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Lesbian couple used me: sperm donor
The Canberra Times ^ | 25 May 2011 | Natasha Wallace

Posted on 05/25/2011 6:44:59 PM PDT by smokingfrog

Neil Richards was so excited about the impending birth of his child 10 years ago he discussed building a home in the Blue Mountains for himself and the lesbian couple who had used his donated sperm to conceive.

Mr Richards, who answered the couple's advertisement in a magazine, said they agreed he should be involved in his daughter's life but exactly how was never decided.

He said he provided sperm to Jesse Star, now 49, paid $5000 for her fertility treatments at a Woollahra clinic and paid for the midwife who managed the home birth of the child in August 2001.

He had also agreed to father a child with Ms Star's partner, Sofia Marita, but that failed.

The two women separated in 2008.

Ten years on, after a tumultuous relationship between the three parents, Ms Marita is taking the NSW Registry of Births, Deaths and Marriages and Mr Richards to court to have his name removed from the child's birth certificate.

It is the first case of its kind since the introduction of a retrospective law in 2008 giving lesbian couples equal parenting responsibilities or legal status.

Mr Richards, a 58-year-old retired real estate agent, said he had gone through ''10 years of hell'' and spent $50,000 on legal fees.

He has seen his daughter for five hours each fortnight since she was one. He paid $150 a week child support for her first year, though he is not legally obliged to, and paid one-third of her school fees for two years.

Last year, he allowed Ms Star, listed on the birth certificate as a clairvoyant and funeral celebrant, to stay at his Hazelbrook home for three months when she was unable to pay rent at her own home, he said.

(Excerpt) Read more at canberratimes.com.au ...


TOPICS: Australia/New Zealand; Culture/Society; News/Current Events
KEYWORDS: 2liedownwithdogs; 2wakeupwithfleas; birthcertificate; fatherhood; fathers; homosexualagenda; lesbians; spermdonor
Sometimes, these things just don't work out very well. What a surprise.
1 posted on 05/25/2011 6:45:02 PM PDT by smokingfrog
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To: smokingfrog

This man has no one to blame but himself for his predicament. If this had happened in the USA he’d be on the hook for an untold amount of child support. What a fool.


2 posted on 05/25/2011 6:47:03 PM PDT by pnh102 (Regarding liberalism, always attribute to malice what you think can be explained by stupidity. - Me)
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To: smokingfrog

If most men haven’t figured this out yet, the majority of lesbians have a distinct revulsion of men. They don’t like men, period.


3 posted on 05/25/2011 6:47:22 PM PDT by SatinDoll (NOT FOREIGN NATIONALS AS OUR PRESIDENT)
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To: smokingfrog

Ménage à duh!


4 posted on 05/25/2011 6:49:31 PM PDT by King Moonracer (Bad lighting and cheap fabric, that's how you sell clothing.....)
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To: smokingfrog

There must be a daytime tv show for this guy.


5 posted on 05/25/2011 6:52:00 PM PDT by Gator113 ("GAME ON." I'll be voting for Sarah Palin, Liberty, our Constitution and American Exceptionalism.)
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To: SatinDoll

Every lesbian I have ever met, has always treated me like a man.


6 posted on 05/25/2011 6:53:57 PM PDT by Gator113 ("GAME ON." I'll be voting for Sarah Palin, Liberty, our Constitution and American Exceptionalism.)
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To: AdmSmith; AnonymousConservative; Berosus; bigheadfred; Bockscar; ColdOne; Convert from ECUSA; ...

Thanks smokingfrog.
...he provided sperm to Jesse Star, now 49, paid $5000 for her fertility treatments at a Woollahra clinic and paid for the midwife who managed the home birth of the child in August 2001. He had also agreed to father a child with Ms Star's partner, Sofia Marita, but that failed. The two women separated in 2008... Marita is taking the NSW Registry of Births, Deaths and Marriages and Mr Richards to court to have his name removed from the child's birth certificate...
"I can't belong to an organization that would have someone like me for a member."


7 posted on 05/25/2011 6:55:40 PM PDT by SunkenCiv (Thanks Cincinna for this link -- http://www.friendsofitamar.org)
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To: smokingfrog

These type people are not known for what we call high moral character, such as speaking the truth, doing what you say you will, treating others with kindness and fairness.

I am sure they consider their own actions to be moral but that comes from people who fit little to none of the values considered moral for thousands of years.


8 posted on 05/25/2011 6:59:36 PM PDT by yarddog
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To: SatinDoll

“If most men haven’t figured this out yet, the majority of lesbians have a distinct revulsion of men. They don’t like men, period”

I was out with two friends last night, and one of them told me that recently when we’d all gone out with some colleagues, a butch lesbian in the group had propositioned him for a one night stand. Even when I think people can’t shock me any more, they do.


9 posted on 05/25/2011 6:59:54 PM PDT by Feline_AIDS (A gun in hand is better than a cop on the phone.)
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To: smokingfrog

so 10 years ago, he wanted to be a Father, be involved with his child, and he had plenty of money...

...and all he could find was a lesbian couple, instead of a wife? what am i missing here? lots of good women pray for a good man, who’d care for her child, and give her some security...


10 posted on 05/25/2011 7:00:13 PM PDT by Elendur (the hope and change i need: Sarah / Colonel West in 2012)
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To: SatinDoll

They like their sperm though... oh... never mind.


11 posted on 05/25/2011 7:02:53 PM PDT by Northern Yankee (Where Liberty dwells, there is my Country. - Benjamin Franklin)
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To: smokingfrog
"I thought they were talking about letting me in on a round of lesbian spank inferno"


12 posted on 05/25/2011 7:04:32 PM PDT by mylife
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To: smokingfrog

This guy was stupid. Before he gave the sperm, he should have gone to a lawyer to get all these things ironed out. I am sure the lesbians were saying “oh this will be great. You can see the child anytime you want.” The baby was born and he was kicked to the curb.


13 posted on 05/25/2011 7:10:24 PM PDT by napscoordinator
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To: Feline_AIDS

I remember once ending up inadvertently being in the middle of a lesbian club meeting (I was reading in the room where they were to meet).

To make some small talk I mentioned the book I was reading to one of them. She told me she didn’t read books written by men.

I was young at the time. That was an eyeopener for me.


14 posted on 05/25/2011 7:14:25 PM PDT by I still care (I miss my friends, bagels, and the NYC skyline - but not the taxes. I love the South.)
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To: mylife

How could you possibly enjoy a film like that?


15 posted on 05/25/2011 7:17:10 PM PDT by smokingfrog ( sleep with one eye open ( <o> ---)
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To: Gator113; Larry Lucido; Dr. Eckleburg
There must be a daytime tv show for this guy.

(Sorry Larry, this was just too obvious, needed to take a different angle.)

16 posted on 05/25/2011 7:21:47 PM PDT by Gamecock (It's not eat drink and be merry because tommow we die, but rather because yesterday we were dead.)
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To: smokingfrog

Funniest episode ever!


17 posted on 05/25/2011 7:22:48 PM PDT by mylife
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To: Feline_AIDS

Maybe she decided he was a good DNA and financial source.


18 posted on 05/25/2011 7:26:35 PM PDT by tbw2
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To: Elendur

Maybe he’s a homo too?


19 posted on 05/25/2011 7:28:41 PM PDT by smokingfrog ( sleep with one eye open ( <o> ---)
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To: smokingfrog

Who could have foreseen that this arrangement would prove to be unstable?


20 posted on 05/25/2011 7:37:07 PM PDT by rogue yam
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To: smokingfrog; mylife

Here now!! You boys cut that out!!

LOL


21 posted on 05/25/2011 7:45:16 PM PDT by davetex (All my weapons got melted by a meteor!! No Sh*t)
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To: smokingfrog

YAROTROSL.

Yet another result of the repeal of sodomy laws.


22 posted on 05/25/2011 7:52:13 PM PDT by PieterCasparzen (Huguenot)
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To: davetex; mylife

He started it!


23 posted on 05/25/2011 7:54:06 PM PDT by smokingfrog ( sleep with one eye open ( <o> ---)
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To: davetex
Even though both lesbians hate men, I bet at least one of them owns the Junior Patrick.


24 posted on 05/25/2011 7:54:06 PM PDT by mylife
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To: Elendur

I know this guy should have had a lawyer examine all contracts before donating sperm but I can’t help but feel sorry for this guy. Maybe he just couldn’t find a woman to settle down with. He definitely should have considered adoption if he wanted a child he was actually allowed to spend time with but it’s hard for me to be down on a man that wanted to be a father so badly because we sure seem to have a shortage of men willing to be fathers nowadays. I’m not saying such men don’t exist, I’m sure there are plenty of loving fathers here on FR, but among the younger generation it is hopeless.


25 posted on 05/25/2011 8:16:34 PM PDT by SoCal SoCon (Conservatism =/= Corporatism.)
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To: smokingfrog

Let me see now, a lesbian couple might not be as stable as a hetero couple? Is that a possibility?


26 posted on 05/25/2011 8:17:11 PM PDT by The_Media_never_lie
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To: PieterCasparzen

What does YAROTROSL mean?


27 posted on 05/25/2011 8:18:22 PM PDT by SoCal SoCon (Conservatism =/= Corporatism.)
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To: PieterCasparzen

Never mind, just figured it out. This is my brain on way too little sleep so sorry for the unnecessary post.


28 posted on 05/25/2011 8:20:14 PM PDT by SoCal SoCon (Conservatism =/= Corporatism.)
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To: I still care

“She told me she didn’t read books written by men.”

Not even men like Oscar Wilde?


29 posted on 05/25/2011 8:25:55 PM PDT by SoCal SoCon (Conservatism =/= Corporatism.)
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To: SoCal SoCon

“I know this guy should have had a lawyer examine all contracts before donating sperm”

That was the last thing on his mind before he got himself off.


30 posted on 05/25/2011 8:33:24 PM PDT by Rebelbase
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To: SoCal SoCon
It's explained in the same post.
31 posted on 05/25/2011 9:54:46 PM PDT by newzjunkey (Can we survive four more years of this regime's "progress?")
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To: SoCal SoCon; napscoordinator

If you read the full article, the law changed in 2008 giving them the “right” to eliminate him. Whatever the contract, it would be superseded by law.


32 posted on 05/25/2011 10:03:31 PM PDT by newzjunkey (Can we survive four more years of this regime's "progress?")
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To: SatinDoll; smokingfrog

>>> the majority of lesbians have a distinct revulsion of men.

You don’t have to be a lesbian for that. Just watching a Seth Rogan movie can do it.


33 posted on 05/25/2011 10:09:21 PM PDT by tlb
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The children raised by sexually perverted mentally ill freaks should be immediately taken away from them and raised by normal married mothers and fathers. IVF or other artificial contraception leads to these insane and depraved relationships. And who suffers the most? The children.

34 posted on 05/25/2011 11:17:57 PM PDT by little jeremiah (Courage is not simply one of the virtues, but the form of every virtue at the testing point. CSLewis)
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To: newzjunkey

I read the full article after posting and that is one messed up law. This Marita person is neither the biological mother nor has any relationship to the biological father so why should she be listed on the birth certificate and not him? Also, since when do laws apply retroactively?

This man acted foolishly, no question about it. But there are fools who arouse my contempt (such as the Loony Left) and there are fools that arouse my pity (such as this man). My heart goes out to this man and especially to this poor 10 year old girl who is being deprived of a father. These selfish, so called mothers, not so much.


35 posted on 05/26/2011 4:20:20 AM PDT by SoCal SoCon (Conservatism =/= Corporatism.)
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To: little jeremiah

What a mess. This is why religion and traditional cultures have rules and laws. This is why marriage is such an important institution and must be protected.


36 posted on 05/26/2011 6:41:30 AM PDT by trisham (Zen is not easy. It takes effort to attain nothingness. And then what do you have? Bupkis.)
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To: SoCal SoCon

SoCal SoCon -=> Not even men like Oscar Wilde?

G.Legman tells the story of Frank Harris berating Wilde regarding his homosexuality (illegal at the time in Great Britan). Having convinced Wilde to restrain his very public behavior, Harris thought all was well.

Well, that is, until Harris walked in on Wilde one day when he, Wilde, had a young cockney lad bent over his desk.

“You sod,” quoth Harris, “I thought you were going to turn over a new leaf!”

“I am,” responded Wilde, “can’t you see I am at the bottom of the page now?”

Sorry, but mentioning Wilde reminded me of that story...


37 posted on 05/26/2011 6:42:01 AM PDT by Peet (Leftists think personal liberty is so important it must be carefully rationed.)
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To: SatinDoll

spot on which I find stupid when my fellow men think they all look like the Hollywood fake ones.

They are like they are because they don’;t like you, you are pathetic to them , they pretend to be you with their strap ons but hate you because you have the real thing and they have to buy plastic and wear it pretending to be you.


38 posted on 05/26/2011 6:45:13 AM PDT by manc (Hannity is a fraud , he admitted he's socially liberal on his show, he's took us for suckers)
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To: SatinDoll

You posted: If most men haven’t figured this out yet, the majority of lesbians have a distinct revulsion of men. They don’t like men, period.
***

Your observation is true and interesting, in light of the fact that so many lesbians, despite their apparent hatred of men, dress like men, act (kind of) like men, and employ “equipment” to function (kind of) like men in bed. Same thing in the opposite direction for homosexual men.

Hard to figure out, so I won’t try.


39 posted on 05/26/2011 6:53:21 AM PDT by NCLaw441 (I before E except after C, or when sounded as A in neighbor and weigh. Isn't that WEIRD?)
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To: trisham

And those horrid parents raising a “genderless” baby!!! PUKE!!!

Trying to revolt against Nature’s Laws (and the Author!!!).

Such rebellion (may I use the word “demoniac”???) is destroying human civilization. It cannot continue and I am sure it won’t.


40 posted on 05/26/2011 9:15:35 AM PDT by little jeremiah (Courage is not simply one of the virtues, but the form of every virtue at the testing point. CSLewis)
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To: smokingfrog

As if life is not complicated enough...we need to add every twisted freak option to the mix.


41 posted on 05/26/2011 11:58:30 AM PDT by SaraJohnson
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To: smokingfrog

Funeral celebrant? WTH is that?


42 posted on 05/26/2011 1:07:31 PM PDT by POWERSBOOTHEFAN (Fear can hold you prisoner.Hope can set you free.(Shawshank Redemption))
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To: SatinDoll

Yet many of them act like men.


43 posted on 05/26/2011 1:08:42 PM PDT by POWERSBOOTHEFAN (Fear can hold you prisoner.Hope can set you free.(Shawshank Redemption))
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To: POWERSBOOTHEFAN

I frankly believe that homosexuality is a personality disorder. Why?

Because men want to look like women to attract men, and women want to look like men to repel men. If you find that sentence confusing, read it again. To my mind, it isn’t even about sexual preferences; it seems more about ‘fear’.

So far no evidence has been found that homosexuality is genetic or biological. Hermaphrodites are a unique genetic circumstance unrelated to homosexuality.


44 posted on 05/26/2011 1:23:38 PM PDT by SatinDoll (NOT FOREIGN NATIONALS AS OUR PRESIDENT)
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To: POWERSBOOTHEFAN
Yet many of them act like men.

...and that's the big mystery of it. It makes no sense for a woman that claims revulsion to men... to be attracted to a masculine woman. Or vice versa with men.

Women attracted to feminine women is at least easier to understand, being a man I can understand what makes women attractive. But then again, I don't for the life of me see what could make a man attractive to anyone. I just have to accept it as written that for most women, thankfully, it happens.

45 posted on 05/26/2011 1:39:17 PM PDT by Ramius (Personally, I give us... one chance in three. More tea?)
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To: Peet

ROTF


46 posted on 05/27/2011 11:03:22 AM PDT by SoCal SoCon (Conservatism =/= Corporatism.)
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To: smokingfrog

Okay, let’s list this whole thing out.

The first problem with this guy was about deliberately having a kid without marriage. Whether or not society accepts only this, it’s seriously time to get a clue that surrogate parenting (sperm donations) is something that gets rampant with lawsuits over the child’s custody. Personally, if people had enough sense to see how rampant and chalk full of court battles for child custody you could get for being either the sperm donor or recipient, I would be willing to bet the majority of people who tried would back off with at least a little common sense.

Second, do you think you can win an argument as being a father against a woman who can argue that she bore the child to term, not to mention can nurse it as well?

The whole thing was a great blasted deal of foolishness on this man’s part.


47 posted on 05/27/2011 3:05:45 PM PDT by Morpheus2009
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To: Ramius

Speaking as a woman,I like men very much,as long as they take care of their appearance and hygiene.I’m just wondering why you would say that you can’t understand how anyone could be attracted to a man.Brains and a sense of humor are very important,but hygeine is also important.I can’t stand body odor.Blech.I don’t care about what they do in Europe.They have purses and pantyhose for men.Oy vey.


48 posted on 06/01/2011 2:34:28 PM PDT by POWERSBOOTHEFAN (Fear can hold you prisoner.Hope can set you free.(Shawshank Redemption))
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