However; there was something very un-natural about his last 5 months when the doctors said that there was nothing more that they could do. They kept him alive for 5 months by giving weekly blood transfusions. He was in incredible pain, could not get around, had horrible rashes, had zero antibodies so he could not go anywhere. But the whole thing was his call, even though he knew it was only buying a few extra weeks. It was also torture on the family to see him go this way. This experience has been a lesson for me. When Im 85, I do not intend to linger in pain without dignity.
Many points can be debated about the wisdom of your father-in-law's choice but he certainly did not live those 5 last months "without dignity".
"Yes, there were times, I'm sure you knew
When I bit off more than I could chew.
The record shows I took the blows -
And did it MY way!"
posted on 08/16/2009 6:14:25 AM PDT
Thanks for your thoughts. Perhaps dignity was the wrong word to use. His whole life he had been an athlete and active until near the end (Former NY Giant). It was just that the things about himself that he valued so much were slowly stripped away, leaving only the soul in the end. Maybe he needed to get to just the soul to be ready to face God. I guess there is dignity in that.
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