Skip to comments.A Lesbian Mother's Complaint: I Want To Be the Only Mommy on Mother's Day
Posted on 05/07/2010 1:58:11 PM PDT by Lorianne
As the toddlers say, I don't want to share. ___ A few years ago, my daughter and I were browsing through the card kiosk, trying to select a Mother's Day card. "Mom you're the best!" read one. "#1 mom" raved another. "Queen mother!" pronounced yet another. I got to choose because she couldn't yet read, and I chose none of the above. Let's go home and make homemade cards, OK?
On cream-colored card stock, those bards at Hallmark have put their finger on the problem I have with Mother's Day: For me, it can't be about bests and greatests and onlys and queen bees. It can't be all about the superlative me. My child has two moms. And while Mother's Day may strike some as an occasion for our family to double our pleasure/double our fun, the second Sunday in May has become the thorn in my bouquet of roses. I don't particularly feel like sharing the holiday.
Mother's Day aside, I don't even like to share the term mommy. I find it a little jarring when I hear my partner on the phone saying, "This is Nora's mother
" And I'm always awarewhen my daughter and I are out and aboutthat when I say, "We should call mama" or "Mama's waiting for us" that, to an eavesdropper's ear, I am someone other than this child's mother.
(Excerpt) Read more at slate.com ...
What a sickening article. Got through the 1st page and read enough.
People have been doing that ever since Mother's Day was invented - you mean to tell me you cannot figure out how?
A child has ONE mother and ONE father.
No legal play fiction will change that reality.
Epic fail stretching back to elementary school biology. Your child has 1 mom.
“I don’t particularly feel like sharing the holiday”.
...then go have an addadictome operation and be the Daddy!
These people are not playing with a full deck. She likes women sexually. We get it. Then they have to go out and build a whole new imaginary world around their fetish.
Is there no end to these peoples’ narcissism? Do we have to re-invent the language for them, now? So they can feeeeeel OK about themselves?
Probably an activist. Narcissists, all of them. Me, me, ME! [dammit]
Not exactly sure how time works in hell, but I bet after the first million years, a pervert’s Mother’s Day emotions in 2010 won’t seem so important.
I’m not even going to click the link, the posted excerpt is enough for me.
Which one is the #2 mom?
A whole new imaginary world.
For some reason, I’m picturing William Sanderson as Larry from “Newhart” introducing his mother Dara and his other mother Dara...
Indeed, the child has a mommy and a daddy. Perhaps you wouldn’t have to share if you found your own, no?
In two words the pathology is defined.
Oh, of all the foolishness.
Boy! Erika, you have a problem. But not as huge a one as your ‘daughter.’
That imaginary world becomes very real once they start dragging innocents into it.
That's because the one who gave birth IS the real mom ... and the ONLY mom.
In these "situations", both women are broken and in need of healing.
What an aggressor. She must be bitterly unhappy.
It’s not like someone forced her to choose this mess....
lol....I don’t think I can say anything that hasn’t already been said on the thread.
One can only imagine. I’m glad I don’t have to live with her.
That might insult daddies out there. ; 0
And after everyone conforms to each of this lesbian’s demands,
she will still be there spitting out more demands,
fueled by the emptiness she rightly feels due to being:
a) miserable and ashamed of her lesbianism
b) mired in her narcissism.
It’s biologically impossible to have two moms. Only one is the real mother. Poor child..
You can’t fit a square hole in a round hole.
Now that’s funny.
This kind of hits home for me. I left my daughter’s mother over a year ago because she was abusive (to me and to daughter), vindictive, neurotic, and possibly mentally disturbed. Yes, she’s the biological parent of my child (and let me tell you now, the dynamics of abusive relationships are truly distorted, and it’s a shame there isn’t more focus on them both for abused women and abused men), but as a mother, caring, nurturing, role model, authority figure, and so many other facets, she fails miserably.
I have since remarried, and my current wife is everything to me and my daughter that my ex-wife never was and can never be. My wife plays with my daughter, loves her, and otherwise parents her. So, the answer to who is the true “mommy” and who is the mother is not so clear. It’s not just biology. It becomes a morality issue, at least with regard to the article. Certainly there is a drive in every woman to be a mother, and it’s obvious that the woman in the article is now seeing at least a part of the price she is paying for the delusional lifestyle she has chosen. I have no trouble with my lack of sympathy for her, but it did raise in my mind the question of my own daughter, who also has two mommies in a way.
There is only room for one pair of fully functioning ovaries under any given roof. (Men generally learn this the hard way as their daughters approach adulthood...)
She likes women sexually. We get it. 'Tis OK, IMHO. To each their own.
Then they have to go out and build a whole new imaginary world around their fetish. ....Tis OK, IMHO, as well. It's their world and they're welcome to it.
HOWEVER - my problem happens when reality intrudes on their little made-up world and they have the temerity to complain about it.
If she doesn't like the lifestyle choices that she's made, then she needs to change them, or learn to live with her decisions....just like everyone else that lives in the real world does. Until then, she needs to STFU. IMHO.
OH good grief
and a web site actually posted this?
That picture is probably a hate crime.
99.999% never have to question.
There really isn’t a problem. It will be left to your daughter to honor your wife on Mother’s Day.
My daughter’s only 5, so she’s still learning that kind of thing. Thanks for the thought though.
I try to empathize with the kids, though. How would they explain such a spectacle to their friends (assuming they're allowed any)?
-Hey Donny, who's the creepy fat lady?
-Uhh... That's Aunt Bluto. She aint all there, see?
-Let's get out of here!
Read the whole article. She’s even mad she has to share Mothers’ Day with her own mother. She doesn’t feel it is fair that she has to be a doting daughter on “her special day”. She’s just selfish. Poor little girl. She has put her in this situation and then gripes about the little girl sharing Mothers’ Day with the woman she designated as her other mom. How confusing and unfair to a 5 year old.
I have 3 children, youngest 4. I have never found Mothers’ Day to be my “Queen for a Day” day. They make breakfast, make a mess, I clean up. They buy me rhinestones that they want to keep (I let them). I pack a picnic - they eat. And, no matter what, we love each other - and that is all that matters and what makes my heart sing. I don’t need to have some “all about me” day. Just glad to have an all about us day.
If she has chosen this life for her child, the least she can do is make it as happy and smooth as possible. Don’t make the other woman the enemy to the child that loves her too.
My prayers and condolences go out to the child.
Daddy? That is not even from the human species.
Imaginary is right.