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Ex-Lesbian Janet Boynes Tells Moving Story of Conversion
Life Site News ^ | Friday July 16, 2010 | Matthew Cullinan Hoffman

Posted on 07/18/2010 12:30:00 AM PDT by GonzoII

Friday July 16, 2010


Ex-Lesbian Janet Boynes Tells Moving Story of Conversion

By Matthew Cullinan Hoffman

July 16, 2010 (LifeSiteNews.com) - Former lesbian Janet Boynes says that her homosexuality began as it does for many women: as a response to sexual and psychological abuse she suffered as a child.

She was raised by one of her mother's boyfriends, an alcoholic who abused her mother, who in turn showed Boynes little affection. At 12 she was molested by a relative, then an altar boy at her church.  She began to suffer an aversion to men, and found that her own sex was more appealing.  She also began using drugs.

"I was starting to become more attracted to women," Boynes told CBN in a recent interview. "So many men had hurt me that these women, I thought, were a lot more like me."

Her pain was covered over by a false masculinity that made her into a school bully, she says, and already in school people began to ask her if she was a lesbian - an idea she avoided until her 20s, when her loneliness led her to her first sexual encounter with a woman.

Although she had had a conversion to Christianity, Boynes says her lesbian experience led her to reject her faith and to enter into the homosexual lifestyle, with all of its turbulence and pain. She moved from one relationship to the next, became a cocaine addict, and developed bulimia, she says.

"My life was miserable. It was starting to go literally down the tubes," says Boynes. "But I was refusing to come back to God."

However, her life began to change when she was invited to a local church that she had often seen on her way to work.  

"And me, not thinking in my right mind, I said, 'sure, I'll go.' and I came in with these sweat pants on, looking grubby, not knowing what to expect," Boynes told CBN.  "I'm in a room with nine other women, just beautiful women, feminine, and I thought, 'what have I gotten myself into?' so, I'm sitting there with my head down, feeling so ashamed, thinking these women are cruel, they're going to chew me up and spit me out."

"Everyone introduced themselves, and when they got to me, they asked me my name, and I said, 'my name is Janet.' and I said, 'I'm living a homosexual life. But if you help me, I will live my life for the Lord.'"

Boynes says she was shown compassion and understanding, and given support by the church's members in her struggle to free herself from her addictive lifestyle.  Eventually, a couple offered to take her into their home, where she lived for a year and received the love she had never experienced as a child.  She abandoned lesbianism permanently, and recovered her heterosexual identity.

"I want everybody else that's living the homosexual life who didn't have a great mother or who didn't have a great father to experience that God is a father to the fatherless or motherless," says Boynes. "That what he's done for me, he will do for them also."

Eleven years later, Boynes runs a ministry that offers help to those seeking to escape from the homosexual lifestyle. She also recently testified before the Minnesota Senate's Judiciary Committee against the creation of homosexual "marriage."

Noting that she and one of her lesbian partners wanted to "marry" and adopt children, she told the committee: "I'm so thankful that we did not go through with the plan and perpetuate another dysfunctional family. Children need one mother, and one father."

She also noted that "by legalizing homosexual marriage you are supporting and encouraging behavior that scientific evidence shows makes people sick, often incurable and fatal. I saw this borne out in the lives of many of my friends while I was living a lesbian lifestyle."

Related LifeSiteNews coverage:

Former Lesbian: I Craved Emotional Balance of Hetero Relationship
http://www.lifesitenews.com/ldn/2010/jul/10070804.html

From Lesbian Atheist to Stay-at-Home Mother of Six: Quebec Journalist Tells Her Story
http://www.lifesitenews.com/ldn/2010/may/10052001.html

URL: http://www.lifesitenews.com/ldn/2010/jul/10071608.html


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TOPICS: Culture/Society
KEYWORDS: conversions; exgay; homosexualagenda; moralabsolutes
"I want everybody else that's living the homosexual life who didn't have a great mother or who didn't have a great father to experience that God is a father to the fatherless or motherless," says Boynes."
1 posted on 07/18/2010 12:30:06 AM PDT by GonzoII
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To: GonzoII

Not “ex-lesbian”.

“Wasbian”.


2 posted on 07/18/2010 12:33:33 AM PDT by tlb
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To: tlb

How anybody could go out with an ex-whatevere is beyond me. How could you trust them not to go back to their life? Too risky if you ask me.


3 posted on 07/18/2010 12:40:19 AM PDT by napscoordinator
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To: GonzoII

It is commendable that she works to help others out of this sin.


4 posted on 07/18/2010 12:41:31 AM PDT by Persevero (Homeschooling for Excellence since 1992)
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To: GonzoII

I know a woman who is trapped in that lifestyle - an actress who is absolutely gorgeous. Except when she’s with the homosexual crowd. Her photos tell the story - she smiles when she’s with family, beams when she’s holding her newborn niece, laughs and glows around me...but she’s gloomy and reserved when she’s with “them.”

I’ve shared the Gospel with her and consider her a friend, but she declares herself to be a secular humanist who will never believe. She swears she’s happy, but the whole situation breaks my heart.


5 posted on 07/18/2010 12:53:00 AM PDT by scott7278 ("...I have not changed Congress and how it operates the way I would have liked." BHO)
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To: napscoordinator

I’m pretty sure you have had some life experiences that confirm your views, and I can relate to that. I’ve had some bad relationship experiences that made me question God’s competence in the creation of humanity. What I can tell you now is that if you have truly experienced His restoration power, you would think very differently about His ability to change people for the better. I have to respectfully disagree with your opinion if I consider myself a follower of Jesus.


6 posted on 07/18/2010 1:02:46 AM PDT by MikeSteelBe
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To: MikeSteelBe

Fair enough. I just think that dating and marriage is hard enough without adding challenges to it. Just my opinion.


7 posted on 07/18/2010 1:05:40 AM PDT by napscoordinator
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To: GonzoII

So she...Licked the problem?


8 posted on 07/18/2010 1:26:24 AM PDT by BigCinBigD (Northern flags in South winds flutter...)
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To: GonzoII

Isn’t it a crock of $hit that it is said that people are born this way? God Bless this lady and it is wonderful that she the Father Almighty.


9 posted on 07/18/2010 1:33:04 AM PDT by rambo316
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To: scott7278

...and I will pray for your friend. God Bless you for sharing the Gospel with her. Keep praying for her.


10 posted on 07/18/2010 1:35:52 AM PDT by rambo316
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To: napscoordinator

Are we hetrosexuals afraid of Infiltrators. If being gay is an mental illness, then she cured herself and is now helping others.
I,for,one welcome her back into the fold.


11 posted on 07/18/2010 1:46:24 AM PDT by Yorlik803 (better to die on your feet than live on your knees.)
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To: Yorlik803

If being gay is an mental illness

It isn't. It is sin. It is a presumptuous, willfull sin. Some people choose to express their sinful natures in this way. It is an abuse of one's God-given sexual capacity.

12 posted on 07/18/2010 3:17:38 AM PDT by good1
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To: GonzoII; wagglebee; little jeremiah
She also noted that "by legalizing homosexual marriage you are supporting and encouraging behavior that scientific evidence shows makes people sick, often incurable and fatal. I saw this borne out in the lives of many of my friends while I was living a lesbian lifestyle."

Awesome. Bullseye.

13 posted on 07/18/2010 3:20:03 AM PDT by xzins (Retired Army Chaplain and proud of it. Those who truly support our troops pray for their victory!)
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To: GonzoII

Most often homosexual people have had traumatic experiences in early life mostly to do with parenting. At least that is my experience when dealing with them.

I am not including those who seem to think it’s a fun lifestyle choice when they are 17.

It’s sad to think that abuse from a parent or other defines their life so much but this is the nature of abuse of children. Many just want to be loved like the rest of us but have a twisted veiw of what love is. I still make no excuse for their terrible and perverted behavior and their trying to force it down our throats (so to speak). Still it does mean that they can change and are redeemable.

Blessings

Mel


14 posted on 07/18/2010 4:02:04 AM PDT by melsec
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Reminds me of the movie "Splash." The John Candy scene where he comes running into the shop tossing out copys of a magazine that printed his letter entitled "A Lesbian No More" in its letters column.
I always like that movie. Very very funny.
15 posted on 07/18/2010 4:41:14 AM PDT by Tainan (Cogito, ergo conservatus)
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GEORGE: He stole your girlfriend?

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GEORGE: Amazing. I drive them to lesbianism, he brings ‘em back.


16 posted on 07/18/2010 4:45:06 AM PDT by Gamecock ("God leads us to eternal life not by our merits but according to his mercy." - Augustine)
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To: tlb

This story made my day. Glory to God in the highest!!!!!!!!


17 posted on 07/18/2010 5:01:20 AM PDT by RoadTest (Religion is a substitute for the relationship God wants with you.)
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To: GonzoII
This story is kryptonite to the media, hollywood, democrats...
18 posted on 07/18/2010 5:12:46 AM PDT by Vision ("Did I not say to you that if you would believe, you would see the glory of God?" John 11:40)
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To: napscoordinator

If you love someone you trust them. Im ex-whatever who eventually grew up became an ex-whatever and married the love of my life. We now have a beautiful family, and I find your comments disgusting.


19 posted on 07/18/2010 6:12:08 AM PDT by politicaljules
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To: GonzoII
homosexual activist: "She was never a lesbian to begin with."

Janet: "None of us are."

20 posted on 07/18/2010 6:17:52 AM PDT by fwdude
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To: napscoordinator
You have to be one of the most judgmental people on FR. Who the hell are you to judge this woman. God has forgiven her - are you saying that you're above God? On your profile you state that "I went to Catholic School my whole life", well....you didn't absorb God's words very well. It's HIS job to judge - not yours.
21 posted on 07/18/2010 7:26:25 AM PDT by 2nd amendment mama ( www.2asisters.org | Self defense is a basic human right!)
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To: BigCinBigD

Many times I would bet.


22 posted on 07/18/2010 7:42:30 AM PDT by Vaduz
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To: napscoordinator
How could you trust them not to go back to their life? Too risky if you ask me.

I'd say after loads of time proving themselves, observing them in every situation of life, private as well as public, and just plain old-fashioned discernment.

And consider this: many long married folks have been convinced that they are homosexual and leave their spouses for this lifestyle. So, how risky is it for a woman to marry ANY man?

23 posted on 07/18/2010 8:36:48 AM PDT by fwdude
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To: 2nd amendment mama

I am sick and tired of you trolls on here trying to take away my right to MY opinion. Go back to DU where they will enjoy your limited right to opinion. You will be very welcomed there. 2nd Amendment is just one aspect to conservatism. You need a heck of a lot more to stay here.


24 posted on 07/18/2010 9:07:34 AM PDT by napscoordinator
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To: Gamecock
he brings ‘em back.

Via Rusty and Prickly Pete.

25 posted on 07/18/2010 10:25:57 AM PDT by Dr. Eckleburg ("I don't think they want my respect; I think they want my submission." - Flemming Rose)
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One of the most beautiful stories I've read in a long time. I know there are many more like hers. Can you imagine if a movie were made of this story?

There is a way out of the "gay life". No one is born homosexual. And this statment is true for everyone, and a door that opens to life, for all us broken souls:

"I want everybody else that's living the homosexual life who didn't have a great mother or who didn't have a great father to experience that God is a father to the fatherless or motherless," says Boynes."

26 posted on 07/18/2010 10:29:05 AM PDT by little jeremiah
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To: napscoordinator

I’m an ex-alcholic, ex-petty thief, ex-liar, ex-drug user and ex-promiscuous slut.

Thank God!


27 posted on 07/18/2010 10:30:32 AM PDT by little jeremiah
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To: little jeremiah

That’s not the entire list, either. Ex-atheist, ex-thinking homosexuality is just fine, ex-pro-abortion. Probalby more if I think hard.


28 posted on 07/18/2010 10:31:49 AM PDT by little jeremiah
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To: little jeremiah

God is good!


29 posted on 07/18/2010 11:32:33 AM PDT by Albion Wilde (" 'Bush did it' is not a foreign policy." -- Victor Davis Hanson)
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To: GonzoII
How a 'gay rights' leader became straight
30 posted on 07/18/2010 12:08:01 PM PDT by scripter ("You don't have a soul. You are a soul. You have a body." - C.S. Lewis)
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To: scripter
People Can Change
31 posted on 07/18/2010 12:08:37 PM PDT by scripter ("You don't have a soul. You are a soul. You have a body." - C.S. Lewis)
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To: scripter
'Groundbreaking' study shows 'gays' can change
32 posted on 07/18/2010 12:09:52 PM PDT by scripter ("You don't have a soul. You are a soul. You have a body." - C.S. Lewis)
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To: GonzoII
"Homosexuality Is Not Hardwired," Dr. Francis S. Collins, Head Of The Human Genome Project
33 posted on 07/18/2010 12:12:02 PM PDT by scripter ("You don't have a soul. You are a soul. You have a body." - C.S. Lewis)
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To: scripter
New Evidence Found for Childhood Family Factors Influencing Sexual Orientation
34 posted on 07/18/2010 12:14:24 PM PDT by scripter ("You don't have a soul. You are a soul. You have a body." - C.S. Lewis)
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To: MikeSteelBe

Well said.


35 posted on 07/18/2010 12:20:23 PM PDT by rabidralph
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To: BigCinBigD

You’re BAD!


36 posted on 07/18/2010 2:30:02 PM PDT by Bluebeard16
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To: GonzoII

**Noting that she and one of her lesbian partners wanted to “marry” and adopt children, she told the committee: “I’m so thankful that we did not go through with the plan and perpetuate another dysfunctional family. Children need one mother, and one father.”

She also noted that “by legalizing homosexual marriage you are supporting and encouraging behavior that scientific evidence shows makes people sick, often incurable and fatal. I saw this borne out in the lives of many of my friends while I was living a lesbian lifestyle.” **

This woman has grown very wise.


37 posted on 07/18/2010 4:29:45 PM PDT by Salvation ("With God all things are possible." Matthew 19:26)
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