b>888 775-3773 p>The guest, Dr. Lac Su, is rebutting the author of "Tiger Mom" who said that a tough mom was responsible for the success of Asian children in school
He wrote..."I love you's are for white people". HE says asians don't say "i love you". They show they love them through action...."his dad beat him up". His dad told him once when he told his dad he loved him, "I love yous are for white people".
He HAD to bring A's home. He was allowed to play with other kids (most Asian kids aren't)...but he had to work really hard to do that. He was called 'stupid', retarded, etc. all the time. They played a lot of mind games and reverse psychology.
Jesse asked how did it make him feel. Guest thought his father was right. He resented him. It was in his mind, but not his heart. He just wished he had a white dad.
Jesse asks did his mother go along with this? He says yes, but he likes to think she was horrified deep down. Sometimes she would try to intervene. They even tried to make him eat raw cows brains. He had to eat it every weekend for a year...Yuck!
Caller says that all nations have a different culture. Asks does he hate his culture? No he says, he hates the abusive behaviors taught his father?
He says he communicates and shows affection to his kids now. Jesse says if he can forgive his parents. His inner conflict will disappear if he can just forgive him. JEsse says he needs to talk to them and have an open and honest dialogue about how he felt, and how it affected him. Then he can walk away free. Good Jesse advice!
Guest is really afraid to talk to dad. But he said he would talk to his parents and call Jesse back and tell him how it went.