What women want in 2010: A husband who'll be the main breadwinner (British Social Attitudes Survey)

The Daily Mail (U.K.) ^ | February 18, 2010 | Beth Hale

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Young mothers are turning their backs on high-powered careers to raise their children, a study has found.

Their mothers, or even grandmothers, lived through a time when women fought for full-time work and better pay.

But today's generation is returning to the traditional values of home and family - and looking to men to be the breadwinners.

The about-face was highlighted yesterday in research presented by leading sociologist Geoff Dench, who has analysed responses to questions asked in the annual British Social Attitudes survey.

His analysis comes against a background of growing political pressure on mothers to go out to work.

It revealed a striking change in values in the decade since New Labour swept to power.

The number of mothers with children under four who thought that family life would suffer if women worked full-time fell in the years before Tony Blair took office, dropping from 43 per cent in 1990 to 21 per cent in 1998. But by 2002 it was rising and in 2006 had soared to 37 per cent.

Similarly the number of women in the same category who agreed that most women want a home and children fell between 1994 and 2002 to 15 per cent.

But in 2006, the last time the question was asked in the survey, that number had rocketed to 32 per cent - higher even than back in 1986 when it stood at 20 per cent. By far the biggest leap came when women were asked whether they agreed that men and women should have different roles.

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Tradition: But Baby Boomers in the 1950s wanted to go out and work

[Sacajaweau]

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[freedumb2003]

>>But today’s generation is returning to the traditional values of home and family - and looking to men to be the breadwinner<<

Just wait — this researcher will be pilloried.

It is like Joe the Bartender said — “let’s tear down the observatory to ensure we never get hit by a comet again!”

[Alistair Stratford IV]

Let's get back to basics ladies...

[Deagle]

Way old fashioned... Today, men are looking for a wife that will be the breadwinner (Metro men anyway). Times have changed man, or haven’t you noticed? Women are just out of luck...they have spent their college days being inundated with leftist propaganda and indoctrinated with women’s rights that they have moved way left of most men. Their chances of finding those leftists that could co-exist with them are minimal.

The real men left are looking at overseas brides...heh.

[Talisker]

Young mothers are turning their backs on high-powered careers to raise their children, a study has found.

Sexist pigs. They obviously don't have the right dosage of antidepressants.

[The Future 2012]

The real men might want to check their local churches, too.

[Stoat]

What do FReeper Ladies think? Have you seen similar trends here in the USA?

[wardaddy]

Women want to be made happy....and they are fickle and expect that when they grow up they will be entitled to be happy..and if they are with a man then their happiness or unhappiness rises and falls due to you, not them

it can be vexing..

they are just so different than us...very illogogical and emotional

but I love them dearly

don’t ask me to explain this and why am I am a rabid Sarah zealot in the same breath

lol...I can’t

[freedumb2003]

My wife is from Mexico. We have been married 17 years, but do you think I might get her to agree this is a post-citizenship requirement list?

;)

[historyrepeatz]

Won’t happen anytime soon in the U.S. either, given that men comprise nearly 75% of layoffs in the last two years. Perhaps an all female workforce is easier for Big Brother to control after all is said and done (or undone)?

[Deagle]

Absolutely! I really did not to demean all. You are surely right! I find church going ladies are ideal, but they are in such short supply.

[donna]

Was this an Islamic poll?

[Stoat]

Was this an Islamic poll?

LMAO ;-)

My understanding is that this is a nationwide poll, and although Islamic respondents could skew the results slightly, it seems to reinforce other data. From the article:

The analysis follows a report from a prominent liberal commentator which also revealed that far from wanting to be 'superwomen who manage everything, plus a high-profiled career', many women just want to be stay-at-home mothers with their husbands taking the role of breadwinner.

Cristina Odone, a former deputy editor of the New Statesman and editor of the Catholic Herald, said millions of women had been left frustrated and miserable by Government policies that push them back into jobs and their children into nurseries.

[eyedigress]

I could relate to this story but best not to. It is brutal in the world and much harder than 20 years ago. Proven ability is taking over bullshit. Gender and Race is taking a backseat to quality. If a minority is good and works their ass off they get the skill to maintain. If they depend on status they fail. A majority person must always depend on skill only. The system made it that way.

[Irenic]

I grew up with a single career mom who worked her butt off to provide us girls a good life.

When I had kiddo, I opted to be a housewife.

I think at times my mother wishes she would have been home with us, but the grands make up for that.

At times I wish I had went to school and perhaps tried a career.

We made our choices and life has been good to us no matter the road we traveled.

We all have each other, family.

[Ellendra]

don’t ask me to explain this

That's ok. I'm a woman and I don't understand women :p

[familyop]

"Tradition: But Baby Boomers in the 1950s wanted to go out and work"

Well, Baby Boomers who were born in the 1950s... But that was close. :-) Great post! I've worked quite a bit with young folks and have heard the same from many young women over the past 15 years or so. Most of them won't be like their moms.

And BTW, they know that their moms wore hip-huggers, micro-miniskirts, and started the serial polygamy trend.

[TigersEye]

They can forget all that. They voted themselves into a socialist paradise. Come to think of it we can forget about it too.

[familyop]

Feminism is heading for nursing homes as we speak and over the next twenty years. ...last ditch, losing political effort for them over the next couple of years before senility gets the best of ‘em. There won’t be another Hillary in the White House.

[BenKenobi]

Would be nice if employers got the hint. Hard to find churchgoing ladies these days.

[familyop]

"Won’t happen anytime soon in the U.S. either, given that men comprise nearly 75% of layoffs in the last two years. Perhaps an all female workforce is easier for Big Brother to control after all is said and done (or undone)?"

But look at the likely big default in front of us. ;-)

[shteebo]

The real men left are looking at overseas brides.

It's true. A discussion about this broke out at my local cardroom a while back. I was surprised at the high percentage of guys who were no longer interested in relationships with American-born women. And this was quite a diverse group in terms of age, race, and occupation.

[Deagle]

Yep... It’s a shame, but brought on by the stupid feminist anti-male teachings of this generation. Unfortunately, it also has detrimental effects on the survival of America - not sure that they would care though...(at least until it is too late)...

[Monorprise]

Family is probably the most important thing there is in to be had in life, baring none.

Women can and will do what they wish, but forgo family you’ve missed the only true treasure in life.

A job or career is after all only temporarily, family is forever and eternally apart of you.

I don’t think anything can ever be more important then your family.

To be quite honest I’m not sure how we ever got to the point where we could so cautiously forsaken our own families, such as we have in this way.

[Vanders9]

The real men left are looking at overseas brides...heh

Its more sad than funny. The prevailing opinion amongst all too many men these days is that western women have priced themselves out of the market. Go overseas!

[Tax-chick]

My husband has been the breadwinner since 1995. My job is to make sure the bills get paid.

[nurees]

I’m the breadwinner in the house but I have a job with a home office. While I have to travel a few times a month, I probably spend more time with my son than if I worked in an office 9-5. We never had to drop him at day care or pick him up late in the evening. His pack and play was in my office for the first year and when I travel, my husband is there 100%. I hate the travel but the trade off is worth it, at least for now. I know in my gut and heart I can never go back to a traditional office job.

[Xenalyte]

Women can and will do what they wish, but forgo family you’ve missed the only true treasure in life.

Some of us wished for kids and couldn't afford to have them.

[Tax-chick]

I don’t think it matters what the exact disposition of income is, as long as everyone is taking care of the family.

[Monorprise]

“Some of us wished for kids and couldn’t afford to have them.”

Honestly I don’t see how anyone could not afford to have kids, if people in 3rd world country’s can afford to have kids. I don’t see why any American couldn’t. It doesn’t have to be perfect, they don’t have to have all the toys in the world, to exist in itself with parents is perhaps in itself the greatest price.

[Ellendra]

The prevailing opinion amongst all too many men these days is that western women have priced themselves out of the market.

And the same women who treat guys like scum complain about how they can't find any good men anymore.

[Antoninus]

It's not surprising that this attitude is coming back around. I think a lot of it stems from the fact that young women have object examples in their own families of 50-60-something women who never married and had children but instead were married to their careers, and are miserable for it. I know we have such in our family and it is sad.

I tend to subscribe to G. K. Chesterton's view:

"When domesticity, for instance, is called drudgery, all the difficulty arises from a double meaning in the word. If drudgery only means dreadfully hard work, I admit the woman drudges in the home, as a man might drudge at the Cathedral of Amiens or drudge behind a gun at Trafalgar. But if it means that the hard work is more heavy because it is trifling, colorless and of small import to the soul, then as I say, I give it up; I do not know what the words mean. To be Queen Elizabeth within a definite area, deciding sales, banquets, labors and holidays; to be Whiteley within a certain area, providing toys, boots, sheets, cakes and books, to be Aristotle within a certain area, teaching morals, manners, theology, and hygiene; I can understand how this might exhaust the mind, but I cannot imagine how it could narrow it. How can it be a large career to tell other people's children about the Rule of Three, and a small career to tell one's own children about the universe? How can it be broad to be the same thing to everyone, and narrow to be everything to someone? No; a woman's function is laborious, but because it is gigantic, not because it is minute. I will pity Mrs. Jones for the hugeness of her task; I will never pity her for its smallness."

I certainly don't begrudge women the right to work if they so choose. However, I think for most women, long-term happiness is more likely to be found in the home with the family than in the office with an ever-shifting crew of colleagues.

Women are the chief civilizers of society. I think that part of the reason our civilization is so corrupt today is because a majority of children aren't really raised by their own mothers but by "social engineers" in the form of daycare workers and public school teachers.

[Antoninus]

Some of us wished for kids and couldn't afford to have them.

If you're referring to infertility, that's very sad. And the fact that it costs so much to adopt a child is a national scandal, in my opinion. Fostering is another option, but I think you really have to be cut out emotionally and spiritually for that kind of thing.

[Patriotic1]

I have to say, even women like it when a man does some of that list for them. It’s called taking care of someone. I don’t think I could do it every day, but I try to do nice things for my honey frequently.

[meadsjn]

What women want in 2010: A husband who'll be the main breadwinner

The same cycle of history is probably happening here in the USA. It is good news, but ...

If women really want a conservative family life, they are going to have to fight through several election cycles to defeat and reverse the communist garbage that has been dominating and killing our civilization.

[Vanders9]

Absolutely!

[Vanders9]

That’s because you had to pay all your surplus money in tax so little miss illegal could raise her five brats.

Sorry, but that’s effectively the net result of the “social contract”.

[Xenalyte]

No need to tell me WHY I couldn’t afford them. I am well aware, and not happy about it.

[Xenalyte]

One wishes to provide one’s children a higher standard of living than one had. I could not do that.

[Ellendra]

I certainly don't begrudge women the right to work if they so choose.

I think in your wording you might have hit on the real heart of the matter. Maybe what "women" want isn't to have a career, or to be a housewife. Maybe all "women" want is to be able to choose either without being stigmatized?

[choctawindian]

Yeah, that’s why those of us out here who are finding out the hard way that the white man’s world still doesn’t really accept nonwhite women with open arms - the science fields, math, computers, and law, to be precise - and can’t find any job to save our lives no matter how many college degrees we get; are screwed totally when we try to resort to what our elders did: find a husband to support us. Now these days, these post-feminazi days, no man wants to support a woman with as much higher education as he has who just can’t find a job in this economy because of her skin color. So women are just left to starve on the streets while men go abroad and search for foreign brides who have less education and aren’t going to be capable or competent to raise and educate the children they want to have with these prettier women. They may have a more subservient, less-educated wife who bears them prettier children but who won’t be able to do so much as correct their homework because they won’t know how.

What a screwed up world.

[choctawindian]

To: familyop

Would be nice if employers got the hint. Hard to find churchgoing ladies these days.

Well some of us out here DO go to Mass. When I get there all I find is that the only people there on a regular basis are all over 50 and very few newborns and new families. We have few Baptisms these days, fewer Weddings. What does that say?! Sometimes I’m the only person under 50 who’s there, for gosh sakes!!

No. Churchgoing ladies aren’t “hard to find.” You people just don’t want the one standing right in front of you!! Because I’m Native American “red” Indian I guess people just assume by looking at me that I “must” NOT go to Mass.

[Deagle]

That is just wrong in almost every way! Women (and all minorities) are the ones getting the advantage today (just look at the percentage of women vs men in the workplace). If you can’t get a job or advance, it is probably due to your own lack of skills or perseverance. Non-White (men or women) means advancement today in almost all positions.

As to the husband thing...mercy, with the college education that is received today, it would be amazing if even a third of these women are ever married. They are being taught how to be selfish men haters - just who do you think would marry them? Geez, and you wonder why men here are looking at other countries for brides...

This has virtually nothing to do with education except that it is women’s studies that are destroying any chance at a happy marriage. Almost all women with a higher education would never even consider marrying a man with less education so who is to blame here..? They still want the money maker while they do their own thing...