Skip to comments.Jenny Sanford "may forgive" governor
Posted on 07/02/2009 1:31:17 PM PDT by meandog
The wife of embattled South Carolina Gov. Mark Sanford called his affair with an Argentine woman "inexcusable" but said Thursday she is willing to forgive him.
Jenny Sanford's e-mailed statement was her first public comment since her husband told The Associated Press earlier this week that his mistress is his soul mate but he is trying to fall back in love with his wife.
"My forgiveness is essential for us both to move on with our lives, with peace, in whatever direction that may take us," Jenny Sanford said in the statement. "Mark has stated that his intent and determination is to save our marriage, and to make amends to the people of South Carolina. I hope he can make good on those intentions, and for the sake of our boys."
She said it is up to South Carolina voters and elected officials to decide whether they can "give Mark another chance."
Sanford returned last week from a secret trip to Argentina to see his mistress, Maria Belen Chapur. His staff had told the public he was hiking the Appalachian Trail, and he later apologized for misleading them.
Jenny Sanford told The Associated Press then that she learned of the affair in January when she discovered a letter Sanford had written to Chapur. She said he had repeatedly asked permission to go Argentina to see Chapur, but she denied it.
Spokesman Joel Sawyer said Thursday that Mark Sanford plans to spend the holiday weekend with his wife and sons in Florida, where his in-laws live.
"He remains committed and determined to repair the damage he has done in his marriage and to building back the trust of the people of South Carolina," Sawyer said.
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Don’t take that forgiveness, Mark.
It’s a license for her to make you miserable for the rest of time.
Forgiveness is for the forgiver, not for the the forgiven. Forgiveness allows the forgiver to move forward. It may take a long time, if at all, for the wife to ever trust her husband again.
He should push through polygamy in his state.
He has boys to take care of.
Much easier if they live in the same house, albeit in seperate bedrooms.
This is closer to “bottom story of the day” territory than it is to breaking news.
He is already a miserable creature and his wife has nothing to do with it.
Come on Jenny! Sarah Palin never would've taken this from Todd.
I guess having 4 boys to raise makes forces your hand to take the weakling back in.
Oh please, just cut his nuts off and lets go on to the next story. Anything, as long as I don’t have to continue to see this crap.
She can forgive him and not stay married...
Forgiveness cannot be accomplished even by the forgiver until a pennance is paid! Christ himself proved that!
“He is already a miserable creature and his wife has nothing to do with it. “
How do you know? She is probably a better politician than he is. We don’t know whats going on in their family. We only know he’s been acting the fool. She comes across as very noble and perhaps she is. However there have been numerous stories about how great a politician she is.
If theres any doubt remember they are politicians, the exceptions are rare.
We have a winner!
Yeah, shame on her for being Christ-like.
Pfft. She’s as much a fool as her husband.
Though as a serial adulterer he’s very likely to do it again. Her call though. God help the kids.
What is wrong with you, Mrs. Sanford???? He doesn’t want or love you and he told the whole world that he is in love with another woman. Where is your pride???
This is playing out in public. How humiliating for them both. If I were her, I’d not be ready to deal with the subject of forgiveness until later— too many emotions to deal with now.
This is just a rotten situation all the way around.
They are both serious Christians and can, with some counseling, work this thing out. People make mistakes all the time and somehow the world keeps on turning (hey...that sounds like a soap opera)
Wifes have that license at 'I do'.
I think they’re both whacked. Why are they both telling everyone all of this?
Any man that vanishes on his kids over father's day weekend to fly to a foreign country to be with his mistress is a miserable creature. Period. End of Sentence.
That is how I know.
Jenny, can run for senator from s. carolina..
Well, if thats the case then he should have stayed in Argentina.
I doubt if it is the case.
I just wish they would do this in private. He should resign, and go home.
He is clearly losing it.
Typical ‘joe 6 pack’ response: You have no idea if he is ‘miserable’. Are you making that statement based on that lame ‘excuse’?
“Any man that vanishes on his kids over father’s day weekend to fly to a foreign country to be with his mistress is a miserable creature. Period. End of Sentence.”
ok, as I said he’s been the fool. That doesn’t make her noble or perfect.
She found his emails and is probably the one that sent them to the press. She’s also probably the one that told the reporter what flight he was returning on.
From her statement:
“I believe it is how we respond to the challenges we face in life, and what we learn from them, that is most telling about who we truly are.”
Jenny, the fact that you are issuing press statements on your troubled marriage IS truly telling of who you really are. And no, its not an excuse that he is even worse. I feel sorry for the kids - if either parent had the best interests of the kids in mind they would STFU in public.
What he should have done...
Take a letter, Maria,
Address it to my wife,
Tell her I’m not coming home,
I’m going to start a new life.
See my #23.
i really doubt any mother would expose her sons to the ignominity of those published emails. i wouldn’t blame her for tipping the press of to his flight #, though.
LOL! Christ forgave only after pennance was paid...she's being a fool!
I don’t read it as her “taking him back” as much as her committing to move on and not allow her anger or bitterness poison the lives of her children and herself.
Wow, I'm glad to hear that you know exactly how someone, you don't even personally know, would react to a situation. I learned a long time ago, never predict how people are going to react to situations, particularly in their marriages. Frankly I wish more people would keep their issues private.
Nor does it justify him vanishing on his family or vacating his office to be with his mistress.
"She found his emails and is probably the one that sent them to the press. Shes also probably the one that told the reporter what flight he was returning on"
And that somehow justifies what he did? I say what I did because about 10 years ago, I found myself in a loveless, stagnant marriage that had gone on too long. I didn't cheat. I didn't stop showing up for work. I didn't lie to my family or subordinates. I got a divorce and moved forward with my life. A wife can be cruel, unloving, cynical, politically adept or downright machiavellian. The man has a choice of reacting with or without honor and dignity and Sanford chose the latter.
Jenny was off to a good start; now she is making me as sick as her husband. . .who lost me on ‘soul mate’; and should have lost his wife on that ‘sharing’ as well.
Well, at least he was up-front about it....
The Sanfords are embarassing.
He certainly more than her...but she appears to want some time in the spotlight.
They should collect their dirty laundry and bring it back inside.
Hey, Jenny. He’s making a fool of you...and embarrassing his children, while continuing to swoon/lust/ over his “soul mate.” Have some respect for yourself, woman! Lawyer up and bail out of this mess...it’s over, and you can do better for yourself and your sons. Don’t play the fool for him...be an example to your sons.
“Nor does it justify him vanishing on his family or vacating his office to be with his mistress.”
What part of “he’s a fool” don’t you understand?
“And that somehow justifies what he did? “
What part of “he’s a fool” don’t you understand? Of course it doesn’t justify but everyone is assuming she’s some noble creature. We don’t know whats going on and if she was so noble she would not be holding press conferences. The family needs prayer not another press release or news conference.
While I don't disagree with you, I would like to point out that he first has to seek forgiveness by being sorry for his deeds...he just said yesterday essentially that he was in love with another woman. Taking him back now would just be enabling his sin of adultery.
Well, that should be nice relaxing trip for ol' Mark!
It used to be that conservatives were big on personal responsibility and yet here on a conservative forum, in a discussion about a nominally conservative governor, we're looking for external causes, explanations and excuses for why his behavior was anything other than miserable.
Then she hasn't actually forgiven him.
Well, perhaps I'm misreading it...it sounded to me that she was a bit too eager to let him off the hook before he was completely "cured" of the sin of betraying her with his love for another woman (stated, essentially, just yesterday)/
oh well...it’s her life. If she chooses to stay with this loser after he has admittedly cheated on her so many times...and raise her sons in this same environment...then so be it.
Oh he’s an idiot.
I’m guessing she’s a calculating woman.
It's going to be a real boot camp of reconciliation with many changes all round.
Sanford's type of infidelity doesn't occur in a vacuum and, as an old friend of mine (who's a shrink) used to say, there are no innocent parties in a marriage.
That's right its always the guys fault never the wife's fault for marriage problems.There victims always.
He must have an enormous schwanzstucker.