Where does the Word tell you to hate sinners? Without compassion for them, how can one witness? Love God Hate Sin.
The Bible tells us to love, but it is not loving to be hypocritical and tell a person that sin is not sin.
Romans 12:9 "Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good"
Woe unto them that call evil good, and good evil; that put darkness for light..... Isaiah 5:20
Do you not see that lost people respect truth more than lips that move and just lie just to try and befriend/con them.
Your mother whooped your butt not because she enjoyed seeing you squirm, she did it because she loved you. She cared for you, she wanted to see you become a better person than going the world's ways.
The Bible ministers in many ways, loving is certainly on way, but other ways often overlooked are ridicule, humor, sarcasm and even mocking. When God mocked the Midianites when He defeated them by sending a loaf of bread to attack them. Elijah, just prior to executing 450 prophets of Baal, "mocked them" as the Bible says, telling them to yell louder to their god so that Baal could hear their prayers since he was either on a trip, sleeping or in the restroom.
Why is it the drug council can run ads on tv that mock drug users as dopes and pot heads, but Christians can't even call evil evil? Ridicule can and does save lives.
When informed that Herod wanted to kill Jesus, Jesus commented "Go tell that Fox I cast out demons".. Was that nice? Was it nice when Jesus went through the temple and cast out the bad lot? When Jesus called the Pharisees hypocrites, was he being nice? Yes, because Jesus loved them.
When Jesus instructed us not to cast our pearls before the swine, was that being mean and uncaring? You tell me. IMHO... A love that is not hypocritical sometimes rebukes and condemns, and then points the way to God.
Jesus has been emasculated by some Christians IMHO.. Thankfully there is plenty of scripture to direct us down the right path. Sometimes a loving way may be the path to take, sometimes other paths are to be taken. Like Jesus said, Judge Rightly and hopefully one will be able to witness. But sometimes one has to "Shake off the dust from your feet" (Mat. 10:14) and move on.