RE: your second point. That's fair, but limited. Again, these issues are all state law matters, and accordingly have wildly different results in different states.
Respect goes both ways. The “public” gay men and women don’t respect freedom, private property or freedom of religion - only their own selfish wants.
I, too, was once, “Live and let live.” That (as well as my flirtation with Libertarianism) ended Valentine’s Day, 2004, when it finally dawned on me that it is not possible to live with men and women who have no respect for the law or the process of law making.
If they were doing it in the privacy of their own homes, no one would interfere as long as no one is being hurt. Even the notorious Texas sodomy case was instigated by the men who were arrested - they made the call to the police, themselves, for the express purpose of challenging the law. It was not for them to work through the legislature to overturn the law. For some reason, they needed the exhibitionism as well.
Instead, they bring their private and sinful way of living into the public every chance they get: even my FReeRepublic. They sue for changes in laws, and in the States where they have achieved a change in marriage laws, they sue people who do not wish to participate in their marriage ceremonies. They sue because people tell them they’re sinning.