My wife and I also left Connecticut a decade ago. I found some true New Haven style pizza in Chicago, so we’re doing okay. Illinois has its problems, but adoption andhome schooling laws are favorable compared to CT.
The home study is where the gun question comes up. That is, I believe, not designed by the adoption agency, but rather by the foster that acts in loco DCFS or equivalent.
The bad attitude from the social worker can come from any number of things. I would assume inertia first, however. If you haven’t gotten a lawyer involved, you might want to consider it. I am no attorney, and there is not enough info to get an idea of what’s going on.
My experience with Illinois DCFS in reply #7.
Are you sure you hadn't been finding Chicago style pizza in New Haven?