Posted on 03/04/2011 4:09:10 PM PST by DemforBush
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Rahna Reiko Rizzuto says that she never wanted to be a mother.
"I had this idea that motherhood was this really all-encompassing thing,"
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...when her children came to visit, she had an epiphany: She didn't want to be a full-time mother anymore. When she returned to New York, she ended her 20-year marriage and chose not to be her kids' custodial parent.
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Except this is not new to ‘today’.
There have always been people who have left their kids behind, and yes even women.
Also, there are have always been women who were less maternal than the ideal and just did the job perfunctorily because that is what society expected.
And have always been people who have left their kids behind by way of drugs and alchol etc.
Nothing new.
What’s new is someone making a buck writing about it.
right
a perfect liberal. a perfect monster.
she is “Now a spiritual adviser” BS.
I know women like this, pose as advisers, role models ,feminist heroes, in reality are psychopaths,like actress “Mommy dearest” and “White Christmas” Bing Crosby who caused suicides of his sons ,
I raised five and was stay at home mom. Absolutely loved being my own boss and designer of what I did with my day and with my children. It was a blast...but I had a lot of help and support from grandparents and dad and living in the Bay Area, there were tons of activities.
The flaw in the “experts” analysis is the ridiculous notion that men and women are the “same”. That they are interchangeable. It is a lie. They are not. The nurturing instinct in women is very different from the protective one of man. Marxists deny biology...that is because they deny God’s design.
Men and women are complementary and both are needed for example of the interaction between the two. Children are designed to have and excel in a natural family situation. The family unit teaches equal worth of one man and one woman, but also demonstrates the difference between the sexes—something needed in inclusive societies where you don’t have an extreme hatred of one sex, like you do in homosexual societies, like in Afghanistan where pederasty is normalized and woman are hated and are reduced to slaves.
These Marxists are selfish—it is all about themselves. Once a woman gives birth, the children should come first, otherwise, don’t have them. Children need 17 years of supervision and during the first 7 years is the formative years—where their worldview and attitudes are formed. It is imperative for loving parents to be constant in everyday life to avoid stress and trauma in a child’s early years which will lead to strong, independent, individuals who have strong self-esteems (true ones) so they will not be easily manipulated and used by others. They will not become dysfunctional and resort to drugs, sex, etc., to gain “self-worth”. They will not destroy their bodies, because they were loved as young children and think of themselves as worthy people. They are able to give abundantly of themselves to others, because their soul is overflowing. Dysfunction in people is most always the fault of horrible parents, or no father or an immature/selfish mother who gives no time and patience to young children.
Attachment to the mother is the most desirable, because of nursing and the natural nurturing instinct. Separation from that bonded mother will be traumatic and very damaging if it is done in the first 6 years of life. Later will also impact self-worth of child to an extent, but in the earlier years, before the age of reason, it is very damaging. That is why Marxists promote “day cares” and women in the work place, etc. They want dysfunctional, damaged children. It serves their purpose and parents don’t mind handing their children over to the state. It has been a long conditioning process to get women “willing” to give up their children to strangers and to actually think they will be better at teaching them than the actual loving mother. It is the big lie which the Marxists changed the name of day care to “preschool” to make mothers feel guilty in NOT separating from their children at the crucial ages when worldview and self-esteem is being formed. That separation causes stress which is known to lower IQ when constant. In a lot of day care situations, stress in young children is always elevated and in many situations to a very unhealthy and detrimental level.
Of course, peer pressures also have impact, but that is part of parenting...making sure the peers are healthy for your child and help him become a better person—not a worse one. It is important to know the parents of their friends.
It is also important not to let “strangers” form their worldview. Know the curricula in school...most is Marxist ideology now. Purge it.
Lenin invented the “day care” so that he could get children away from their parents and form their world view. Of course, they condition (Pavlov was his friend) and brainwash into a godlessness where man is nothing but an animal to be herded. They don’t want independent self-reliant people that the family unit produces. That is why Lenin/Marx abhorred the family unit and is using laws (no fault divorce) media to promote all types of dysfunctional behavior as good and fun, and promote perversions. It is all to destroy all relationships, cause all groups to hate one another so there is only chaos...and in the ruble we will have the State moving in and taking control.
It is really odd that in the animal kingdom, it is only humans who will give up their babies to strangers to form their worldview/attitudes and personality.
The female apes prevent all strangers from getting even close to their young. They also always run to them if they cry—they would never leave them to feel helpless and not important by allowing them to cry for any length of time. We have “experts” who advise new mothers that is “spoils” babies to pick them up when they cry. This absurd Marxist ideology is out there so the neglected babies grow up to learn not to trust or bond with anyone, so they will be dysfunctional and unable to form a family unit.
One last thing. The Rhesus monkey experiment where the scientist removed the infant from its mother....that monkey grew up with all sorts of anti-social behavior where he could not form any relationships...could not reproduce—participated in aberrant behaviors, including homosexuality.
All Romanian orphans not having bonding experience with mother were exactly like the monkeys....They in their 40’s, still are dysfunctional and cannot form meaningful relationships. Schlafley said it best in her “Who will rock the cradle?” With this “daycare” idea, we are creating insecure, group-thinkers who will be unable and unwilling to be leaders. Individualism and self-reliance comes from a nurtured and loved child.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BXlgNdZR6AA
Not all leftists. I know some who really care for their children.
I saw the grief of one couple whose son (with significant issues from early on understanding cause&effect in regard to his actions) first got criminally sucked-in by PETA and then wound up in prison. The daughters grew up normally -- well, as normally as possible: every member of this family has an unimaginably high IQ, including son.
Recently I ran into another old friend. He met his wife in Russian class (in the 80s) and their idea of a honeymoon was to tour the Soviet Union. I learned they're recently divorced (this was sad) but he's taking much pride in their children's advancement in school. I like the guy, though we all know we have very little in common politically.
Kudos to the father who did raise them and had enough class not to thoroughly damage the relationship with their mother.
"Today"? We have always had such among us. But in my experience they're a small minority and even many of the left/libs we contend with are trying to "contribute," though they generally have the issues wrongly constructed.
On the plus side, the kids will give about the same level of priority.
So the femenazis now think parenting the children you create is optional? The poor children!
I’ve seen the most loving parents treated poorly and the least loving parents treated well. It seems the kids try very hard to win the heart of the parent who rejects them.
Sounds quite selfish to me.
Rahna Reiko Rizzuto will someday be alone, unless her children rise above their mother’s narcissism. She will have a season of regret.
Nice post!
Nothing is ever absolute, but it does generally hold true that parents who establish a relationship with kids during their development years will usually have the favour returned.
My daughter-in-law’s mother left her when she was 4 years old. She is now 26 and still has not recovered from that. Shame on those mothers!
Whatever, dude. My time at FR speaks for itself. You go right ahead and conjure up whatever nutty theory suits you.
Tinfoil’s on sale this week, btw. You might want to stock up!
These women may think their kids are just fine and dandy, but I'd think it would hurt the kids' notions of commitment and relationships, when they know that the ONE person who is supposed to care for them the most, simply didn't want to bother.
None of us are perfect parents, and all of us would do some things differently if we had it to do over. However, I have yet to meet a parent who, after raising a child, thinks they spent too much time with the child.
There’s been a lot of great, thoughtful posts on this story, but I think yours best sums up what I’ve been thinking about this topic.
I’ve always believed that once you have a child, what you want doesn’t come first anymore. The duty to raise a child properly comes before anything, and it’s not a temp job you can just walk away from when you feel like it. I simply cannot imagine doing what this woman has done.
And I agree with you about the children and relationships. I would not be surprised at all if these kids have, or will have, a skewed sensibility about relationships and commitment in their own lives.
I knew a woman like this once. We worked together professionally and were sort of friends. Then she divorced her husband because she found him boring and “controlling,” even though they had two small girls — 4 & 5 at the time, I think. That was bad enough but I kept my mouth shut. She and the husband shared custody. But then she revived some old relationship and abandoned her kids completely to move to the other end of the USA, purposely planning only to see them during summer vacation. They were 6 & 7 by that time. Then she wrote to me, telling me how everything was butterflies and rainbows and wanting me to be happy for her ... and I cut her dead. I don’t need friends who act like that, abandoning their babies. I don’t think she understood at all.
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