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Would Women Date an Unemployed Guy? (Surprise: 60% say they would)
Shine ^ | 09/05/2010 | Rich Santos, Marie Claire

Posted on 09/05/2010 8:05:18 PM PDT by SeekAndFind

I can't wait for Labor Day. I'm feeling too corporate lately. That Human Resources Department (apparently they weren't around in Caligula's day) makes me behave. I do plan to commit several Human Resource violations this weekend at the beach, but that's why it's Labor Day!

Speaking of labor, I saw an interesting survey from Zoosk that might provide solace for unemployed daters:

60% of women said that they'd date an unemployed guy, up from 52% in 2009; 90% of men said they'd date someone who was unemployed versus 92% in 2009.

"What do you do?" can make or break things, and always comes up in conversation when meeting someone.

Destiny's Child crooned:

"Can you pay my bills, Can you pay my telephone bills, Can you pay my automo'bills... I don't think you do, so you and me are through."

I was "between jobs" for a while, doing promotions for Coca-Cola on a project basis. I would describe it as "marketing for Coke," dressing it up a bit and making it sound permanent.

Sometimes I'd respond with "absolutely nothing," trying to "own" my unemployment but, like most of my tactics, that didn't work either.

This was actually a conflict with another finding in the Zoosk survey:

83% of men and 93% of women agree that if someone is unemployed, they should reveal it right away.

My new favorite channel, Discovery ID, has a series called Who the (Bleep) Did I Marry, and many stories involve the groom faking income or a hard-core job to seduce the bride. So there's merit to that stat above.

There are a few reasons that "unemployment" can be damaging in the dating world:

(Excerpt) Read more at shine.yahoo.com ...


TOPICS: Culture/Society; News/Current Events
KEYWORDS: date; jobless; unemployed
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See survey here:

http://us.lrd.yahoo.com/_ylt=Ar3wWbfqf8N5NBJLYysa1AoIb6U5/SIG=10qkbb17r/**http%3A//www.zoosk.com/

1 posted on 09/05/2010 8:05:20 PM PDT by SeekAndFind
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To: SeekAndFind

Just tell them you’re a contractor that’s between clients.


2 posted on 09/05/2010 8:08:05 PM PDT by Minn
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To: SeekAndFind

I guess I’d improve my odds if I quit my job, lol...


3 posted on 09/05/2010 8:09:01 PM PDT by Joe 6-pack (Que me amat, amet et canem meum)
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To: SeekAndFind

Guys really don’t care what a woman does for a living, all they care is that they would be a good mother.


4 posted on 09/05/2010 8:09:01 PM PDT by dfwgator
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To: SeekAndFind
Trading Places taught us that women know how to invest in a guy with a lot of potential:


5 posted on 09/05/2010 8:09:42 PM PDT by krb (Obama is a miserable failure.)
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To: SeekAndFind; Lazamataz

ME AND LAZ AREN’T TOO PICKY THESE DAYS...


6 posted on 09/05/2010 8:09:44 PM PDT by RaceBannon (RON PAUL: THE PARTY OF TRUTHERS, TRAITORS AND UFO CHASERS!!!)
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To: SeekAndFind

I’m game. (Pic of the babe required.)


7 posted on 09/05/2010 8:11:34 PM PDT by Libloather (Teapublican, PROUD birther, mobster, pro-lifer, anti-warmer, enemy of the state, extremist....)
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To: SeekAndFind
60% of women said that they'd date an unemployed guy...

Someone to clean and do the schlepping.

8 posted on 09/05/2010 8:12:26 PM PDT by Mike Darancette (Socialism is the philosophy of failure, - W Churchill)
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To: SeekAndFind
I was "between jobs" for a while, doing promotions for Coca-Cola on a project basis. I would describe it as "marketing for Coke," dressing it up a bit and making it sound permanent.

I like the line from ZZ Top's 'Heaven, Hell or Houston.' "I got a job, as a Public Relations man, passing out handbills on Austin Street."

9 posted on 09/05/2010 8:12:58 PM PDT by dfwgator
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To: SeekAndFind

Only stupid women.


10 posted on 09/05/2010 8:13:36 PM PDT by FrdmLvr ( VIVA la SB 1070!)
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To: SeekAndFind
60% of women said that they'd date an unemployed guy, up from 52% in 2009

That's such bullscat. No sane woman's going to date a man without a job.

11 posted on 09/05/2010 8:13:58 PM PDT by Tolerance Sucks Rocks (Michelle Obama: the woman who ended "Diners, Drive-ins and Dives.")
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To: SeekAndFind
Can you pay my bills, Can you pay my telephone bills, Can you pay my automo'bills...

Response courtesy of The Offspring:

She sits on her ass
He works his hands to the bone
To give her money every payday
But she wants more dinero just to stay at home
Well my friend
You gotta say:

"I won't pay, I won't pay ya, no way
Na-na Why don't you get a job"
Say "no way", say "no way ya, no way
Na-na Why don't you get a job"

12 posted on 09/05/2010 8:15:31 PM PDT by Domandred (Fdisk, format, and reinstall the entire .gov system.)
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To: dfwgator
My Dad always said, "No dates until you're 35!"

When I finally reached that magic age...my husband wouldn't let me!

13 posted on 09/05/2010 8:16:24 PM PDT by Mygirlsmom (Part of that 9.5% that's really more like 20%, Let's call it what it is: The Great O-pression)
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To: Domandred

The Members - I’m in Love With a Working Girl

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1MuuTjT8AXs


14 posted on 09/05/2010 8:17:25 PM PDT by dfwgator
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To: SeekAndFind

Which is better for a mate?

1. Someone with a $45,000/year job and $200,000 in student debt?

2. Someone with no job and no student debt?


15 posted on 09/05/2010 8:18:34 PM PDT by 2banana (My common ground with terrorists - they want to die for islam and we want to kill them)
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To: SeekAndFind
it has been this old man's observation that in this modern generation women are propping up men in many ways:

most welfare homes have an unemployed male supported by a working woman - money for baby's milk goes for his beer.

look around in restaurants, bars, places of entertainment and watch the women paying.

so I would expect the women to date a guy who is broke, they have been conditioned.

16 posted on 09/05/2010 8:19:00 PM PDT by elpadre (AfganistaMr Obama said the goal was to "disrupt, dismantle and defeat al-Qaeda" and its allies.)
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To: Domandred

To which you can also respond, courtesy of The Offspring:

My friend’s got a boyfriend man and she hates that dick (and the guy!)
She tells me every day (woo! everyday now)
He wants more dinero just to stay at home (stay at home!)
Well my friend
You gotta say: (gotta say!)

“I won’t pay, I won’t pay ya (woo), no way (no way!)
Na-na Why don’t you get a job” (woo - get a job!)
Say “no way”, say “no way ya, no way
Na-na Why don’t you get a job”
(oh yeah!)
“I won’t give ya no money
I always pay
Na-na Why don’t you get a job” (get a job!)
Say “no way”, say “no way ya, no way
Na-na Why don’t you get a job!”


17 posted on 09/05/2010 8:19:34 PM PDT by Tolerance Sucks Rocks (Michelle Obama: the woman who ended "Diners, Drive-ins and Dives.")
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To: krb

RE Trading Places.

This film has a scene that tells us the truth about what Wall Street does...


We are here to try to explain to you,
what it is we do here.

We are commodities brokers, William.

Now, what are commodities? Commodities are agricultural products. Like coffee, that you had for breakfast. Wheat, which is used to make bread. Pork bellies, which is used to make bacon, which you might find in a bacon,
lettuce and tomato sandwich.

Then there are other commodities like...
frozen orange juice...and gold. Though, of course, gold
doesn’t grow on trees like oranges.

- Clear so far?

- Yeah.

Good, William.
Now, some of our clients are speculating that the price of gold will rise in the future. We have other clients who are speculating that the price of gold is going to fall. They’ve placed their orders with us and we buy or sell their gold for them.

Tell him the good part.

The good part is that no matter whether
our clients make money, or lose money,
Duke & Duke get the commissions.

Well, what do you think, Valentine?

Sounds to me like you guys are a couple of bookies.

I told you he’d understand.


18 posted on 09/05/2010 8:20:18 PM PDT by SeekAndFind
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To: Tolerance Sucks Rocks

RE: That’s such bullscat. No sane woman’s going to date a man without a job.


Which is better for a mate?

1. A college grad with a $45,000/year job and $200,000 in student debt?

2. Someone with no job and no student debt?


19 posted on 09/05/2010 8:22:03 PM PDT by SeekAndFind
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To: SeekAndFind
Pork bellies, which is used to make bacon, which you might find in a bacon, lettuce and tomato sandwich.

Eddie Murphy's reaction to that line was priceless.

20 posted on 09/05/2010 8:22:06 PM PDT by dfwgator
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To: FrdmLvr

or low self worth.

my sisters friend has been unemployed for years. He didn’t even graduate high school. He stopped working as a cook because he hated it and wanted to make more money, so now he, at 42, sponges off his parents. His new scheme? He has some mental issues, but not enough to qualify for SSI, so he is gaining weight to try to get SSI. Right now he is about 550 pounds.

technically my husband wasn’t working when we met, but he was in graduate school finishing a PhD in engineering.


21 posted on 09/05/2010 8:22:20 PM PDT by kiki04 ("If a little knowledge is dangerous, where is a man who has so much as to be out of danger?" - THH)
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To: SeekAndFind

ok but what about homeless? I don’t see too many of those out on dates.


22 posted on 09/05/2010 8:25:56 PM PDT by xp38
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To: SeekAndFind

Sounds like someone’s gathering material for a Jason Alexander sitcom reprising the life of George Costanza.


23 posted on 09/05/2010 8:26:29 PM PDT by Mobties (Let the markets work! Reduce the government footprint!)
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To: SeekAndFind

Sure thing. If you’re a prince. They usually don’t work.


24 posted on 09/05/2010 8:27:40 PM PDT by LibWhacker (America awake!)
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To: SeekAndFind

I thought it said “would a woman date an unemployed gay”? I wonder what the response would be to that one.


25 posted on 09/05/2010 8:32:08 PM PDT by decisis
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To: SeekAndFind
Living next to me is a woman, twice divorced, who (ostensibly) is the assistant financial dir. of the state 529 college savings plan.*
Her son, twenty-six and living in her converted garage, has a new gal - a young, attractive black gal who obviously isn't too concerned with finding a man with the means to support her or her little child.
I suspect both rely on government support, i.e., tax dollars from those who actually work.

* The woman isn't qualified to direct the finances of a yard sale. Yet, she's carrying on with the state comptroller, who happens to also be on the board of the 529.
This woman was granted her position by no other than Mrs. Diana Cantor.

26 posted on 09/05/2010 8:32:08 PM PDT by jla
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To: Tolerance Sucks Rocks

Of course we would.
It would depend on circumstances, of course. How long he’s been unemployed. How seriously he’s looking etc.
I think this survey shows that men are more than just paychecks to most women.


27 posted on 09/05/2010 8:34:13 PM PDT by A_Cougar
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To: SeekAndFind
The problem is with modern American society is that most young men are women, the women are men. If you look at Justin Beaber as a role model as a male, there is a problem. We are not raising men to be men any more.
28 posted on 09/05/2010 8:36:06 PM PDT by cpprfld (Who said accountants are boring?)
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To: dfwgator

That is one of the most underrated bands


29 posted on 09/05/2010 8:36:53 PM PDT by mylife (Opinions $1 Halfbaked 50c)
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To: jla

Can it be revealed which state’s 529 plan she manages? I’m about to set such a plan up for my first grandson.


30 posted on 09/05/2010 8:37:00 PM PDT by Mobties (Let the markets work! Reduce the government footprint!)
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To: SeekAndFind

Sure a modern chick would date an unemployed guy as long as he picks up the check with his EBT card or cash he’s begged, oh, and picks a hip restaurant.


31 posted on 09/05/2010 8:37:50 PM PDT by Rembrandt (.. AND the donkey you rode in on.)
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To: dfwgator

WOW!! Haven’t heard that song in over 25 years. 80’s MTV songs were really great. Music has really taken a nosedive since then.


32 posted on 09/05/2010 8:38:20 PM PDT by YankeeReb
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To: A_Cougar

I didn’t say they weren’t more than just paychecks. I just couldn’t imagine a sane woman dating somebody who was unemployed (the man still plays the breadwinner...sort of). I figured she’d at least just give out her number and tell him to call her when he has a job.

Are you really a “cougar?” If so, go tell your boy toy he is a lucky man. :-)


33 posted on 09/05/2010 8:38:35 PM PDT by Tolerance Sucks Rocks (Michelle Obama: the woman who ended "Diners, Drive-ins and Dives.")
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To: SeekAndFind
60% say they would

And 100% of that 60% are liars.

34 posted on 09/05/2010 8:41:06 PM PDT by Darkwolf377 (Forget it, Jake. It's Chinatown. -- written by Robert Towne)
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To: 2banana

The one that makes 35K, makes chicken and dumplings and and gets next to you


35 posted on 09/05/2010 8:44:24 PM PDT by mylife (Opinions $1 Halfbaked 50c)
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To: SeekAndFind

Totally depends on whether the unemployment is chronic or temporary. Lots of smart, decent people are stuck without jobs in this economy.

I think the percentages would have been a lot different 40 or 50 years ago, when more women were looking for a husband to support them. Independent women don’t have to care so much about the guy’s net worth.


36 posted on 09/05/2010 8:45:01 PM PDT by FelixFelicis
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To: jla

Friggin’ parasites. Sounds like McDonnell has some stable-cleaning to do!


37 posted on 09/05/2010 8:46:13 PM PDT by Tolerance Sucks Rocks (Michelle Obama: the woman who ended "Diners, Drive-ins and Dives.")
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To: Tolerance Sucks Rocks

I know you didn’t say that. I was just trying to make a point. ;)
Men have so much to offer I couldn’t imagine throwing a good one away just because he ran into some bad luck.
But it really does depend on the circumstances. If he’s not actively looking...faggedaboutit. Or, if it’s been a while and he won’t at least get A job, I’m out.
And no, I’m not. :) It’s an old sn I just stuck with.


38 posted on 09/05/2010 8:47:17 PM PDT by A_Cougar
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To: YankeeReb
The Members~Off Shore Banking Business
39 posted on 09/05/2010 8:51:20 PM PDT by mylife (Opinions $1 Halfbaked 50c)
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To: SeekAndFind

Both sides are lying. Men don’t care about a woman’s employment status. That’s the last thing on his mind unless he’s a mooch. Women DO care about a man’s employment status but, like everything else, women are happy to overlook some flaws if they believe they can be changed. If all she cares about is the money, though, her next question after hearing he’s unemployed will be to ask if he is living off a trust fund.


40 posted on 09/05/2010 8:54:24 PM PDT by OrangeHoof (Washington, we Texans want a divorce!)
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To: Mobties
Virginia. But I highly doubt my neighbor has any input into how it is managed. If I were to guess, I'd say her job consist of sitting at a desk and exchanging emails with friends and family. I wouldn't think she is entrusted with anything of importance.
41 posted on 09/05/2010 8:54:24 PM PDT by jla
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To: Tolerance Sucks Rocks
Sounds like McDonnell has some stable-cleaning to do!

I'm not sure how much input a governor has in how a 529 is ran. The state comptroller position, (not integral to a 529 though ours is on the 529 board), is ex officio, and he was put there by then Governor Tim Kaine.

As for McDonnell and Diana Cantor -

McDonnell names Cantor head of retirement sys board

42 posted on 09/05/2010 9:04:05 PM PDT by jla
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To: All

The opposite end of the spectrum.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_bNfay6HiUo

Still, I like them country gals better than flat out vipers.

I dont ask much of a woman other than to share.


43 posted on 09/05/2010 9:05:41 PM PDT by mylife (Opinions $1 Halfbaked 50c)
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To: kiki04
technically my husband wasn’t working when we met, but he was in graduate school finishing a PhD in engineering.

That doesn't count as "not working". You are a smart girl! My daughter at 21 has finally started listening to me. As my mother always said: "You can fall in love with a rich man as easy as you can fall in love with a broke man". Today we could say "employed/unemployed". Times have changed.

44 posted on 09/05/2010 9:07:12 PM PDT by FrdmLvr ( VIVA la SB 1070!)
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To: 2banana

Neither one.


45 posted on 09/05/2010 9:09:19 PM PDT by FrdmLvr ( VIVA la SB 1070!)
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To: SeekAndFind

Would they date a guy whose whole body is tattooed blue? 65%

Would they date a heavy drinker? 70%

Would they date a guy who smacked his old girlfriend around? 75%

Would they date a guy who does drugs? 80%

Would they date a guy who just got out of prison for manslaughter? 85%

Would they date an engineer making $100k who can’t dance, doesn’t drink, and goes to church every week? 5%

Just gotta love those bad boys!


46 posted on 09/05/2010 9:09:26 PM PDT by Right Wing Assault (The Obama magic is <strike>fading</strike>gone.)
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To: Mygirlsmom

LOL!!


47 posted on 09/05/2010 9:10:34 PM PDT by upsdriver (ret.)
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To: Right Wing Assault
Would they date an engineer making $100k who can’t dance, doesn’t drink, and goes to church every week? 5%

Wild Azz Bastarrds

48 posted on 09/05/2010 9:14:03 PM PDT by mylife (Opinions $1 Halfbaked 50c)
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To: All
Max Stalling~ Ranch #3 I~35
49 posted on 09/05/2010 9:22:47 PM PDT by mylife (Opinions $1 Halfbaked 50c)
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To: dfwgator

REALLY? All they care about is whether she will be a good mother? are you married? How old are you?


50 posted on 09/05/2010 9:25:28 PM PDT by Hildy
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