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To an Aesthete Dying Young (In Memoriam T. R. K.)
http://www.yalealumnimagazine.com/issues/2010_07/suicide4657.html ^ | Andrew Solomon

Posted on 09/21/2010 5:11:57 PM PDT by ventanax5

In February 1982, in the middle of my freshman year, I was invited to a party by the most glamorous sophomore I had ever met (now one of my closest friends), and I was wildly excited about it. It was in that perfect proportion for a social event: a third of the people were people I actually knew; a third were people I had seen around and wished I knew; a third were people I had never seen because they inhabited a stratosphere too exalted to have been visible to me, some of them even juniors and seniors. The party was in a dorm room in Pierson. Spandau Ballet, Pat Benatar, the Human League singing “Don’t You Want Me Baby,” which nowadays feel to me as sweetly nostalgic as “Dixie,” were at that time fresh as the morning dew. People were dressed in clothing that might in 2010 be coming back into fashion for the fifth time, but that was then just coming into fashion for the first time—even though much of it had been cleverly selected at the Salvation Army. In those days, the drinking age was still 18, and so there were drinks, and there were some people doing cocaine in the bathroom, because it was, after all, the 1980s. I would not have been more thrilled and dazzled to have been invited to the wedding of Prince Charles and Lady Diana Spencer one year earlier. People were witty and funny, having a truly good time, dancing well, laughing.

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TOPICS: Culture/Society; News/Current Events; Philosophy
KEYWORDS: death; depression; life; suicide; yale

1 posted on 09/21/2010 5:12:00 PM PDT by ventanax5
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To: ventanax5

Ok, that was very gay.


2 posted on 09/21/2010 5:25:41 PM PDT by PetroniusMaximus
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To: PetroniusMaximus

Kind of makes you wonder how much “Therapy” contributed
to his suicide.


3 posted on 09/21/2010 5:39:16 PM PDT by tet68 ( " We would not die in that man's company, that fears his fellowship to die with us...." Henry V.)
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To: ventanax5
someone who had been pointed out to me as the roommate of Jodie Foster’s boyfriend

Going where no man has gone since.

4 posted on 09/21/2010 5:43:19 PM PDT by garbanzo (Government is not the solution to our problems. Government is the problem.)
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To: ventanax5

Sheesh.... can’t this national book award winner just provide us with the tombstone epitaph version.


5 posted on 09/21/2010 5:51:45 PM PDT by nkycincinnatikid
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To: ventanax5
He generally wore a green Austrian loden cape, and a mad hat with a feather in it. He played the leads in musicals and danced just the same way on stage and off

uh ... yeah.  whatever.

6 posted on 09/21/2010 5:52:16 PM PDT by softwarecreator (You say you want a revolution, well, you know ... we'd all love to see the plan.)
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To: ventanax5

Reads like it was written by Evelyn Waugh or an Evelyn Waugh impersonator.


7 posted on 09/21/2010 5:53:37 PM PDT by kalee (The offences we give, we write in the dust; Those we take, we engrave in marble. J Huett 1658)
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To: ventanax5
I would not have been more thrilled and dazzled

Anyone who talks like that hasn't got an ounce of testosterone in him.

8 posted on 09/21/2010 5:54:57 PM PDT by softwarecreator (You say you want a revolution, well, you know ... we'd all love to see the plan.)
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To: ventanax5

BLA BLA BLA-sad about the suicide, but what a boring story to be winning awards.


9 posted on 09/21/2010 5:56:37 PM PDT by GILTN1stborn
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To: softwarecreator

Or saying “ Tingle up my leg”.


10 posted on 09/21/2010 5:57:59 PM PDT by Orange1998
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To: softwarecreator

Ever read Brideshead Revisited? This reminds me of that book, but lacking Waugh’s faith.


11 posted on 09/21/2010 5:59:08 PM PDT by kalee (The offences we give, we write in the dust; Those we take, we engrave in marble. J Huett 1658)
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To: kalee
It's impossible to read. Long paragraphs that just go on & on & on.
12 posted on 09/21/2010 6:01:05 PM PDT by Shannon
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To: Shannon

Terry Rossi Kirk

August 30, 1961 - October 17, 2009

13 posted on 09/21/2010 6:03:13 PM PDT by Orange1998
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To: tet68
Kind of makes you wonder how much “Therapy” contributed to his suicide.

I read that part and it is clear. The guy was too uptight to commit suicide until he was drugged to calm him down and clear his mind. And then the therapist couldn't figure a way to put the guy's best friend in contact without "violating patient confidentiality". The author damns her pretty well. Maybe the therapist will commit suicide.

Also read enough to know these people are/were pointless.
14 posted on 09/21/2010 6:05:21 PM PDT by UnbelievingScumOnTheOtherSide (REPEAL OR REBEL! -- Islam Delenda Est! -- I Want Constantinople Back. -- Rumble thee forth.)
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To: ventanax5

this is unreadable drivel!!!


15 posted on 09/21/2010 6:18:24 PM PDT by Enchante ("The great enemy of clear language is insincerity." -- George Orwell --)
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To: PetroniusMaximus

Yeah, just a little. That said…good tunes. I’d time-travel back to that party in a heartbeat, get a beer and start hunting preppy girls. And I have news for this guy. They had guys at UC Riverside about the same time who were both impeccably prep and FLAMING. If they had ‘em at a state school here in California, I think it’s a pretty good bet they had ‘em at Yale.


16 posted on 09/21/2010 6:23:21 PM PDT by RichInOC (No! BAD Rich! (What'd I say?)...Richard Frank DeCamp, 11/13/34-9/15/10, R.I.P.)
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To: Orange1998

With the feathered cap, no one would have noticed you’re bald.


17 posted on 09/21/2010 6:25:48 PM PDT by UnbelievingScumOnTheOtherSide (REPEAL OR REBEL! -- Islam Delenda Est! -- I Want Constantinople Back. -- Rumble thee forth.)
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To: Enchante

I guess the real definition of “gay” doesn’t apply here.


18 posted on 09/21/2010 6:27:36 PM PDT by Stormdog (A rifle transforms one from subject to Citizen)
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To: ventanax5
there were some people doing cocaine in the bathroom, because it was, after all, the 1980s.

Those foo-foo flake snorting scalawags! At least we'll never have to worry about one of those arrogant Ivy League @$$holes becoming President or anything.

19 posted on 09/21/2010 6:36:39 PM PDT by RoadKingSE (How do you know that the light at the end of the tunnel isn't a muzzle flash ?)
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To: ventanax5

That was so depressing but what a beautiful elegy.


20 posted on 09/21/2010 6:57:47 PM PDT by Paved Paradise
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To: tet68

You make a good point. I have often wondered about this myself. To some extent I think therapy is very negative as instead of moving on, you are forced to keep looking at the past and analyzing it in order to understand why you are the way you are. I am not so sure this is good. The Bible is clear about not looking back.


21 posted on 09/21/2010 6:59:11 PM PDT by Paved Paradise
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To: Shannon

You must not read much (or at least not read anything written in the 19th century).


22 posted on 09/21/2010 7:00:12 PM PDT by Paved Paradise
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To: Shannon
"It's impossible to read. Long paragraphs that just go on & on & on. "

I am sorry that public schoold made you think that shorter sentences are normal. Until recently, American readers were able to maintain focus while reading longer expressions of thought.

23 posted on 09/26/2010 1:27:03 PM PDT by TopQuark
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To: TopQuark

You must be having a bad day. At least I hope that’s your excuse. How about keeping the snotty comments to yourself?


24 posted on 09/26/2010 3:05:54 PM PDT by Shannon
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To: TopQuark

It wasn’t long sentences that was being commented on. In case you can’t read it was long paragraphs. Maybe you were the one public schooled.

I suppose you’ve never heard of a run-on sentence.


25 posted on 09/26/2010 3:19:13 PM PDT by beandog
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To: beandog
Thank you beandog. It's always nice to have a bit of backup.
26 posted on 09/26/2010 7:10:19 PM PDT by Shannon
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