Most dads would rather be told they have terminal cancer than have their son tell them he is gay, particularly if it is your only son. Coming out of the closet is a selfish act. It turns your problem into your familys problem and forces everyone around you to live a lie. I have seen this destroy families. If you are gay, stay in the closet.
If the above is true, the father does not love his son unconditionally, or possibly even love his son at all. He only would love his son if he were straight. So he will lose his only son, with no real compassion for the son's life or troubles. He wants the son to lie to him, so the son will not seek connection with him at all.
"Son, if you do anything I wouldn't like, be gone with you."
posted on 02/21/2011 9:37:50 AM PST
To: Yaelle; wolfman23601
I would suggest that wolfman means by "coming out of the closet" refers only to those who not only wholely accept, but celebrate the discovery of being homosexual, bringing along with it the evil militancy that that mindset entails. In such an instant, yes, a father feels that part of him is dying, that he has failed in some duty as a father, and that death would be preferable.
The converse is someone who humbly admits to their sexual weakness to those around them, their family members and friends, and relies on these supports to overcome and repudiate the inner weakness.
Night and day.
posted on 02/21/2011 9:55:22 AM PST
(Anita Bryant was right.)
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