Skip to comments.Women Really Want Abstinence-Based Empowerment, Not NOW and Casual Sex
Posted on 03/01/2010 11:38:47 AM PST by OriginalChristian
A group that thinks an ad celebrating Tim Tebow's life is bad news for women might be a little out of touch with what women really want.
That helps explain why the National Organization for Women and other feminist groups have vehemently opposed abstinence education while failing to notice that a culture of casual sex hasn't been so liberating for women.
Just ask the 29-year-old Briton living in America whose anonymous account appeared in her country's left-wing Guardian newspaper.
"(M)y sexual liberation was perversely trapping me in destructive relationships, while intimacy had become something elusive, insubstantial, disappointing, surreal," she writes. Weary of a "burlesque comedy where we all pretended we were emotionless and cool," she decided to stop having sex because "I wanted sex to be, quite simply, special again."
Similar world-weary statements have been recorded by researchers such as Dr. Miriam Grossman, author of "Unprotected," and Laura Sessions Stepp, author of "Unhooked: How Young Women Pursue Sex, Delay Love and Lose at Both."
Only a third of young women say they truly wanted to have sex the first time they did, Stepp reports. Young women, she writes, "are trying to make sense of what is arguably the most confusing sexual landscape any generation has ever faced."
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I searched in whole and in part on the keyword 'Women' back to past the 19th and didn't see this posted. If it is a re-post, accept my apologies and AdminMods, please pull if so desired. Thanks... OC
Maybe God was right after all.
notice how some people’s bad choices are always soemone else’s fault.
if it ain’t ‘the man’, it’s ‘the women’s liberation group’.
face it ladies, if you don’t use good sense, and if you buy into a demeaning lifestyle, it ain’t nobody else’s fault.
The Woodstock generation tried so hard to imprint the “it’s okay to have casual sex” message that now girls are trapped in a culture that can’t say the message: “it’s okay NOT to have casual sex”. Unintended consequences yet again.
Oldest proverb in the book... why would a guy buy the cow when he can get the milk for free?
Why buy a cow when its much cheaper to rent?
Oh boy. Another article talking about what women want. Whoopdy-doo. Here’s what I want: An article about how the men who never get what they want are tired of hearing about what you want every day.
I taught the abstinence program at the teen girl’s retreat in my church. It is really important for these young ladies to find out that they are too precious to be wasted on this one and that one. They have to know who they are and love themselves (meaning a precious child of G-d). Abstinence won’t stick unless that notion is married to the notion of honoring G-d with every fiber of your being including your temple.
“...she decided to stop having sex...”
Show of hands: how many guys will also pledge to stop having sex? Put your hands down! If “she” ain’t having sex then neither are you.
True, but it sucks to lose the farm...
Oldest proverb in the book... why would a guy buy the cow when he can get the milk for free?The problem with casual sex is not that it hurts women but that it hurts *men*. Now that all middle class women know how to use contraception or, in the worst case, the local abortion clinic. Without any consequences women have no reason to get married until they meet their "ideal" man. This leaves a good portion of men out in the cold and a good number of women spinsters into old age.
Maybe that is not such a bad thing. An older man has a much higher chance of entering into a relationship with a younger woman than an older woman and a younger man. If this sort of thinking helps to literally "kill off" the idea that one can wait around for the perfect man then maybe it is a good thing in disguise. :)
“True, but it sucks to lose the farm...”
Er..Uh..You lose the farm if you BUY the cow, not when you rent!
Maybe that is not such a bad thing. An older man has a much higher chance of entering into a relationship with a younger woman than an older woman and a younger man. If this sort of thinking helps to literally "kill off" the idea that one can wait around for the perfect man then maybe it is a good thing in disguise. :)Haha... this only works for the men who were popular when they were younger. It used to be that the bottom 30% of men got married off one way or another. Now they're lonely and weird into old age. At least they have the internet now.
Renting should be legalized.
Thats so true.
Girls and yound women today are so bombarded with cultural cues that they MUST have sex or they are worthless.
The key is to instill the message that a girl/young woman has intrinsic value to herself, her family, her country, her GOD. She doesn’t need to ‘prove’ her worth to society by having casual sex (as is taught over and over in popular media).
As a teenage boy growing up in the ‘70’s, “Women’s Lib” was the best thing that ever happened to my libido.
“Renting should be legalized.”
Er...Uh...Renting is legal. Dinner..drinks (lots of drinks)..
I hate stats like that because it implies that if you truly want to, it's OK. If we teach young men and women about getting and staying married and having children, then sex will be on our side instead of being an invincible enemy. Early marital indulgence I tell you! But how many young women get the contradicting message that education and career are more important than family?
Yes indeed. It’s not as if a fertility rate at half replacement rate will have an adverse effect on our societies :/
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I find the comments on the thread quite telling. Actually, illicit sex hurts everyone equally; actually it hurts the children the most. Either the existing children who have absent fathers (or no married dad), sluts for mothers, live-in boyfriends in the house, etc. These used to be called "broken homes". Of course that phrase is now taboo, there are "alternate families".
And then there are the "unwanted" children of casual sex - aborted at worst, or kept, fatherless. Children of unwed mothers have a much more difficult life than those born with a married mother and father, this is indisbutable. Children with mom's "boyfriends" hanging aroud are much more likely to get abused or molested.
Each body is a temple, since the soul - the person we are - is dwelling within, and God is in everyone's hearts. Now maybe everyone doesn't believe this, but even still recognizing that God created the bodies and told us how to use them is reason enough not to degrade ourselves and others by using the bodies for instant gratification with no lifelong marriage commitment.
The truth is that we are more than our sensual appetites. We are not meant to be slaves to every whim that wants attention. People often equate "Liberty" with "License". Liberty or freedom entails responsibility. Living within the guidelines given in every religion in the world is human life; rejecting them and (pardon the language) humping on everything that moves like beasts in the field and forest is not human life; creates misery for everyone involved, and when enough people act like that - and are encouraged by the entire culture - then society goes to hell. As we see before our eyes.
Good article. Thanks!
And who has made it so? Women?! If you offer a man frre, no-strings-attached sex, ninety-nine times out ofone hundred he will accept. Just don't expect to engender much tenderness or feeling or earn any respect.
I hate to even ask this question but.... WHAT DO WOMEN WANT?
That depends on the woman.
“Oldest proverb in the book... why would a guy buy the cow when he can get the milk for free?”
How about, Why buy the milk when you have a big fat cow at home?
Did you mean an internet cow? :)
We did it. Wife and I never touched each other beyond a kiss before we hitched up, 2 years from first meeting to the honeymoon. God’s way. Worked out pretty darn well, 15 years married and in still love. Nice thing was, took a lot of stress off the dating, got to focus on other stuff.
“A good thing in disguise.” I had a hell of a relationship with my husband. He died of cancer. I’m comfortable in my own skin and do not necessarily need another relationship. If the right guy comes along that’s good. If not, so be it. Being alone isn’t all that bad.
And I cannot count the number of young people who say they cannot afford children.
What they really mean is that they think that they cannot afford to be selfless. But they are really cheating themselves. Can all the toys in the world compare to the joy of one's children? The true way to judge the value of something is how great we mourn its loss. And there is no greater grief than the loss of a child.
My wife has been very indulgent to me, we are expecting our 10th. But both her mother and grandmother have tried to be very discouraging to her. Her grandmother raised 5 and her mother raised 4. The ironic thing is that when they recently posted her grandmother's 96th birthday announcement in the newspaper, they listed her 17 grandchildren, 42 great-grandchildren and 12 great-great-grandchildren. I think they're jealous. I joked with my wife, that when we call them after the baby is born, we can announce that her mom has broken her grandmother's record for grandchildren!
We can't take anything with us. But if we bring up our children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord, we have good hope for our eternal investment.
But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal:
My wife learned this last weekend that more than 50% of students entering college have never shared a bathroom.
I don’t get how someone can have such intimate relations w/someone they don’t know.I wasn’t brought up that way and the idea makes me sick.