I have a better idea. If a bully hits you, break his fingers. This will teach him a valuable lesson about courtesy, as well as making it impossible to hit anyone else while he is waiting for his bones to knit back together. 
Posted on 09/07/2009 4:29:13 AM PDT by Kaslin
Millions of Americans who shop at Costco receive the retail giant’s monthly magazine The Costco Connection. I have to confess however that my copy of the publication usually never makes it past the garage. Not so the recent August issue, which promotes on the cover a “Back to School” series of essays for parents and children. Since one of the essays promised to take on the issue of bullying, I decided to take a closer look.
Bullies seem to be everywhere these days. From the schoolyard to the political arena thugs young and old have been learning that threats and intimidation are tried and true tactics in the face of frail opposition. The tragic kidnapping, repeated rape, and eighteen-year-long nightmare of young Jaycee Lee Dugard highlights the importance of effectively resisting those whose identities are fashioned by crushing the weak.
Imagine my utter disbelief then when my eyes landed on the advice offered by the two nationally recognized bullying “experts” interviewed for Costco’s story “Stop Hassling Me: Breaking the Cycle of Bullying.” After getting past a rather offensively staged photograph showing two young white girls taunting an African-American schoolmate, the reader is treated to a series of tips for kids by New York City school psychologist and psychotherapist Izzy Kalman. For kids who find themselves on the wrong end of a bully for example Kalman offers the following suggestion:
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I’m in total agreement with you.
The problem often is not just the young thugs but their parents who are thugs and use their thuggery to get their way at the school boards and with the parents of the kids being bullied.
Last year, I think we had a couple of posts where cops came to schools and arrested young thugs for bullying their peers and threatening teachers.
Editor needed.
Nope it's about political correctness and liberals thinking it's eternally 1968...
The local store had one wall collapse during the Northridge earthquake and was therefore closed for three months.
Come membership renewal time, this lack of access was not accounted for - when I phoned I got a distinct "What earthquake closure?" response......end of relationship right then and there.
I taught for four yrs in a small Catholic school outside of DC. My third graders knew that if I ever caught or heard of any bullying, they would be in deep doo-doo. I would haul the involved parties out into the hall, do an investigation and make the guilty party perform reparations - i.e., carrying the victim’s backpack to car pool for a week. I could look the parents in the eye every beginning of the school year and tell them my top priority was keeping their children safe. Never had any complaints, ever!
We’re happy with our new Sam’s gas station...paid 2.79 yesterday, and the others in the area are all 3.03 — and higher down by the Interstate of course.
They (all hands) continually pump up the bad economy bs—but the merchants wouldn’t treat customers the way they do if they really needed the business—they know for every customer they alienate another svcker is coming through the hatch!
I dunno which is worse...the capitalists or the gd Godless marxist basterds!
You are wrong about them hitting harder if you are unable to actually beat their butts. If the bully is alone, not with a gang, then fighting back is what it takes to stop it. If you make him/her(yep, there are female bullies) pay a price sooner or later he/she will learn that picking on you is to costly and they will go off to seek easier prey. I know, I was the small guy when I was growing up, I attracted bullies like iron filings to a magnet, but I always fought back and usually only had to do it once to a bully.
If there is a gang of bullies the rules change and you probably need to seek help in the form of friends, or if that fails, a weapon of some sort.
Bingo! When the school yard bully gets ready to make “his first visit”, punch him in the nose with everything you’ve got! Funny how they learn that you’re not as easy a target as he somehow thought you were.
I’ve met Izzy Kahlman and he strikes me as a conservative. His extensive publications on this issue would take too much time to read. I get the impression the author of this article didn’t have much time to read them, either.
The Costco article is actually about preparing future Democrats, sheeple and cowards. When Democrat bullies begin their politics of personal destruction, they want normal people to be trained to stop the conservative behavior that inflames the left.
I've tried that a few times. I think they were disturbed by the sight of my blood.
In several other instances I have caused serious injuries to their hands with my face. One guy sprained his thumb very badly.
For some reason I have never had a fight with anybody smaller than me. I guess I'm just not very good at keeping my mouth shut.
Assault should be prosecuted, regardless of age. Maybe if the trash who did what they did to me had spent some time in juvie, it would have caused them to think twice of ganging up on me.
Again, there is a HUGE difference between two guys fighting it out in the schoolyard, and having a group of thugs assault you. Please explain to me why what is prosecuted as assault in the adult world is explained away as "boys being boys" for kids.
I have a better idea. If a bully hits you, break his fingers. This will teach him a valuable lesson about courtesy, as well as making it impossible to hit anyone else while he is waiting for his bones to knit back together.
> You are wrong about them hitting harder if you are unable to actually beat their butts. If the bully is alone, not with a gang, then fighting back is what it takes to stop it.
I used to be of a similar view, that fighting back was the only way to stop bullies, and that it would work 100% of the time.
Then I became privy to a situation where fighting back only made the problem worse for the poor kid who tried it. Instead of feeling empowered by fighting back, he felt even more pathetic and weak because the bully was able to overpower him so easily.
And, naturally, the bully has stepped up his onslaught.
Ever see the movie “The Man Who Shot Liberty Valance”? — it’s a situation not too different to that. Except there’s nobody there to do the John Wayne thing.
It’s certainly challenged a few of my paradigms.
“Please explain to me why what is prosecuted as assault in the adult world is explained away as “boys being boys” for kids.”
Two or more ganging up on one was never acceptable in my day. There was, however, a unjust practice of punishing bully and bullied as though they were equally guilty of “fighting.”
If a child is unable to protect himself for physical or emotional reasons, adults need to step in right away. They almost never do, though, and if they do, they fail to protect the bullied from revenge.
“I’ve met Izzy Kahlman and he”
He? I expected a person who holds the views reported to be a female.
Maybe he was misquoted.
Perhaps the little girl in charge of Costco should step aside and let an actual, red-blooded, American man do her job.
I have boycotted Costco since Bush-Kerry I think..
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