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With more white parents adopting black children, hair care for them is a needed lesson
Chicago Tribune ^ | April 10, 2011 | Bonnie Miller Rubin

Posted on 04/12/2011 7:44:38 AM PDT by ConservativeStatement

In the African-American community, the significance of hair cannot be underestimated, a source of either self-esteem or self-doubt. So for white parents of black children, making sure their youngsters are well-coiffed is as much a priority as good nutrition and potty training.

This reality came into focus recently at a sold-out workshop, "Caring for Afro-textured Hair and Skin," at the Cradle, an Evanston-based adoption agency.

"People are judged by the way they look," said Julien Drouet, a white father of Lily, 3, and 10-month-old Victor, whom he adopted with his partner, Brandon Walt. "I don't agree, but if we want to help our kids, we need to know how to do this."

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KEYWORDS: adoption; belongsinchat; hair; notnews; race
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Julian and Brandon and their adopted child. Sounds like an episode of "Modern Family."
1 posted on 04/12/2011 7:44:44 AM PDT by ConservativeStatement
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To: ConservativeStatement

I have heard this complaint from black football players who played for the Green Bay Packers. “I couldn’t find anybody in that town who knew how to cut my hair”.


2 posted on 04/12/2011 7:47:39 AM PDT by Buckeye McFrog
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To: ConservativeStatement

Why is the Tribune covering this and not the budget?


3 posted on 04/12/2011 7:49:21 AM PDT by therightliveswithus
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To: ConservativeStatement

I thought adoption of black children by white parents was not allowed because the National Association of Black Social Workers was against it. I wonder what happened to that little dealie?


4 posted on 04/12/2011 7:50:11 AM PDT by Steely Tom (Obama goes on long after the thrill of Obama is gone)
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To: ConservativeStatement

So this gay couple have no Black friends they could ask for advice? Says a lot about leftists and others. I wonder what Madonna and Angelina do.


5 posted on 04/12/2011 7:50:57 AM PDT by Clock King (Ellisworth Toohey was right: My head's gonna explode.)
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To: ConservativeStatement

Does this explain Cornel West?


6 posted on 04/12/2011 7:50:57 AM PDT by edpc (Tagline under construction: Your American Recovery and Reinvestment Act dollars at work.)
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To: ConservativeStatement
"People are judged by the way they look," said Julien Drouet, a white father of Lily, 3, and 10-month-old Victor, whom he adopted with his partner, Brandon Walt. "I don't agree, but if we want to help our kids, we need to know how to do this."

I think Lily and Victor are going to have more serious problems than how their hair is perceived in the hood, given that their parents names are Julien and Brandon.

7 posted on 04/12/2011 7:51:10 AM PDT by VRWCmember (Veritas vos Liberabit)
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To: Steely Tom
I thought adoption of black children by white parents was not allowed ....

When the white parents are named Julien and Brandon, it is OK.

8 posted on 04/12/2011 7:52:17 AM PDT by VRWCmember (Veritas vos Liberabit)
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To: ConservativeStatement

Maybe this is the real explanation for the mysterious scars on Obama’s head.........


9 posted on 04/12/2011 7:52:16 AM PDT by JoeDetweiler
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To: ConservativeStatement

Gay “parent” aside, Black hair is different and, depending on the type of service needed, it really does take a stylist who knows what they’re doing. My salon does a few “ethnic” clients but we don’t do weaves or chemical straighteners. Mostly cuts, color and style outs.


10 posted on 04/12/2011 7:54:07 AM PDT by manic4organic (We won. Get over it.)
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To: VRWCmember
When the white parents are named Julien and Brandon, it is OK.

Oh, I should have guessed.

11 posted on 04/12/2011 7:54:23 AM PDT by Steely Tom (Obama goes on long after the thrill of Obama is gone)
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To: edpc
Nothing can explain Cornel West.
12 posted on 04/12/2011 7:54:43 AM PDT by Salamander (Insolence.....I has it.)
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To: Buckeye McFrog

Just use Head & Shoulders....................

13 posted on 04/12/2011 7:55:21 AM PDT by Red Badger (I've posted a total of 1,723 threads and 64,113 replies, as of 04-06-2011)
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To: Buckeye McFrog

Make the trip from GB to Milwaukee in a couple hours.....they’ll find no problems there.


14 posted on 04/12/2011 7:55:46 AM PDT by edpc (Tagline under construction: Your American Recovery and Reinvestment Act dollars at work.)
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To: Steely Tom

Minnesota has the Minority Heritage Preservation Act which bans the adoption of minority children by White parents. I wonder if “Lavender” parents are an exception there as well?


15 posted on 04/12/2011 7:58:01 AM PDT by massgopguy (I owe everything to George Bailey)
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To: Clock King

This is from someone named Mariska Hargitay:

“We were considering both international and domestic adoption and we’re thrilled that this is the way our prayers were answered,” she told People. “We talked a lot about mixed-race adoptions, and we are very excited that we are now a multi-racial family.”

http://www.examiner.com/celebrity-parents-in-national/mariska-hargitay-s-transracial-adoption-follows-celebrity-trend


16 posted on 04/12/2011 7:58:31 AM PDT by ConservativeStatement (Obama "acted stupidly.")
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To: ConservativeStatement
This goddamstoopid article has been running at least once a year in some goofy form or other in the MSM since the late 1960's. Slow news day? "Let's see, we already ran the {Man Bites Dog}....I know, let's do the African-American Hair Story!~" We already had Black History Month, let's go for Black Hairstory Month.

O-so-culturally-sensitive. Just be aware that if any African-American of any age has a bad hair day, it is George Bush's Fault. Good News, though! It can be solved with Federal Funding if the Rich Pay Their Fair Share!

Anybody see my do-rag?

17 posted on 04/12/2011 7:59:42 AM PDT by Kenny Bunk (Qadafi and Obama share a common advantage. No organized opposition.)
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"People are judged by the way they look," said Julien Drouet, a white father of Lily, 3, and 10-month-old Victor, whom he adopted with his partner, Brandon Walt. "I don't agree, but if we want to help our kids, we need to know how to do this."

Or alternately, you could redirect your energies into exposing and refuting that ridiculous concept.

18 posted on 04/12/2011 8:00:37 AM PDT by Vanders9
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To: ConservativeStatement

Heck, I’m a white chic and I need advice on caring for my kinky hair. I got it from my dad who kept his hair cut high and tight, but my mom and her family has stick straight hair. She didn’t have a clue what to do with it.


19 posted on 04/12/2011 8:01:49 AM PDT by colorcountry (Comforting lies are not your friends. Painful truths are not your enemies.)
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To: Red Badger

Even homos would have to say that picture is gay.


20 posted on 04/12/2011 8:01:58 AM PDT by edpc (Tagline under construction: Your American Recovery and Reinvestment Act dollars at work.)
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To: Kenny Bunk

Did you see the Ramirez cartoon the other day?

It showed 0bama with a HUGE afro with the label “deficit” on it, and he asks the barber to take just a little off the top.


21 posted on 04/12/2011 8:02:23 AM PDT by MrB (The difference between a Humanist and a Satanist - the latter knows whom he's working for)
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To: ConservativeStatement

This is a spoof right? This isn’t a serious story is it?


22 posted on 04/12/2011 8:02:46 AM PDT by faucetman (Just the facts ma'am, just the facts)
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To: ConservativeStatement

When I needed to assist my mixed race niece with her hair when she was about 6, I just asked the first black lady I saw at the drugstore in the hair care section. “Pink Lotion” was big back then.


23 posted on 04/12/2011 8:02:54 AM PDT by yldstrk (My heroes have always been cowboys)
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To: ConservativeStatement

“People are judged by the way they look”-

That should say “ I judge people people by the way they look” , Mr. Julien. Fair enough?


24 posted on 04/12/2011 8:03:03 AM PDT by clbiel (Hey Islam! Satan's on the line- says he's not giving back your religion without a fight.)
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To: ConservativeStatement

We know one married couple (a man and woman) who adopted two black children. They simply wanted to be parents and we live in a state where that is acceptable. That being said, they did their homework. For example, black babies/children need more moisture in their skin so they used baby oil a great deal. They also found a beauty and barber shop visited by blacks mostly and talked to the owner. They were welcomed and they never had a problem with hair breakage etc... They are wonderful parents and the kids are now healthy, smart teens. Their son is a fantastic hockey player (yes, I said HOCKEY) and colleges are already snooping around for possible future scholarships. Just a thought.


25 posted on 04/12/2011 8:06:26 AM PDT by momtothree
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To: ConservativeStatement
" They argue that parents not of the same race are unable to provide adequate cultural understanding and experience to prepare a child of a different race to navigate society."

Considering what passes for "culture" in the black hoods of this country, I'd say that it is a good thing. As far as navigating society, if you are raised not having the "whitey holdin' us down" mentality drilled into your head, you have a much better chance in life.

26 posted on 04/12/2011 8:08:43 AM PDT by JustaDumbBlonde (Don't wish doom on your enemies. Plan it.)
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To: ConservativeStatement
Take a pair of scissors, with the thumb in one hole and the index finger in the other hole. Move the scissors close to the subjects head. Engage the hair you want to cut in between the two blades of the scissors. Close the scissors by moving your thumb (still inserted in one of the holes), to meet the index finger (still inserted in one of the holes), thus cutting the hair engaged between the two blades of the scissors. Repeat this procedure until the amount of unwanted hair is removed.
27 posted on 04/12/2011 8:10:33 AM PDT by faucetman (Just the facts ma'am, just the facts)
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How about they do an article about birth control and self control and maybe there would be less adoptions and more responsibility? While they are at it looking at the one couple, they may want to throw in some nutrition advice.

After looking at Bozo and how he turned out, I wonder how the kids Julien and Brandon have adopted will turn out, Lord help us. It’s stuff like this that makes some think about pro-choice as maybe the lesser of two evils.

Sorry but I dont see gay adoption as a family value. There is a reason two gays don’t reproduce.

I cant wait to see the liberal “studies” showing the kids grow up “normally” from this environment./s are we at end times?


28 posted on 04/12/2011 8:13:37 AM PDT by rolling_stone ( *this makes Watergate look like a kiddie pool*)
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To: Red Badger

Now there is a kid who never took Shop. I would pay good money to see his first lesson on the lathe.


29 posted on 04/12/2011 8:14:19 AM PDT by Kenny Bunk (Qadafi and Obama share a common advantage. No organized opposition.)
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To: MrB
Mr. B., America has had a collective Bad Hair Day ever since 53% of us decided to vote for a Collectivist.

"Take a little from the top?" OK. Mind if I start at the necktie?

30 posted on 04/12/2011 8:20:50 AM PDT by Kenny Bunk (Qadafi and Obama share a common advantage. No organized opposition.)
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To: ConservativeStatement
This is from someone named Mariska Hargitay: “We were considering both international and domestic adoption and we’re thrilled that this is the way our prayers were answered,” she told People. “We talked a lot about mixed-race adoptions, and we are very excited that we are now a multi-racial family.”

Mariska is the daughter of Jayne Mansfield, who was beheaded in a car accident.

31 posted on 04/12/2011 8:22:42 AM PDT by Jaidyn
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To: ConservativeStatement

This reminds me of the time 30 years ago when I was dealing with a shipment of nasal spray. I saw the label “Afrin” and thought it was an ethnic hair care product.


32 posted on 04/12/2011 8:24:55 AM PDT by Jeff Chandler (Shemp was the Fourth Stooge of the Apocalypse.)
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To: edpc

He’s a great player, though I hate the Steelers.............


33 posted on 04/12/2011 8:25:37 AM PDT by Red Badger (I've posted a total of 1,723 threads and 64,113 replies, as of 04-06-2011)
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Know a guy who had long hair back in the 70’s and 80’s that was a machinist. Got his hair caught in the spindle once..............


34 posted on 04/12/2011 8:27:56 AM PDT by Red Badger (I've posted a total of 1,723 threads and 64,113 replies, as of 04-06-2011)
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To: ConservativeStatement

“People are judged by the way they look,” said Julien Drouet, a white father of Lily, 3, and 10-month-old Victor, whom he adopted with his partner, Brandon Walt. “I don’t agree, but if we want to help our kids, we need to know how to do this.”

I’m pretty sure gay people are allowed to use Google.


35 posted on 04/12/2011 8:28:43 AM PDT by Hacklehead (Liberalism is the art of taking what works, breaking it, and then blaming conservatives.)
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In the African-American community, the significance of hair cannot be underestimated

It doesent get more pathetic than that.

36 posted on 04/12/2011 8:36:48 AM PDT by Nonstatist
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To: Red Badger

Did he get it shutdown before his face became wall ceiling floor art?


37 posted on 04/12/2011 8:39:46 AM PDT by B4Ranch (Allowing Islam into America is akin to injecting yourself with AIDS to prove how tolerant you are .)
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To: ConservativeStatement

I’ve seen this many times around the military with a black soldier, a white wife, and a little girl with extremely screwed-up hair because the wife was clueless on how to maintain it properly.


38 posted on 04/12/2011 8:40:48 AM PDT by antiRepublicrat
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To: Kenny Bunk

“This goddamstoopid article has been running at least once a year in some goofy form or other in the MSM since the late 1960’s.”

Actually, it seems very timely to me. We just discovered the Oregon Legislature is contemplating a new bill...

HB 3584 FIRST PUBLIC HEARING: Directs Department of Human Services, in consultation with Oregon Health Authority, to provide training to foster parents regarding appropriate ethnic aesthetic care for children of African-American, Hispanic, Native American, Asian-American or multiracial descent.


39 posted on 04/12/2011 8:42:05 AM PDT by Twotone (Marte Et Clypeo)
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To: ConservativeStatement
Style is important.


40 posted on 04/12/2011 8:42:05 AM PDT by USMCPOP (Father of LCpl. Karl Linn, KIA 1/26/2005 Al Haqlaniyah, Iraq)
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To: manic4organic
we don’t do ... chemical straighteners.
From the Autobiography of Malcolm X ... My First Conk:Even after almost 50 years, this book is still a great read.
41 posted on 04/12/2011 8:43:44 AM PDT by oh8eleven (RVN '67-'68)
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To: B4Ranch

He grabbed his ponytail and jerked as hard as he possibly could and ripped it out of the machine’s grasp. He wore a hairnet from then on...............


42 posted on 04/12/2011 8:44:18 AM PDT by Red Badger (I've posted a total of 1,723 threads and 64,113 replies, as of 04-06-2011)
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To: ConservativeStatement
This is from someone named Mariska Hargitay:

Actress, Law & Order SVU, daughter of Jayne Mansfield.

43 posted on 04/12/2011 8:45:11 AM PDT by antiRepublicrat
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To: Jaidyn

Nah, she wasn’t beheaded. That was just a rumor.


44 posted on 04/12/2011 8:45:43 AM PDT by MamaB
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To: Hacklehead

The couple is homosexual. I’m on a campaign to return the word “gay” to its proper usage. My husband and I (man and woman)are a happy couple so I guess that makes us gay.


45 posted on 04/12/2011 8:45:58 AM PDT by murron (Proud Mom of a Marine Vet)
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To: Twotone
HB 3584 FIRST PUBLIC HEARING: Directs Department of Human Services, in consultation with Oregon Health Authority, to provide training to foster parents regarding appropriate ethnic aesthetic care for children of African-American, Hispanic, Native American, Asian-American or multiracial descent.

Put me down for one child from each of the aforementioned groups, and make sure that each child is accompanied by a package containing appropriate aesthetic products and $4.5Million in cash.

46 posted on 04/12/2011 8:48:14 AM PDT by Kenny Bunk (Qadafi and Obama share a common advantage. No organized opposition.)
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To: murron

“My husband and I (man and woman)are a happy couple so I guess that makes us gay.”

It makes you very rare. ;-)


47 posted on 04/12/2011 8:52:31 AM PDT by Hacklehead (Liberalism is the art of taking what works, breaking it, and then blaming conservatives.)
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To: Red Badger

Yeah...amazing. You must have seen that video where he times the snap just right, gets a running start, leaps over the line and sacks the quarterback all in one move without being offside?

Unbelievable. I am a Pats fan, and I would love see him in a Pats uniform...well, okay. Maybe if he cut the hair just a little bit...


48 posted on 04/12/2011 8:52:36 AM PDT by rlmorel (Capitalism is the Goose that lays The Golden Egg.)
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To: ConservativeStatement

Let them all get Eleonor Holmes Norton haircuts.


49 posted on 04/12/2011 8:54:05 AM PDT by Venturer
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To: Red Badger

I had a girlfriend who got her hair caught in a lathe. It scalped her and nearly killed her, but they were able to put everything back with minimal visible scarring. She said, even years after the event, she could still barely even comprehend the speed and violence with which it grabbed her hair and smashed her head into the lathe.


50 posted on 04/12/2011 8:57:09 AM PDT by rlmorel (Capitalism is the Goose that lays The Golden Egg.)
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