Skip to comments.A Lesbian Mother's Complaint: I Want To Be the Only Mommy on Mother's Day
Posted on 05/07/2010 1:58:11 PM PDT by Lorianne
As the toddlers say, I don't want to share. ___ A few years ago, my daughter and I were browsing through the card kiosk, trying to select a Mother's Day card. "Mom you're the best!" read one. "#1 mom" raved another. "Queen mother!" pronounced yet another. I got to choose because she couldn't yet read, and I chose none of the above. Let's go home and make homemade cards, OK?
On cream-colored card stock, those bards at Hallmark have put their finger on the problem I have with Mother's Day: For me, it can't be about bests and greatests and onlys and queen bees. It can't be all about the superlative me. My child has two moms. And while Mother's Day may strike some as an occasion for our family to double our pleasure/double our fun, the second Sunday in May has become the thorn in my bouquet of roses. I don't particularly feel like sharing the holiday.
Mother's Day aside, I don't even like to share the term mommy. I find it a little jarring when I hear my partner on the phone saying, "This is Nora's mother
" And I'm always awarewhen my daughter and I are out and aboutthat when I say, "We should call mama" or "Mama's waiting for us" that, to an eavesdropper's ear, I am someone other than this child's mother.
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That picture is probably a hate crime.
99.999% never have to question.
There really isn’t a problem. It will be left to your daughter to honor your wife on Mother’s Day.
My daughter’s only 5, so she’s still learning that kind of thing. Thanks for the thought though.
I try to empathize with the kids, though. How would they explain such a spectacle to their friends (assuming they're allowed any)?
-Hey Donny, who's the creepy fat lady?
-Uhh... That's Aunt Bluto. She aint all there, see?
-Let's get out of here!
Read the whole article. She’s even mad she has to share Mothers’ Day with her own mother. She doesn’t feel it is fair that she has to be a doting daughter on “her special day”. She’s just selfish. Poor little girl. She has put her in this situation and then gripes about the little girl sharing Mothers’ Day with the woman she designated as her other mom. How confusing and unfair to a 5 year old.
I have 3 children, youngest 4. I have never found Mothers’ Day to be my “Queen for a Day” day. They make breakfast, make a mess, I clean up. They buy me rhinestones that they want to keep (I let them). I pack a picnic - they eat. And, no matter what, we love each other - and that is all that matters and what makes my heart sing. I don’t need to have some “all about me” day. Just glad to have an all about us day.
If she has chosen this life for her child, the least she can do is make it as happy and smooth as possible. Don’t make the other woman the enemy to the child that loves her too.
My prayers and condolences go out to the child.
Daddy? That is not even from the human species.
Imaginary is right.
John, I am your mother!
The problem with that is that even if they got everything they wanted they would still not be happy. I say get used to the world in which you were born and deal with it.
From the article: “To bypass the mayhem, Nora sometimes just calls us by name. “Don’t call me Erika!” I plead. “I like being called Mommy. You’re the only one on this planet who can call me Mommy.” But I’m not the only person on this planet she can call Mommy.”
And yet, and yet...they want the rest of us to say “You’re normal, you’re just like heteros, YAY!!!!” But they can’t even say it themselves.
BECAUSE IT ISN’T TRUE!
Yeah, that whole “honor” thing has been used by way to many to oppress children who know better. Jesus knew who his mothers and brothers were.
Boo hoo hoo.
I raised my stepdaughter from the age of ten. I get called Mom and get cards and gifts for Mother’s day. Her mother gets called Mama and gets cards and gifts for Mother’s day. No one gets freaked out over it.