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A Lesbian Mother's Complaint: I Want To Be the Only Mommy on Mother's Day
Slate ^ | 07 May 2010 | Erika Milvy

Posted on 05/07/2010 1:58:11 PM PDT by Lorianne

As the toddlers say, I don't want to share. ___ A few years ago, my daughter and I were browsing through the card kiosk, trying to select a Mother's Day card. "Mom you're the best!" read one. "#1 mom" raved another. "Queen mother!" pronounced yet another. I got to choose because she couldn't yet read, and I chose none of the above. Let's go home and make homemade cards, OK?

On cream-colored card stock, those bards at Hallmark have put their finger on the problem I have with Mother's Day: For me, it can't be about bests and greatests and onlys and queen bees. It can't be all about the superlative me. My child has two moms. And while Mother's Day may strike some as an occasion for our family to double our pleasure/double our fun, the second Sunday in May has become the thorn in my bouquet of roses. I don't particularly feel like sharing the holiday.

Mother's Day aside, I don't even like to share the term mommy. I find it a little jarring when I hear my partner on the phone saying, "This is Nora's mother…" And I'm always aware—when my daughter and I are out and about—that when I say, "We should call mama" or "Mama's waiting for us" that, to an eavesdropper's ear, I am someone other than this child's mother.

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TOPICS: Culture/Society; Miscellaneous
KEYWORDS: 2sick4words; homosexualagenda; ivf; jpb; lesbonaziagenda; mothersday; sick; sicksicksick
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1 posted on 05/07/2010 1:58:11 PM PDT by Lorianne
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To: Lorianne

What a sickening article. Got through the 1st page and read enough.


2 posted on 05/07/2010 1:59:51 PM PDT by albie
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To: Lorianne
I Want To Be the Only Mommy on Mother's Day

People have been doing that ever since Mother's Day was invented - you mean to tell me you cannot figure out how?

3 posted on 05/07/2010 2:00:34 PM PDT by Izzy Dunne (Hello, I'm a TAGLINE virus. Please help me spread by copying me into YOUR tag line.)
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To: Lorianne

A child has ONE mother and ONE father.

No legal play fiction will change that reality.


4 posted on 05/07/2010 2:01:02 PM PDT by longtermmemmory (VOTE! http://www.senate.gov and http://www.house.gov)
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To: Lorianne
My child has two moms.

Epic fail stretching back to elementary school biology. Your child has 1 mom.

5 posted on 05/07/2010 2:01:47 PM PDT by Cletus.D.Yokel (We were hoping for flying unicorns that crapped skittles. We got nationalized health care.)
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To: Lorianne


6 posted on 05/07/2010 2:01:52 PM PDT by Responsibility2nd (PALIN/MCCAIN IN 2012 - barf alert? sarc tag? -- can't decide)
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To: Lorianne

“I don’t particularly feel like sharing the holiday”.

...then go have an addadictome operation and be the Daddy!


7 posted on 05/07/2010 2:01:54 PM PDT by albie
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To: Lorianne

hahaha

These people are not playing with a full deck. She likes women sexually. We get it. Then they have to go out and build a whole new imaginary world around their fetish.


8 posted on 05/07/2010 2:03:15 PM PDT by GeronL (http://libertyfic.proboards.com << Get your science fiction and fiction test marketed)
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To: Lorianne

Is there no end to these peoples’ narcissism? Do we have to re-invent the language for them, now? So they can feeeeeel OK about themselves?


9 posted on 05/07/2010 2:03:17 PM PDT by GadareneDemoniac
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To: albie
“I don’t particularly feel like sharing the holiday”.

Probably an activist. Narcissists, all of them. Me, me, ME! [dammit]

10 posted on 05/07/2010 2:03:26 PM PDT by Cletus.D.Yokel (We were hoping for flying unicorns that crapped skittles. We got nationalized health care.)
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To: Lorianne

Not exactly sure how time works in hell, but I bet after the first million years, a pervert’s Mother’s Day emotions in 2010 won’t seem so important.


11 posted on 05/07/2010 2:03:26 PM PDT by stinkerpot65 (Global warming is a Marxist lie.)
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To: Lorianne; writer33; Lazamataz

I’m not even going to click the link, the posted excerpt is enough for me.

Which one is the #2 mom?

lol

A whole new imaginary world.


12 posted on 05/07/2010 2:04:19 PM PDT by GeronL (http://libertyfic.proboards.com << Get your science fiction and fiction test marketed)
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To: Lorianne

For some reason, I’m picturing William Sanderson as Larry from “Newhart” introducing his mother Dara and his other mother Dara...


13 posted on 05/07/2010 2:06:38 PM PDT by RichInOC (No! BAD Rich! (What'd I say?))
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To: Cletus.D.Yokel

Indeed, the child has a mommy and a daddy. Perhaps you wouldn’t have to share if you found your own, no?


14 posted on 05/07/2010 2:08:09 PM PDT by BenKenobi
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To: Lorianne
Ohhh! The horrible problems of being a lesbian parent. My heart goes out to this poor lady. Image and video hosting by TinyPic
15 posted on 05/07/2010 2:09:10 PM PDT by Old Seadog (Always do a little more than is expected, and someday .....it will be expected.)
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To: Lorianne
... I Want ...

In two words the pathology is defined.

16 posted on 05/07/2010 2:09:38 PM PDT by RobinOfKingston (Democrats, the party of evil. Republicans, the party of stupid.)
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To: Lorianne

Oh, of all the foolishness.


17 posted on 05/07/2010 2:10:22 PM PDT by ReneeLynn (Socialism is SO yesterday. Fascism, it*s the new black. Mmm Mmm Mmm.)
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To: Lorianne
She thinks she has problems on Mothers day? Just wait till Fathers Day.
 
Maybe she can buy her kid a bib:
 

Baster Daddy Bib

18 posted on 05/07/2010 2:11:12 PM PDT by Responsibility2nd (PALIN/MCCAIN IN 2012 - barf alert? sarc tag? -- can't decide)
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To: Lorianne
No problem. If your partner looks like this, just call her daddy.


19 posted on 05/07/2010 2:12:07 PM PDT by colorado tanker
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To: Lorianne
There ARE consequences for blatant sinfulness, sweetie.
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20 posted on 05/07/2010 2:12:29 PM PDT by pillut48 ("Stand now. Stand together. Stand for what is right."-Gov.Sarah Palin, "Going Rogue" ><>)
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To: Lorianne

Boy! Erika, you have a problem. But not as huge a one as your ‘daughter.’


21 posted on 05/07/2010 2:14:17 PM PDT by YHAOS (you betcha!)
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To: GeronL
Then they have to go out and build a whole new imaginary world around their fetish.

That imaginary world becomes very real once they start dragging innocents into it.

22 posted on 05/07/2010 2:14:57 PM PDT by Greysard
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To: Lorianne
"Most people know better than to question their maternal legitimacy, but once in a while someone will ask "who gave birth?" in a way that implies, "Which one of you is the real mom?""

That's because the one who gave birth IS the real mom ... and the ONLY mom.

In these "situations", both women are broken and in need of healing.

23 posted on 05/07/2010 2:15:04 PM PDT by tx_eggman (Liberalism is only possible in that moment when a man chooses Barabas over Christ.)
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To: colorado tanker

What an aggressor. She must be bitterly unhappy.


24 posted on 05/07/2010 2:17:47 PM PDT by Republic (Stop the horrific liberals from spending ONE MORE DIME before they destroy our nation.)
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To: Lorianne

It’s not like someone forced her to choose this mess....


25 posted on 05/07/2010 2:18:48 PM PDT by Sacajaweau (What)
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To: GeronL

lol....I don’t think I can say anything that hasn’t already been said on the thread.


26 posted on 05/07/2010 2:19:49 PM PDT by darkangel82 (I don't have a superiority complex, I'm just better than you.)
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To: darkangel82

lol


27 posted on 05/07/2010 2:21:26 PM PDT by GeronL (http://libertyfic.proboards.com << Get your science fiction and fiction test marketed)
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To: Republic

One can only imagine. I’m glad I don’t have to live with her.


28 posted on 05/07/2010 2:22:32 PM PDT by colorado tanker
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To: colorado tanker

That might insult daddies out there. ; 0


29 posted on 05/07/2010 2:22:40 PM PDT by Northern Yankee (Where Liberty dwells, there is my Country. - Benjamin Franklin)
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To: RichInOC

lol


30 posted on 05/07/2010 2:22:42 PM PDT by GeronL (http://libertyfic.proboards.com << Get your science fiction and fiction test marketed)
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To: Lorianne

And after everyone conforms to each of this lesbian’s demands,

she will still be there spitting out more demands,

fueled by the emptiness she rightly feels due to being:

a) miserable and ashamed of her lesbianism

and/or

b) mired in her narcissism.


31 posted on 05/07/2010 2:23:43 PM PDT by Notwithstanding
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To: Lorianne

It’s biologically impossible to have two moms. Only one is the real mother. Poor child..


32 posted on 05/07/2010 2:24:06 PM PDT by Trillian
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To: Lorianne

spfl


33 posted on 05/07/2010 2:24:12 PM PDT by Slings and Arrows (Just another day in Oceania.)
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To: colorado tanker

You can’t fit a square hole in a round hole.


34 posted on 05/07/2010 2:25:17 PM PDT by Notwithstanding
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To: Responsibility2nd

Now that’s funny.


35 posted on 05/07/2010 2:28:40 PM PDT by SirLurkedalot (Islam must undergo fundamental change or it must be destroyed.)
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To: Lorianne

This kind of hits home for me. I left my daughter’s mother over a year ago because she was abusive (to me and to daughter), vindictive, neurotic, and possibly mentally disturbed. Yes, she’s the biological parent of my child (and let me tell you now, the dynamics of abusive relationships are truly distorted, and it’s a shame there isn’t more focus on them both for abused women and abused men), but as a mother, caring, nurturing, role model, authority figure, and so many other facets, she fails miserably.

I have since remarried, and my current wife is everything to me and my daughter that my ex-wife never was and can never be. My wife plays with my daughter, loves her, and otherwise parents her. So, the answer to who is the true “mommy” and who is the mother is not so clear. It’s not just biology. It becomes a morality issue, at least with regard to the article. Certainly there is a drive in every woman to be a mother, and it’s obvious that the woman in the article is now seeing at least a part of the price she is paying for the delusional lifestyle she has chosen. I have no trouble with my lack of sympathy for her, but it did raise in my mind the question of my own daughter, who also has two mommies in a way.


36 posted on 05/07/2010 2:29:45 PM PDT by Little Pig (Vi Veri Veniversum Vivus Vici.)
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To: Lorianne

There is only room for one pair of fully functioning ovaries under any given roof. (Men generally learn this the hard way as their daughters approach adulthood...)


37 posted on 05/07/2010 2:41:10 PM PDT by Buckeye McFrog
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To: GeronL
These people are not playing with a full deck. ...ya think? :-)

She likes women sexually. We get it. 'Tis OK, IMHO. To each their own.

Then they have to go out and build a whole new imaginary world around their fetish. ....Tis OK, IMHO, as well. It's their world and they're welcome to it.

HOWEVER - my problem happens when reality intrudes on their little made-up world and they have the temerity to complain about it.

If she doesn't like the lifestyle choices that she's made, then she needs to change them, or learn to live with her decisions....just like everyone else that lives in the real world does. Until then, she needs to STFU. IMHO.

38 posted on 05/07/2010 2:41:57 PM PDT by wbill
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To: wbill

very true


39 posted on 05/07/2010 2:48:58 PM PDT by GeronL (http://libertyfic.proboards.com << Get your science fiction and fiction test marketed)
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To: Lorianne

OH good grief
and a web site actually posted this?


40 posted on 05/07/2010 3:01:04 PM PDT by RWGinger
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To: pillut48

That picture is probably a hate crime.


41 posted on 05/07/2010 3:06:21 PM PDT by thulldud (Is it "alter or abolish" time yet?)
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To: tx_eggman
Most people know better than to question their maternal legitimacy, but once in a while someone will ask "who gave birth?" in a way that implies, "Which one of you is the real mom?

99.999% never have to question.

42 posted on 05/07/2010 3:06:49 PM PDT by Last Dakotan
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To: Little Pig

There really isn’t a problem. It will be left to your daughter to honor your wife on Mother’s Day.


43 posted on 05/07/2010 3:08:30 PM PDT by Shooter 2.5 (NRA /Patron - TSRA- IDPA)
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To: Shooter 2.5

My daughter’s only 5, so she’s still learning that kind of thing. Thanks for the thought though.


44 posted on 05/07/2010 3:13:33 PM PDT by Little Pig (Vi Veri Veniversum Vivus Vici.)
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To: colorado tanker
No problem. If your partner looks like this, just call her daddy.

I try to empathize with the kids, though. How would they explain such a spectacle to their friends (assuming they're allowed any)?

-Hey Donny, who's the creepy fat lady?

-Uhh... That's Aunt Bluto. She aint all there, see?

-Let's get out of here!

45 posted on 05/07/2010 3:17:03 PM PDT by Seven plus One
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To: Lorianne

Read the whole article. She’s even mad she has to share Mothers’ Day with her own mother. She doesn’t feel it is fair that she has to be a doting daughter on “her special day”. She’s just selfish. Poor little girl. She has put her in this situation and then gripes about the little girl sharing Mothers’ Day with the woman she designated as her other mom. How confusing and unfair to a 5 year old.

I have 3 children, youngest 4. I have never found Mothers’ Day to be my “Queen for a Day” day. They make breakfast, make a mess, I clean up. They buy me rhinestones that they want to keep (I let them). I pack a picnic - they eat. And, no matter what, we love each other - and that is all that matters and what makes my heart sing. I don’t need to have some “all about me” day. Just glad to have an all about us day.

If she has chosen this life for her child, the least she can do is make it as happy and smooth as possible. Don’t make the other woman the enemy to the child that loves her too.


46 posted on 05/07/2010 3:25:33 PM PDT by keepitreal ( Don't tread on me.)
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To: Lorianne

My prayers and condolences go out to the child.


47 posted on 05/07/2010 3:27:00 PM PDT by Freedom_Is_Not_Free (Bye bye Miss American Freedom. When did we vote for Communism?)
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To: colorado tanker

Daddy? That is not even from the human species.


48 posted on 05/07/2010 3:28:11 PM PDT by Freedom_Is_Not_Free (Bye bye Miss American Freedom. When did we vote for Communism?)
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To: GeronL

Imaginary is right.


49 posted on 05/07/2010 3:42:40 PM PDT by freekitty (Give me back my conservative vote; then find me a real conservative to vote for)
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To: Lorianne

Disgusting


50 posted on 05/07/2010 4:32:55 PM PDT by montag813
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