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Rocker Steven Tyler of Aerosmith Haunted by Girlfriend’s Abortion
LifeNews ^ | May 4, 2011 | Kevin Burke

Posted on 05/05/2011 3:28:09 PM PDT by NYer

Long before he won accolades as an American Idol judge, Steven Tyler was a bona-fide rock star, with all that that implied. In 1975, when he was in his late 20s and the lead singer for the band Aerosmith, Tyler persuaded the parents of his 14-year-old girlfriend, Julia Holcomb, to make him her legal guardian so that they could live together in Boston.

When Miss Holcomb and Tyler conceived a child, his longtime friend Ray Tabano convinced Tyler that abortion was the only solution. In the Aerosmith “autobiography,” Walk This Way (in which recollections by all the band members, and their friends and lovers, were assembled by the author Stephen Davis), Tabano says: “So they had the abortion, and it really messed Steven up because it was a boy. He … saw the whole thing and it [messed] him up big time.”

Tyler also reflects on his abortion experience in the autobiography. “It was a big crisis. It’s a major thing when you’re growing something with a woman, but they convinced us that it would never work out and would ruin our lives. … You go to the doctor and they put the needle in her belly and they squeeze the stuff in and you watch. And it comes out dead. I was pretty devastated. In my mind, I’m going, Jesus, what have I done?”

The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders defines a traumatic event as follows: “1. The person experienced, witnessed, or was confronted with an event or events that involved actual or threatened death or serious injury, or a threat to the physical integrity of self or others. 2. The person’s response involved intense fear, helplessness, or horror.”

Those who support abortion rights assure us that post-abortion complications are a myth. But Steven Tyler cuts through this fog of denial and lays it on the line: Jesus, what have I done?

This is the cry of a post-abortive father whose very intimate exposure to the reality of abortion fits the textbook definition of trauma — as set down by the very same American Psychiatric Association that assures us abortion is a safe procedure with no negative effects on a man’s or a woman’s mental health.

GO NUMB AND RUN

What happens to someone who is exposed to a traumatic event and fails to process the images and memories of that experience and heal the psychic wounds? The person is likely to go numb, run, and act out the unresolved themes of the trauma.

There is no easier occupation in which to react this way to post-abortion trauma than that of a rock star in the 1970s and ’80s.

After the abortion, Tyler began a torrid affair with Playboy model Bebe Buell while still seeing Julia, the mother of his aborted son. If you were wondering what happened to Julia (who is referred to as Diana Hall in the book) after this purportedly psychologically safe procedure, Bebe tells us: “There were many suicidal calls from poor Diana as they were breaking up. It was actually a pretty sad time.”

And how was Steven coping?

He went on a European concert tour, accompanied by Bebe, who tells us: “He was crazy … totally drunk, really out of it. … Steven destroyed his dressing room at Hammersmith … when we got back from Europe. … One night I found him on the floor of his bathroom having a drug seizure. He was writhing in pain.”

This was followed by Steven’s “Tuinal days” — a period he spent stoned on massive doses of the barbiturate. He says: “I would eat four or five a day … and be good for a couple of months … which is why that period is blackout stuff.”

This is the dysfunctional recipe for dealing with post-traumatic stress: Take heavy doses of drugs to numb the memories and feelings — and throw in a portion of toxic rage at bandmates and hotel rooms. Anger, especially in men, is often an undiagnosed sign of depression and repressed grief that needs a healthy expression and healing. Many post-abortive fathers tell us that anger management was a major problem for them after their abortions.

Then Bebe Buell became pregnant with Tyler’s child. She realized it would be impossible to raise a child with him given his out-of-control substance abuse and rock-and-roll lifestyle. She returned to her former lover, the composer, producer, and recording artist Todd Rundgren, who agreed to act as father of the child and keep Tyler’s fatherhood a secret. Their daughter, who grew up to be the actress Liv Tyler, was born on July 1, 1977.

TRAUMA AND HEALING

For many post-abortive men and women, the anxiety associated with an abortion can surface at unexpected times, triggered by events such as a subsequent pregnancy, the death of a pet or a loved one, or some other person, place, or thing that in some way connects with the traumatic memory.

Years later, when Tyler married, and he and his wife were expecting their first child, he was still haunted by the abortion: “It affected me later. … I was afraid. I thought we’d give birth to a six-headed cow because of what I’d done with other women. The real-life guilt was very traumatic for me. Still hurts.”

At Rachel’s Vineyard Ministries, we often see men and women many years after their abortion, when they are ready to take a look at this secret and shadowy corner of their souls. Most people cannot make sense of the fragmented, disjointed pieces of their post-abortive lives until they attend a healing program. Tragically, the spin doctors of our pro-abortion culture work overtime to make sure that these connections are never made.

Despite the opposition, post-abortive parents, grandparents, and siblings are finding their way to healing programs around the world. As they travel together through the healing process, they learn from and support one another. They discover that the fragmented pieces of their lives start fitting together and making sense. This may be one of the reasons that it is so difficult to counter the propaganda of the pro-abortion movement. It is often only after the healing journey that post-abortive men and women can see the intimate connection between their abortions and their emotional problems, addictions, and other post-abortion symptoms.

STILL A FAN

I grew up with the music of Aerosmith as a teenager in the 1970s and continue to have a great respect for the songwriting ability and performing talent of Steven Tyler. His actions in the abortion of his son were very wrong, and he suffered the consequences, as his life descended into a quagmire of addiction and self-destruction. Fortunately, Tyler was successfully treated for his drug addiction in 1986.

At the heart of post-abortion healing is the cleansing of a wounded heart. The post-abortive parent must be free of shame, guilt, and grief before he or she can embrace the unborn child with love. Let us hope and pray that this rock star and Idol judge can make peace with his abortion loss and find forgiveness and reconciliation with God and his aborted son — and that he will then use his considerable talent and influence to call other post-abortive fathers to healing.


TOPICS: Crime/Corruption; Culture/Society; Government
KEYWORDS: abortion; aerosmith; babykiller; murderer

1 posted on 05/05/2011 3:28:13 PM PDT by NYer
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To: wagglebee

Ping!


2 posted on 05/05/2011 3:28:49 PM PDT by NYer ("Be kind to every person you meet. For every person is fighting a great battle." St. Ephraim)
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To: NYer

I love the way these debauched satyrs reinvent themselves when they are in their 60’s and facing the flames of Hell.


3 posted on 05/05/2011 3:32:55 PM PDT by Palladin (Sarah Palin in 2012!)
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To: NYer

One minor.......and I do mean MINOR detail. If a man in his late 20’s is having carnal knowledge with a 14 year old child, it is defined as rape. If a man, who is given legal custody of a 14 year old child has sex with his charge, it is an incestuous rape. As far as I know, there is no statute of limitations for a rape charge, and there is written proof. The parents of the child should have charges brought against them for pimping their daughter for profit, and I am sure you could prove the profit part too.


4 posted on 05/05/2011 3:34:52 PM PDT by runninglips (Republicans = 99 lb weaklings of politics.)
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To: NYer
She realized it would be impossible to raise a child with him given his out-of-control substance abuse and rock-and-roll lifestyle.

Sheesh. She waited until the child was born before she figure that out?

5 posted on 05/05/2011 3:36:45 PM PDT by Izzy Dunne (Hello, I'm a TAGLINE virus. Please help me spread by copying me into YOUR tag line.)
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To: Palladin

I guess the lesson here is that even some of the most debauched individuals have moments of sanity.

The fact that he sees the act as terribly wrong now, and is willing to provide testimony about it, could actually influence others to take a different path.

God works in mysterious ways. Tyler’s testimonial will probably make a lot more sense to some kids, than their own parents advice, even though it would basically be the same message.

I am suffering no delusions concerning Tyler’s present condition either.


6 posted on 05/05/2011 3:40:22 PM PDT by DoughtyOne (Tell me you haven't asked yourself what mistake Obama made, that wound up causing Laden's death?)
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To: Palladin
The traumatic effect of abortion is an established reality despite the desperate denials of the psych associations. I find it hard to fault someone who seeks to heal from the effects of what he/she has done.
7 posted on 05/05/2011 3:40:59 PM PDT by hinckley buzzard
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To: hinckley buzzard

You are a much more charitable person than I.

I hope this is the only baby of an underaged girl that Tyler had aborted.

Ironic that now he has only daughters...no sons.


8 posted on 05/05/2011 3:43:46 PM PDT by Palladin (Sarah Palin in 2012!)
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To: NYer

“Tyler persuaded the parents of his 14-year-old girlfriend, Julia Holcomb, to make him her legal guardian”

....WHAT?!?!?....wonder if cash greased the skids.


9 posted on 05/05/2011 3:45:42 PM PDT by lacrew (Mr. Soetoro, we regret to inform you that your race card is over the credit limit.)
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To: runninglips; Palladin

Rip ‘im all you want from your vantage point. I personally find, even as an evangelical Christian, self-righteousness to be more than a bit annoying.

The man wasn’t a saint, no. By the way, as to his becoming the guardian/lover of an underaged girl...Ted Nugent....whom I love and most here do, as well.....did exactly the same thing. Don’t see him being verbally castrated here.

It was a different time. Rock is its own world. Don’t judge. Tyler, by all accounts, is now one hell of a guy and has a big heart. I believe it, just as I know Ted has changed in his latter years.

For others who point and crow at these guys, imagine yourself as a young, 20-something rock star with gorgeous babes throwing themselves at you everywhere you go, people giving you anything you want at any time, people adoring you on stage night after night, year after year....live that life for a while then tell me what a priest you’d be.


10 posted on 05/05/2011 3:45:51 PM PDT by RightOnline
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To: NYer

How many abortions did Madonna have that she now feels awful about


11 posted on 05/05/2011 3:48:07 PM PDT by dennisw (NZT - "works better if you're already smart")
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To: NYer

For later...


12 posted on 05/05/2011 3:54:36 PM PDT by Outlaw Woman ("...; because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee,... "Hosea 4:6)
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To: RightOnline

Amen.

I didn’t find the lord until I was 38 years old. I was a pretty rotten guy. The self righteous are no better or worse than I am or was. I am far more put of by them than than those who profess no faith at all.

Matt 6:1: 1”Be careful not to do your ‘acts of righteousness’ before men, to be seen by them. If you do, you will have no reward from your Father in heaven.”

Matt 6:5-7: 5”And when you pray, do not be like the hypocrites, for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the street corners to be seen by men. I tell you the truth, they have received their reward in full. 6 But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.


13 posted on 05/05/2011 3:57:39 PM PDT by Ribeye (Protective headwear courtesy of Reynolds Aluminum Products- Extra-cranial RF Suppression Division)
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To: RightOnline
For whatever reason, some people have a desire and the talent to be that way. I have two brothers who had that Rock Star desire, and while they never made the big time, they still make a little money on the side, in various local bands, although they have normal real jobs in the daytime. They've ended up fairly decent citizens, make their own living, don't depend upon others.

Who knows why some do, and some don't? I certainly never had that desire, and glad I didn't. I imagine I could have descended into the debauchery, if I did.

14 posted on 05/05/2011 3:57:59 PM PDT by FlyVet
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To: RightOnline

Not self righteous, not a Priest, just some with NORMAL sensibilities. If Ted Nugent, or Pope Paul did this, they deserve to go to jail. There are 100’s of WOMEN throwing themselves at you, so you CHOOSE a 14 year old child? You can’t dismiss this. If it were my daughter at the time, and Tyler was my favorite rock star, I still would have gone after him with a baseball bat.


15 posted on 05/05/2011 4:01:31 PM PDT by runninglips (Republicans = 99 lb weaklings of politics.)
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To: NYer
what evil.....first to rape a 14 yro and then to get her an abortion and then to fell so bad because it was a "boy"....

I don't know where to begin....

16 posted on 05/05/2011 4:01:50 PM PDT by cherry
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To: DoughtyOne

he regrets it because the baby was a boy....I suppose it wouldn’t bother him so much if the baby was just a girl....


17 posted on 05/05/2011 4:03:07 PM PDT by cherry
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To: lacrew
“Tyler persuaded the parents of his 14-year-old girlfriend, Julia Holcomb, to make him her legal guardian”

....WHAT?!?!?....wonder if cash greased the skids.

Yeah that's what I find most remarkable about the whole article.

Parents of the Year candidates.

18 posted on 05/05/2011 4:04:11 PM PDT by jtal (Runnin' a World in Need with White Folks' Greed - since 1492)
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To: RightOnline
I will judge if I want to....the man has no regret except the baby killed was a male....

what passes nowadays as "good" ....

19 posted on 05/05/2011 4:05:12 PM PDT by cherry
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To: DoughtyOne

According to the article, if I read it correctly; He felt it was wrong right after. And paid the price in many ways.

People, and I use that term loosely, talked him and the girl into it. Probably band managers, record producers and all the clinger ons.

But yes, his spiral into the depths of rage, drugs and depression should be a lesson. And if he’s willing to testify to it, all the better.


20 posted on 05/05/2011 4:08:49 PM PDT by AFreeBird
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To: cherry
the man has no regret except the baby killed was a male....

How the heck do you know that? His most famous kid is Liv. Apparently he didn't work hard enough to get her aborted.

21 posted on 05/05/2011 4:12:29 PM PDT by FlyVet
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To: cherry

His comment did lead one to think that might be the case. It was probably an impression made for lack of thinking the statement through completely. I would hope so. Addressing the sex in the first place was not the way to go.


22 posted on 05/05/2011 4:14:57 PM PDT by DoughtyOne (Tell me you haven't asked yourself what mistake Obama made, that wound up causing Laden's death?)
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To: AFreeBird

I agree. And if that decline was in fact the abortion related, you’ve got a good point there.


23 posted on 05/05/2011 4:16:08 PM PDT by DoughtyOne (Tell me you haven't asked yourself what mistake Obama made, that wound up causing Laden's death?)
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To: runninglips

I don’t know if he said somewhere else that he thought he had done wrong by having intercourse with a 14 y.o., taking her away from her parents, and impregnating her. Likely giving her drugs as well.

Roman Polanski still faces rape charges, and Tyler isn’t in Switzerland.

Not to mention, from the description, this was a saline abortion, hence a late one - how long did it take the two of them to figure out she was pregnant and decide they didn’t want a baby, anyway? You can probably feel the child kicking by that point.


24 posted on 05/05/2011 4:20:10 PM PDT by heartwood
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To: cherry

I’m with you on this. Tyler is still a piece of crap. If that had been my daughter, I would have made Tyler a eunuch minus a harem.


25 posted on 05/05/2011 4:25:24 PM PDT by Jukeman
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To: Izzy Dunne

No, if you had read further, it says she left and went back to Todd Rundgren.


26 posted on 05/05/2011 4:29:48 PM PDT by packrat35 (America is rapidly becoming a police state that East Germany could be proud of!)
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To: RightOnline

“A Dream A Lot Like Mine”
http://www.reverbnation.com/play_now/song_5740209
I admit that I have a degree of difficulty feeling sorry for a man who actively chose this outcome. I still welcome his voice to those who have come to regret the “choice” whether they made it or it was made by the woman. Never a fan of his kind of music myself, but if he helps someone else make a different decision, I’m not going to argue with that.


27 posted on 05/05/2011 4:33:26 PM PDT by Emmett McCarthy
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To: Palladin

Better late, than never.


28 posted on 05/05/2011 4:34:07 PM PDT by SuziQ
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To: RightOnline

“Evangelical Christian” = Cheap Grace


29 posted on 05/05/2011 4:37:54 PM PDT by Palladin (Sarah Palin in 2012!)
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To: Palladin

““Evangelical Christian” = Cheap Grace”

Grace is not cheap. Christ paid heavily for the forgiveness of my sins.

Judge not lest ye be judged.


30 posted on 05/05/2011 4:40:38 PM PDT by BelleAl (Proud to be a member of the party of NO! NO more deficit spending and government control!)
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To: BelleAl

I’m OK...You’re OK.


31 posted on 05/05/2011 4:42:58 PM PDT by Palladin (Sarah Palin in 2012!)
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To: runninglips

Well that’s all well and good except, the time frame he is speaking of is the 70’s. The laws have been revised radically since. One of the ‘boyfriends’ I had at the time was 25....I was 15. It was not viewed the same way as it is today.

2nd point..if you’ll bear with me: The parents of this girl allowed him to become guardian. What weight would they carry? They knowlingly transferred guardanship (probably thinking they would make a bloody fortune from a “rock-star’.


32 posted on 05/05/2011 4:48:13 PM PDT by Outlaw Woman ("...; because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee,... "Hosea 4:6)
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To: NYer

A few years ago Tyler and Aerosmith were at NASA Johnson visiting. They were caught in the mens room putting something white up their noses. NASA swept it under the rug.


33 posted on 05/05/2011 5:02:51 PM PDT by isthisnickcool (Sharia? No thanks.)
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To: cherry

I knew some folks awhile back who decide to sneak a peak in a dumpster behind an abortion mill...
what they saw has changed them.

20 years ago


34 posted on 05/05/2011 5:11:53 PM PDT by devistate one four (United states code 10.311 Militia Kimber CDP II .45 OORAH! TET68)
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To: Palladin

Stick it.


35 posted on 05/05/2011 6:04:32 PM PDT by RightOnline
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To: runninglips

Who knows....and if it was my daughter, I’d do what you say (only I’d use my .357 magnum). Not the point whether the girl’s folks were money-grubbing morons.

The point is your self-righteous judgment of someone who you don’t understand in the least. You know nothing of him, his life, his heart...now or then. Nothing.

I’m sure you’ve lived a saint’s life, but most of us haven’t and don’t care what others think.


36 posted on 05/05/2011 6:08:54 PM PDT by RightOnline
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To: Emmett McCarthy

I am a big fan of Aerosmith, but that aside....your attitude is what true Christianity is all about. Too bad that so few on this thread actually understand that.


37 posted on 05/05/2011 6:12:19 PM PDT by RightOnline
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To: Ribeye

Thanks, brother.....refreshing to read/see here. I’m a Christian but still very much a work in progress. God and His Son love me anyway. They love Steven Tyler, too. Shame more don’t understand that.


38 posted on 05/05/2011 6:25:25 PM PDT by RightOnline
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