Quote: “I’m not jumping on people who want to honor him. I understand those who honor him, and I don’t hold a grudge against them. I personally just choose not to do so.”
That’s your opinion, and no one was asking you to honor him.
For all the angst many have about Lee (because of the way the war is presented in schools), consider this: Grant had reverence and great respect for Lee, as shown in his memoirs and personal account of the surrender at Appomattox. Perhaps you will find Grant’s opinion easier to trust than opinions in textbooks and internet postings about Lee 140 years later.
Grant was a decent human being. That’s more than can be said for some of his subordinates, like Sheridan and Sherman, who waged total war against civilians. Sheridan and others like Custer later continued their tactics by waging genocidal warfare against Native Americans. Thankfully, the vainglorious Custer finally got his comeuppance.