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Posted on 09/09/2009 6:26:00 AM PDT by KeyLargo
Why I Like to Hire Ugly People
How the unattractive suffer ... and can end up sitting pretty
By Marty Nemko
Like beauty, ugly is in the eyes of the beholder. What Im talking about here is anything in a persons physical appearance thats likely to keep him or her off a most attractive list. For me its my hair, or lack thereof.
Many years ago, I was all set to appear six times on a daytime-TV talk show. But the producers first had one suggestion: Get a hairpiece. Market research indicates that a man with a full head of hair is much more likely to be watched by women (the shows target audience), I was told. So I got one.
Wearing the hairpiece helped me realize the power of looks. After we taped my six segments (in one day), I wore it for a couple more days to see what impact it had. While I was in an executives waiting room, I overheard someone whisper to the secretary about me, He seems really important. Id never heard anyone say anything remotely like that about me before. I walked into a burrito shop and, for the first time in my life, the hottie behind the counter actually flirted with meflipped her hair back, twirled her curls and made conversation with me beyond May I take your order? Later, when I wore the hairpiece for a play I was in, some friends of mine didnt recognize me on stage.
If youre unattractive in face or body, you probably learned early on that you pay a price. In school, you were excluded from the in group. When you wanted to date, few people were interested. On the street, people look not at you but past you.
And they look past you in your career. In a job interview, you may have experienced an interviewers flat affect and forced smile rather than a warm welcome that would have put you at ease. Once hired, you may have cringed as The Pretty People often got more than they may have deserved, based on merit alone. And thats the ugly truth.
Advice for Employees and the Self-Employed
Being unattractive isnt three strikes against you. If it were, the likes of Eleanor Roosevelt, Woody Allen, Ruth Bader Ginsberg, Alfred Hitchcock and Kathy Bates wouldn't have succeeded. Lackluster looks are only one strike. It's up to you whether you become dispirited or motivated to make the extra effort needed to succeed.
Don't skimp on self-development. If you have mediocre skills, thats strike two. Add a mediocre personality, and its usually strike three and youre out. So self-development, while important for everyone, is crucial for you. Instead of watching TV on the treadmill, read a professional magazine. Instead of loafing around on Saturday morning, go to that seminar on executive deportment. And ask for 360-degree feedback from bosses, co-workers, supervisees and customers. (An easy way to get it free and anonymously is at Checkster.com.)
Celebrate the personal strengths that unattractiveness can breed. For instance, I find that ugly people, in general, are nicer because they know they can't use their looks to get by and because they've developed compassion from going through life unattractive.
Make an effort to look sharp. There are some physical attributes we can control and some we cant. If you ignore the features that you could enhance, it sends the message that you dont carea message that may even give the wrong impression of your work. Ultimately, I decided not to keep wearing the aforementioned hairpieceit required constant maintenance, and if people knew I was wearing it, theyd probably snicker. Instead, I groom the real hair I have left: I comb whatever hair I have to the back, rather than to the side or frontefforts to the contrary are transparent and widely derided. You should be sure to:
Dress wellat your boss's level of dressiness.
Wear a moderate amount of subtle makeup (women only!). Not sure whether yours brings out the best in you? Major department stores have an army of cosmeticians willing to make you over for free.
Don't smoke. If avoiding cancer isn't a good-enough reason, smoking also makes you uglier: It yellows your teeth, wrinkles your skin and makes your breath stink.
Manage your weight as well as you can. Many people find it difficult to avoid being overweight. Too often, they're fighting their genetics. So I'll skip the lecture and just say that if youre unattractive, its especially important to do what works for you. I keep my weight under (reasonable) control by ritualizing. I eat the same thing most days: foods I like that are both healthy and filling (oatmeal, garlic, broccoli, big salads, etc.). I also keep tempting, calorie-dense items out of my house. My nemeses: cheese, nuts and ice cream.
Stand up straight. Helen Gurley Brown said, only half joking, After 40, it all comes down to posture.
Convey self-acceptance about your looks. Even if you optimize your looks, some people will still see ugly when they see you. Looks are an 800-pound gorilla in the room. If, however, you occasionally mention your looks in a self-accepting way, it will become less of an issue. For example, in a meeting, you might say, Well, John, you're the studly one. Maybe you, rather than I, should be the public face on this project. Or when someone says, I'm having a bad hair day, say, That's one thing we baldies don't have to worry about.
Advice for Employers
Hire ugly. All other things being equal, I'd give the nod to an ugly candidate. Its not charity: They have less value in the marketplace and can be hired less expensively, even though looks have, for most jobs, little or no bearing on job performance. I've found that, on average, ugly people are more likely to be kind and to work harder because they know they're working at a disadvantage. And unattractive people are more likely to stay with me because they tend to have a tough time getting hired, in part because they generally dont network efficiently. If I treat unattractive employees well, theyre usually very loyal.
Look out for lookism. Im not suggesting that you should give unfair advantages to ugly people. Just be sure that your staff (and you!) treats your unattractive employees fairly. Gently nip lookism in the bud; for example, Joe, I notice you seem to be giving plum assignments to Britney even though Brunhilde is likely to do a better job. Am I not understanding something?
We are, indeed, a lookist societybut as an employee, you can, with effort, transcend that obstacle. And as an employer, you can strike a blow against this lingering ism while building your bottom line.
Marty Nemko is a contributing columnist for Kiplingers and has been named The Bay Areas Best Career Coach by the San Francisco Bay Guardian. Find more than 500 of his other published writings free at www.martynemko.com.
Shallow is a very turbulent mindset.
Based upon my experience, ugly people know they are ugly and are miserable, surly and bitter.
George Castanza addressed this in Seinfeld, telling one of the applicants who was drop-dead beautiful, that she was completely and perfectly suited for the secretarial job, and that he would give anything to see her in underware, therefore, she could not have the job. He settled for an ugly one.
Tip of the day for Michelle O! ; ) Someone get that to her, please.
If you gave a lobotomy to Nancy, her eyes would point backwards and her nose would point upwards from her shoulders like the blowholes of a whale.
AND — it would be an improvement.
My father always told me that there was an inverse relationship between how attractive a woman is and how good she was in bed.
Ben Franklin noticed the same thing when he advised a young man to find bliss in the arms of an older woman, because...
‘They don’t swell, they don’t tell, and they are grateful as hell.’.
To this observation I add my own advice “they all look the same with the lights out.”
This is economics 101. He is essentially saying that attractiveness is an overpriced commodity. For most positions, I would tend to agree, although it may be worth the cost for certain positions with high visibility.
But I am constantly getting laid; my career is incredible; and animals are drawn to me.
Of course, my career choice is to be a gigalo for llamas, so......
One of us is very old and it just can’t be me. LOL ...
That has not been my experience at all. At. All. I am often amazed at the difference self-confidence makes. Without it, a person with good features can seem surly and bitter. And with it, a person with poor features can nevertheless be a great personality, co-worker and friend. The quality of a person's heart and soul shines through their features.
Somewhere, in the archives, I have that on a 45 RPM......
O - M - G !
Those are not animals Laz, those are REALLY ugly women.