Posted on 07/22/2009 5:49:29 AM PDT by Kaslin
It’s getting old, isn’t it? Everyone these days is bipolar or has some other chic mental disorder that he feels excuses his self-centered conduct. Like the guy who once walked into my class twenty minutes late. I told him it was his last time to come in late. He said, “But you don’t understand, I’m bipolar.” And he said it in front of the whole class.
Having a mental disorder used to be a source of embarrassment. But, now, it’s often a request for special treatment, which, when granted, fuels self-centered conduct. That’s why a pastor friend of mine now hears the claim “But, I’m bipolar!” in approximately 80 percent of his marital counseling sessions. This means that approximately 40 percent of the people he counsels are claiming to be “bipolar.”
Is there something in the water that is causing a massive outbreak in manic-depression and other mental disorders? Or is it possible that we live culture of entitlement, which gives us strong incentives to claim some sort of disability rather than face the consequences of our freely chosen actions?
Just about everyone who really suffers from some form of depression (manic or otherwise) has something in common: He is engaged in self-centered conduct, which either a) actually caused the disorder (real or perceived), or b) greatly exacerbates the disorder (real or perceived).
People who suffer from, or claim to suffer from, some form of depression usually respond in one of two ways:
1) They seek psychological counseling, which focuses largely on “talk therapy.” During these talk therapy sessions the patient pays a doctor to listen to him talk at length about himself and his problems. Since this is just another exercise in self-absorption, it rarely works.
2) They seek psychiatric care, which usually results in a drug prescription. Paying someone to give you mood altering drugs, rather than addressing your behavior, involves a degree of self-absorption that simply cannot be ignored. But it usually is ignored. And that’s why the drugs usually don’t do the trick. In fact, they often lead people to suicide.
Behind the two generally misguided approaches to curing depression is the common fallacy that our emotions are usually the causes, not the effects, of our behavior. But, in reality, it is our behavior that usually shapes our attitudes and our emotions.
If you don’t believe what I’m saying I want you to try a little exercise the next time you wake up in a bad mood. All it involves is simply forcing yourself to smile and exchange simple pleasantries with every stranger you see during the morning hours. That simple act of saying something nice and seeing a return smile will kill any bad mood in less than half a day. It has a success rate of about 100 percent. And simple variants of the exercise work for more prolonged cases of the blues. Let me provide an example.
A few weeks ago, I had a strong compulsion to ask a neighbor to church. He was going through serious legal and financial struggles. I kept hearing that “you should” voice telling me to ask him to attend church with me. On July 4, the voice was really strong. But I ignored it and simply waved at my neighbor as I drove by his house.
On July 6, police cars surrounded his home. Just before noon they carried his lifeless body out on a stretcher. I was simply devastated by the thought of how things might have been different had I acted.
The next week was one of the saddest I’ve had in many, many months. And it was brought on by the same thing that always brings on sadness or depression. I had acted like a self-absorbed jerk. Rather than reach out to someone who was suffering I went on about my business. I was more worried that having a talk with him might be awkward or might cut into my time smoking cigars with my friends.
And this is where things begin to get dangerous. When we screw up - due to our own self-absorption – the chances are that we’ll screw up again by allowing the negative energy of one bad decision to fuel another similar bad decision. That’s often the way mild depression turns to serious depression. It is an unhealthy cycle that must be broken.
After a few days of kicking myself, I took out a sheet of paper. On it, I wrote the letter “A” and stared at it until I could think of someone who was hurting whose name began with the letter “A.” After a few minutes, I remembered a woman whose husband died of a heart attack last spring. I picked up the phone and called her and told her a funny story about her husband. I shared some things about him that brought back some memories and made her laugh out loud. Before I hung up I told her that many people loved her and were praying for her. The call made the day brighter for both of us.
And then I picked up my pen and wrote down the letter “B.” I don’t have to tell you that by the time I reached the letter “F” I was feeling like I was on top of the world.
The truth is that changing one’s behavior with an exercise in other-absorption, rather than self-absorption, will cure what most people label as depression. If that fails they should talk to a professional. If that also fails they should consider an experiment with prescribed medication.
But people who shout “I’m bipolar” usually don’t want to be helped. And if we feed their sense of entitlement we hurt them very badly.
Seems I’m bugging you a lot today...:)
Psychiatrists operate from the “hollow and deceptive philosophies of this world”, ie, not from truth.
They tell their patients that the guilt they feel, or the compensatory behaviors they do for that guilt, need to be rejected, as the guilt is false. There really isn’t anything such as sin, and therefore you shouldn’t feel guilty about it.
The reality, the Christian worldview, is that sin is real, it is the cause of all problems and all “mental illness” (barring actual physical defects). The “cure” is to confess, repent, and let Jesus action on the cross cover for that sin.
I have decided that bi-polar is not good enough for me and I am going to claim tri-polar.
Sounds like the explanation for 99% of all “apparent” mental illness. Sadly it makes those people who do have genuine mental health problems look bad.
The comments on bipolar disorder reveal a lack of knowledge about the effects of malfunctioning brain chemistry.
Persons with bipolar disorder can lead highly effective lives once they learn to deal with it.
Many of our most effective leaders have had the disease (Churchill comes to mind).
I know a guy that stays in a fetal position in his bedroom while his wife works extra shifts to support him & their 4 children. His kids are on their own to fix their meals while he cries in the bedroom. They are under orders not to disturb him for any reason. He goes to a doctor that medicates him heavily. They are always having to "tweak" his medications. The doctor says he is bi-polar. Sometimes this man self-medicates himself by buying an eight ball of cocaine - those are usually his "up" periods.
All of this - I have always thought - was setting the stage for him to be able to start getting disability checks because "he can no longer work". He used to have a good job. He used to be a friend of mine, but now I think he is a useless jerk.
Depression runs in my family & I've had to fight it for years - but here is something that I've found works for me & it is illustrated in this article. It isn't all about me! The world doesn't revolve around me!
When I do something to help someone else - my depression magically goes away! It really does work! I believe the cause of depression really, really is - thinking too much about yourself. It is just that simple.
Even the earth is bi-polar.
Why not trade way up...and shoot for multiple personalities!;-)
LOL! That’s a good one!
Amen...sin is insanity!!!
Most of the “bipolar” persons I’ve met also had a history of childhood abuse. One such person had scars on her face from the day that mom threw drain cleaner on her.
These people have lots of issues, and dealing with them is very frustrating. In fact, I wonder if the childhood abuse was the result of parental frustration over the condition, rather than the condition coming from the abuse. At any rate, if someone comes in and says that they’re bipolar, you know you’ll have a lot of frustration with them.
In my experience, you still have to be firm with them. You have to NICELY defend your boundaries, such as telling them that your class starts on time, just as it ends on time, and that this student will not be an exception. If that student cannot meet those expectations due to health concerns, perhaps they need to quickly seem medical care.
This article tries to deal w/ the complex issues around depression, bipolar, mental illness, etc with the old “think happy thoughts” idea. While that indeed does work as one of many mental coping mechanisms, the truth is that it doesn’t work for some.
And, no, it’s not “SIN”, no more than a gall bladder attack is “SIN.”
I believe this to be very true, most of the time. Look at kids in skewl today, every trait of maleness restricted as "bad". What happens to those kids?
I see a lot of people sitting in cubes, hammering at the keyboard wasting their bodies that are profoundly unhappy.
True mental illness, the organic kind, is not the same
More accurately, the (real) guilt caused by sin creates irreconcilable conflicts in the mind of the sinner.
LOL, reminds me of an ex-girlfriend who I always thought was quad-polar.
Most women that aren’t married and over 30 are now using these mood altering drugs. It is not progress, in my opinion.
It’s getting old, isn’t it? Everyone these days is bipolar
Hey, this psycho terminology is what keeps he psycho babble jerks in business.
It’s called job preservation.
I believe the cause of depression really, really is - thinking too much about yourself. It is just that simple.
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I would give you ninety percent agreement but I think there are other factors such as diet and exercise or the lack of it. Something as simple as taking a long walk can make a big difference but being self centered is probably by far the largest factor.
Hard physical labor and constant movement would be my first prescription for someone who wants to break out of the depression cycle. Go cut some firewood or something.
Really it means that those with genuine mental health problems don't get taken seriously as they should. We've so popularized and excused behavioral symptoms that we have desensitized ourselves to those in real need.
Turning every bit of lazy, inconsiderate or unacceptable behavior into "disorders" & thus acceptable, has simply gotten the needy lost in the mix. After a while no one gives a damn.
Ping.
I’m definitely hetero-polar.
Not that there’s anything wrong with being bi-polar....
Mother Teresa suffered from depression for 50 years and STILL managed to do her work!
Introspection is, by far, the most overrated “virtue” in modern society.
SnakeDoc
She had a sort of melt down. In fact… it was no more or less than the usual down turn most people experience from time to time in their lives.
HOWEVER, this girl had always scammed everyone around her into thinking that she was wonder woman and could do and handle EVERYTHING better than everyone. She was always a control freak and had endless and profound trouble with her own family and personal relationships because of it.
This deep-rooted sham self-assurance and the whole variegated system of unwholesome psychological mechanisms she built up to support it (developed over years of lying to herself and everyone else) were obvious to everyone that she had habitually duped. It was finally obvious how woefully incapable she was to deal with a situation which, frankly, any psychologically healthy individual would have taken in stride.
Her immediate response was to get herself to a doctor who diagnosed her as bi-polar and now her behavior is indulged, excused and usually overlooked. If anything, she is a worse pain in the a%$ than before and a continued troublemaker to all of us here who are unfortunate enough to have to work with her.
She used to be my supervisor, but her lying and natural deceit, got her taken out of the supervisory status. It was absolute h%$# for me while it lasted, but HR finally sees the real picture about her. That was part of her melt down too. I feel like I dodged a bullet!
> The truth is that changing one’s behavior with an exercise in other-absorption, rather than self-absorption, will cure what most people label as depression. If that fails they should talk to a professional. If that also fails they should consider an experiment with prescribed medication.
I was going to tear the author of this piece a new one, until I read this second-to-last sentence.
As one who has Depression and who is Bi-Polar I can attest to the fact that both mental illnesses are real and that putting on a happy face does not fix either of them. Medication and therapy and self-discipline do, eventually.
However, it is also true that both mental illnesses are often mis-diagnosed or (worse) self-diagnosed by people who are self-absorbed. In which case altering one’s behavior will often fix whatever is ailing them.
If you are feeling Depressed (trouble sleeping, low energy, sluggish, malaise) see a Doctor. If you’re feeling Sad, see a comedy and cheer up.
“Mother Teresa suffered from depression for 50 years and STILL managed to do her work!”
As I said... those in relationships with people who struggle with mental illness still need to defend boundaries, including the need to complete work on time. In fact, it’s the healthy thing for them...
I can remember when many individuals attempted to explain their behavior by claiming to be hypoglycemic.
Two polar bears standing side by side. Are they bi-polar?
Forgot about that one. Use to hear frequently, but it became so passe.
Additionally, living in a world that has internalized these otherwise irreconcilable conflicts (as ours has) means that there is societal and institutional support/approval for this “insanity”.
If they are standing side by side, I would say they are probably series. And hugh.
Better bi-polar than bi-curious.
Hey, half the population is bi-polar at a certain time of each month! (snicker!)
Mike Adams is a criminology professor, not a psychology professor.
It’s also interesting that UNC doesn’t even have faculty pages where one can see where the professors there earned their degrees.
I have a parent who’s been on meds for 24 years, seeing therapists for 40 years ,lives and breathes self help books while getting every sort of financial windfall thru lawsuits based on her so called condition that she can obtain.
Basically, she’s a self absorbed, narcissistic, all about me parasite,who’s very similar to a certain community organizer elected president.
But I will take the opportunity to rip the author a new one after all. He writes:
> Just about everyone who really suffers from some form of depression (manic or otherwise) has something in common: He is engaged in self-centered conduct, which either a) actually caused the disorder (real or perceived), or b) greatly exacerbates the disorder (real or perceived).
Bollix. That is certainly not borne out by anything I have read on Depression and Bipolar Disorder, and it does not synchronize with my own experiences or those of others I am aware of with these disorders.
I would quite like to see the author’s sources cited.
It seems everybody is an expert on Depression and Bipolar Disorder (and, for that matter, Anorexia, Bulimia, Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, &tc) with their own theories on how to “cure” these disorders, right up until the time they or someone they love contracts one or more of them. It is at that point that their preconceived notions and theories expose themselves as being utterly worthless gas.
This article is really only the latest of a long line of “snap out of it” suggestions, long since discredited.
> The reality, the Christian worldview, is that sin is real, it is the cause of all problems and all “mental illness” (barring actual physical defects). The “cure” is to confess, repent, and let Jesus action on the cross cover for that sin.
Bollix. I am a Christian with Depression and Bipolar Disorder, neither of which were caused by “sin”, anymore than a diabetic’s Insulin Dependency is caused by “sin”.
It’s just one of those infirmities like what St Paul had: something to be lived with.
Barring Divine Intervention, none of these conditions can be “cured” but they can be treated with appropriate medicine and therapy.
Actually it’s much more likely that they’re saying that there’s no such thing as original sin. Which is true. The very concept of original sin makes a mockery of any kind of justice based on individual responsibility.
My wife’s group of close female friends had one of these jerks in her group.
Finally, one of the outspoken ladies in the group of 8 told the bi-polar that she was a jerk, a B$tch and a loser who turned off her family and now her friends.
Now instead of the crazy 8 eight group, the group is now the Magnificient Seven.
> I know a guy that stays in a fetal position in his bedroom while his wife works extra shifts to support him & their 4 children. His kids are on their own to fix their meals while he cries in the bedroom. They are under orders not to disturb him for any reason. He goes to a doctor that medicates him heavily. They are always having to “tweak” his medications. The doctor says he is bi-polar. Sometimes this man self-medicates himself by buying an eight ball of cocaine - those are usually his “up” periods.
Many people with bipolar disorder do self-medicate. Often it is in their “manic” cycle.
That said, I would wonder at his doctor “medicating him heavily” — it sounds to me like he hasn’t been getting particularly brilliant medical attention.
I wouldn’t be too quick to draw conclusions in that particular case.
Perhaps you are familiar with this book, which came out several years ago?
http://www.amazon.com/Hypomanic-Edge-Between-Craziness-Success/dp/0743243447
The book made me ponder an interesting question, which others (Thomas Szasz, for example) have explored: is the diagnosis of mental disorder largely a normative judgement? Churchill didn’t engage in antisocial acts, and could channel his mental energy into acts that elevated the human condition. Is the low-functioning bipolar person (difficulty holding a job, damaged relationships, etc) merely someone with a poor strategy for managing their emotional states?
I don’t have an answer to the question.
Depression is a debilitating disease that will kill you if not treated. I have been suffering from severe depression for 15 years now. Every day is a struggle to get out of bed. I'm a computer programmer so focusing on my work is difficult. I have never attempted suicide but it is a rare day when I don't think about it. I cannot control these thoughts but the right medication reduces their intensity and "talk therapy" helps me to recognize where they come from and how to avoid acting on them. I do not parade my problem in front of others or constantly use it as an excuse but it is directly responsible for my loosing several jobs and relationships. I would not wish this on my worst enemies but you should walk a mile in my shoes before making your smug little ignorant posts.
The two of them pushed me right to the wall. I used to cry all the way to work and all the way home..... all this while my mother (who I take care of) was about dead in the hospital. I was a basket case and used to wonder how much more I could take.
I strikes me as ironic that this creep who did all this stuff to me (which I basically toughed out the best I could) cannot herself deal with one tenth the problems I had at that time and still struggle with in my own life.
Just because I don't come in here whining to everyone that I have problems and taking my problems out on others, does not mean that I am living the Life of Riley OR that I am BI POLAR. I found out that I am made of sterner stuff than that and certainly more than this self-indulgent, lying bully and her enabler!
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