Skip to comments.Woman Silenced at New Jersey Senate Hearing Shares Her Story
Posted on 12/10/2010 7:02:04 AM PST by IbJensen
Abortion is the UnChoice
"I Was Pushed, Silenced and Coerced Before Abortion ... Now I Am Being Pushed, Silenced and Coerced Into Shutting Up Again"
A woman testifying at a New Jersey Senate hearing about undergoing a coerced abortion was stopped from speaking after being told that she couldnt talk about her experience with Planned Parenthood. Now she is sharing the story that she wasn't allowed to tell at the hearing.
Darlene Dunn was testifying at a budget hearing about a bill to provide government funds to Planned Parenthood and other family planning centers. She said she wanted to share her story to convince senators that they should not give funding to a group that violates womens rights.
Instead, she was told by Sen. Paul Sarlo, a co-sponsor of the bill, that she could only talk about family planning and health care, and that her personal story wasnt relevant to the bill.
Dunn disagreed. When you are scared to death in a crisis pregnancy and [are] told that you have one option, that is not family planning, she told senators. That is coerced abortion.
Speaking after the hearing, she added, Performing abortions is not womens health care.
Two other legislators, Sen. Joseph Pennacchio and Sen. Michael Doherty, spoke up in defense of Dunns right to speak. But when Dunn attempted to continue her testimony, she was told she had already had her chance to testify. Dunn and other pro-life advocates present at the hearing say she was then ordered by Sarlo to turn off her microphone, but that this was not included in audio recordings of the hearing that were posted online. The Story She Wasnt Allowed to Tell
Dunn had planned to relate her story of how she and her boyfriend went to a Planned Parenthood facility when she was about six weeks pregnant. Dunn wanted to have the baby, she said, but her boyfriend was scared and not ready to be a father.
The weeks leading up to the abortion were anything but pleasant, she recalled. I felt that baby and I represented something that the father was not yet ready to take responsibility for. ... Looking back now, I see that he was scared to death. He was young; he had his whole life ahead of him. If Planned Parenthood had said to him, We can help you, maybe he wouldn't have pushed me.
At her initial appointment with Planned Parenthood, she and her boyfriend were told they couldnt have a baby because youre too young, you have no money, you arent married, Dunn said.
They said we couldnt tell our parents because it would disappoint them, she explained. I said I would consider placing the baby for adoption. The counselors response was, Oh, my God, you could never do that. Thats the cruelest thing you could ever do to a baby. I started crying and said, Im adopted. Her response was, I dont care; that's still the cruelest thing to do to a child.
Dunn said she and her boyfriend were given no information about fetal development, alternatives to abortion or the physical and emotional risks of abortion.
There were no connotations of anything bad about the abortion, only about having the baby, she said. I was crying and pacing around the room, and the counselor was yelling at me she raised her voice 'You cant have a baby.' There was not a drop of compassion; she was very cold.
The appointment ended with Dunn being given an appointment for an abortion, but when the day came, she refused to go. Her boyfriend made several appointments over the next seven weeks, only to have Dunn break the appointment each time.
During this seven-week battle of the wills, my life was turned upside down, she recalled. I couldn't tell my parents for fear of them disowning and hating me, or so I thought. I had no support from the father and the few people I did turn to offered me no help. I didn't tell my friends, so I was totally alone except for the father, who did nothing but insist that I was going to abort. All we did was fight.
The whole situation made me feel so degraded, so disregarded, so unworthy of love, so scared, so traumatized. I was in a true crisis. I was fighting for the life of my baby and myself. I wanted that baby and I knew that if I had an abortion, that part of me would die with him or her.
Eventually Dunn was too far along for the local Planned Parenthood to perform the abortion, so she was sent to New York.
The one thing I remember about the actual abortion is the nurse saying, I hope I never see you here again, just before the abortion took place, she said. I remember thinking, "I will be back here because I hate myself nothing matters anymore.
The experience of being coerced into an unwanted abortion, undergoing the procedure and the resulting loss of her baby traumatized Dunn. She now believes she is not alone in struggling with these issues. In additional to physical and psychological problems they may experience after abortion, many women and girls have been coerced into abortion through pressure; manipulation; bullying; receiving false or misleading information from counselors and medical personnel; being denied options or necessary support; being abused or attacked; being threatened with the loss of ones job, home, family or life; or other similar circumstances.
In fact, research suggests that most abortions are unwanted or coerced. A survey of American and Russian women who had abortions found that 64 percent of the American respondents reported feeling pressured to abort. More than half said they felt rushed or uncertain about the decision and more than 80 percent reported receiving inadequate counseling beforehand.
"Why Didn't They Take My Side?"
Dunn now believes that, had Planned Parenthood supported her desire to continue the pregnancy, both the loss of her child and her own suffering could have been averted.
I believe that, had Planned Parenthood given us options, we would have had the baby, she said. I wanted to have the baby, but I needed options. Why didnt they take my side? Planned Parenthood is supposed to be about womens choices, but they didnt respect my choice. Instead, they took his side.
Because of my abortion, I had 35 years of pain and silence. I have gone through trauma for 35 years; that doesnt go away. There is nothing they can say to take that away. All I wanted to do was tell my story.
In fact, she said, the way she was treated at the Senate hearing reminded her strongly of the way she was treated before the abortion. She was later told by friends in the audience that while she was attempting to testify, Sen. Loretta Weinberg, a co-sponsor of the bill, turned to the audience and made a gesture where she put her hand to her head as if she were holding a gun and pretended to pull the trigger.
In telling my story, I have always said that, before the abortion, there was a gun to my head but you just couldn't see it, Dunn said. When I heard about the senator making that gesture, it brought back all that pain.
Ironically, Dunn later learned that Weinberg and Sarlo are also co-sponsors of anti-bullying legislation in New Jersey. She said that she was shocked that legislators who claim to care so much about womens rights would treat a woman this way.
The bottom line is that, before the abortion, I was pushed, silenced and coerced, she said. Now I am being pushed, silenced and coerced into shutting up again. I was silenced already and have lived with the pain for 35 years. I wont be silent about it anymore.
Satan, Sarlo and the UN cadre love abortions! They destroy the lives of the baby as well as the mother.
But what we have been doing in worse. We've allowed over 50 million abortions. And many of our citizens look the other way and say "Not really human. Doesn't count. It's OK."
History will look at American history and have to decide who were the greater villains -- the slave owners or the abortion supporters. All I know is that the Democrats supported both groups.
It never ceases to amaze me the depths to which human beings can sink.
To all of you pro-lifers who are trying to rain on my parade, keep it to yourself, because I don’t have the time for that kind of negativity. I’ve got an abortion to plan, and I just know it’s going to be the best non-anesthetized invasive uterine surgery ever!
The funny thing is, I actually have the pro-life movement to thank for this opportunity. If my HMO wouldn’t have bowed to their pressure not to cover oral contraceptives, I never would’ve gotten pregnant in the first place. Then what would I be doing a week from Thursday? I’ll tell you what I wouldn’t be doing: going to an awesome abortion clinic where I’ll be the center of attention from the minute I put my feet up in those stirrups.
I seriously cannot wait for all the hemorrhaging and the uterine contractions. This abortion is going to be so amazing. I’m definitely taking lots of pictures so I can remember every last detail of the whole experience for years to come and share my great memories with all of my friends, family and co-workers. What an easy decision this was!
I realize there are people who will criticize me, calling me selfish and immature because I took “the easy way out.” I realize there are those who will condemn me to hell for what I’m about to do. Well, I don’t care what they say: It’s worth it for all the fun and laughs I’m going to have at the clinic. So listen up, world: I’m pro-abortion... and I love it!
See you at my post-abortion party, everybody!
Wow that is a really bad story. I’m not surprised though, the people behind these movements view it as a perverse religion. And I’m sure they make their living by performing abortions.
The murder your own baby in the womb crowd refers to funding for Planned Parenthood as funding for women’s health.
These constant referrals to women’s health is a deliberate misrepresentation of the truth. It’s all about abortion.
The inexplicable insanity of jewish people here in the USA being nearly 100% pro abort leaves me breathless.
That was a brilliant post.
It’s creepy but brilliant.
They only do it because they CARE. That is what they would have us believe.
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If Rs don’t get spines, they are worse than dems. Dems are Evil. It’s not that they just see things differently, or have other viewopoints; they should NOT be compromised with, socialized with, or befriended in DC. Any Rs who want to be liked by Dems are also the enemy.
When jackasses (or ninnyhammers) like Lugar, Voinovich, Snowe, Collins, Graham, and a host of other RINOs infest our central socialist government, we’re in deep crap!
I believe it was Ann Coulter who opined,that”Liberalism is the religion and abortion is their sacrement.” Truer words never spoken!