.
I LIKE that.
When I had kids, I just assumed the mentality that for the next many years, what I want gets put on the back burner. They'll be grown and gone before I know it and that I can manage living like that.
Fast forward several years....... They're grown and two are now in college, the third on the way next year and I'm trying to figure out where the time went.
And you know something? I survived!!!!