Posted on 06/25/2009 12:18:52 AM PDT by bruinbirdman
Edited on 06/25/2009 12:26:21 AM PDT by Admin Moderator. [history]
Sanford went to BA and broke it off with the Hot Tamale who (by all accounts) has only been divorced a couple of years and who already has had another affair with a younger man.
He has apologized to his wife and to his constituents. He is undergoing counseling (I hope it is couples’ counseling with a wise counselor).
Unless there has been an embezzlement, the selling of State Secrets, or a murder involved in this story, we should all step back and allow this family to heal for the sake of their 4 boys, or those boys will repeat this pattern as sure as the day is long.
Mrs. Sanford seems amenable to putting the pieces back together, so give them a chance with assassinating anybody’s character.
The first thing Mrs. Sanford should do is to get herself checked by a gynacologist to make sure that Mr. Sanford did not bring home any “gifts” from his (and the paramour’s) wanderings. Mr. Sanford needs to see his own doctor.
That should have said “withOUT assassinating anybody’s character”.
Fair comment. If they both face this honestly, perhaps they can.
We celebrated our 50th Anniversary on the 7th of February this year. (More accurately, we are going to celebrate it on the 4th of July because nobody wants to come to WI in Feb.) I still remember the words of the Priest who married us because they caused a bit of a stir at the Reception.
“Each of you will remember to expect to give 90% to the marriage and expect to get back 10%.”
I thought that was good advice, and I’ve tried to follow it — sometimes more successfully than others. And so has my husband. You must read those words carefully and not get distracted by the old 50/50 fairness doctrine we are taught from childhood.
THere was a little bit of flak thrown at the wedding luncheon from a guest who thought that the 90/10 formula was some kind of evil, Catholic plot to take advantage of the woman. LOL.
I’ve been married twice. Once to a cheater and now to a non-cheater.
The difference in their internal character is like night and day. And I can safely and honestly say that their characters are not, were not a result of my wifely efforts.
I was a far better wife to the cheater in the traditional sense of subservience and devotion to his every expressed want and need because I believed that I could somehow earn his love and devotion if I just tried harder.
Now I’m married to a man who pursues me and loves me even when I’m totally undeserving, most especially when I am my own most undeserving and he doesn’t do it because I respect him (although I do and I know he cherishes that respect), he does it because of his own internal controls and choices.
Character is who you are when you think no one else is watching. Some people choose to have it and others don’t.
Agreed. And huge congratulations!
Then I’m sorry for your pain, or if I’ve contributed to it in any way, and I wish you the best.
All the selflessness in the world on the part of one partner will not cure the lack of character in the other.
Nobody is holding Mrs. Sanford up as a blameless deity, they are seeing her as pitiable. They recognize the deep wounding this publicity has caused. How do you think it feels for her to read the emails written to Maria that should have been writter to her, the mother of his sons? To have that carp being published in every tabloid in the universe.
The real story about the e-mails is this:
The governor goes AWOL. A democrat in the capital goes into his computer files, copies the personal e-mail and gives it to McClatchy press.
Following the news is exactly why FR exists.
yitbos
The real story about the emails is that they were sent to the press just about the same time as Mrs. Sanford was informed, or discovered, the affair. They had to have been sent by someone who knew how to access the Governor’s personal email. That could have been an aide. That could have been Mrs. Sanford. That could have been the Argentinian hot tamale. That could have been the AHT’s (Argentinian Hot Tamale) other lover, or ex-husband.
Actually if you read the accounts of people at the hotel they were meeting at, he did NOT break it off.
They said the couple had their hands all over each other and couldn’t stop hugging and kissing each other.
Doesn’t sound to me like he broke it off...
Ed
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