Skip to comments.The Sad Consequences of 'Shacking Up'
Posted on 05/29/2011 3:43:43 AM PDT by GonzoII
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Never thought Diaz was attractive, she always looks like she needs a bath. And she’s dumb as a post, and can’t act.
Other than that, I see no reason why she couldn’t have a genius-level intellect regarding all things, so I’m glad they consulted her.
Go back to smoking Snoop’s pot, hon.
Wisdom from someone who needs to remove a mitten to count to three...
In my view this is as much about economics as anything. From a financial perspective, government licensed marriage is a bad, bad deal. Moreso from the male perspective and if both are working.
This is all about government policy which is profoundly anti-marriage and anti-child.
In Hollywood they sleep their way to the top and then rationalize it by claiming everyone is or should be as sleazy as them.
The last place on Earth you can figure out if your current GF is the one is in her home (if that's where you are living).
‘Here’s my advice for boys.’
As each of our 6 grandsons were born to 3 of our 4 daughters, I told the parents
‘*I* get to pick their son’s wives . . . !’
That was my first preference as well, but sometimes nature takes its course...
Can we just redraw the lines and give So. Calif back to Mexico? (and include Hawaii - and let them have our little dictator?)
Best thing my wife and I ever did (and we are approaching a quarter century of a nearly flawless marriage) was to maintain a comfortable distance from the families we came from. The closest family member is about 30 miles away and most of them are at least a time zone away. We only see them on special occasions.
Now that's a recipe for marital bliss.
I would suggest you butt out and let your grandkids make their own decisions.
I’d be interested in learning what the difference in numbers living together is now compared to the 70’s.
Personally, if there are no children involved, and the couple is in their 20’s or older, I don’t have a problem with living together before marriage.
Very true. Marry (or worse, have children) with the wrong woman and your life is guaranteed to be an expensive hell for up to 18 years (22 in some jurisdictions).
Real-life nuggets of wisdom from Siegried Farnon (James Herriot's boss in the All Creatures Great And Small books):
"Have a bloody good look at the mother first, lad." (Women tend to turn into their mother in middle age.)
"Marry in haste, repent at leisure."
That's wrong, too. Once children leave the home and get married, they are no longer under their parents' authority. At this point, grandparents trying to do what you're talking about here just become annoying, bothersome, unscriptural busybodies.
This is very important advice in our modern day. There are a lot of toxic “womyn” out there and 75% of divorces are initiated by them.
What a dope. Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free.
Look at the divorce laws and how men are taken to the cleaners.
“Shacking Up” is far more safe financially for the male than marriage.
I'll ditto that and add that a stroll through the sheep dip tank wouldn't hurt her either.
That is good advice but the key is to allow the man to choose on his own without being influenced by others one way or the other. A lot of men are forced into marriage through family or peer pressure. Until a man takes the vows, he owes the woman nothing. Above all else, he must ensure that he does not impregnate his girlfriend for if he does, all bets are off.
When considering marriage, a man needs to assess the following factors:
But at the same time, when you are in the relationship it is often hard to see the danger signs.
I have had a few friends tell me “Don’t be stupid” when I was dating. Glad they did. In the end, it is each person’s choice, but outside opinions are often a good thing.
My ex-wife-(who is taking half my paycheck each week and complaining that it is not enough) is currently with a guy his 40’s and he is successful.
My ex keeps saying, “Look how successful and rich he is!”
Yeah, that's because he has never been married, you freakin’ fool! He knows what he's doing. You're taking half my income and then comparing me to him? What part of You're an Idiot do you not understand.
He has been ‘dating’ (if that is what you want to call it) her for a year and a half and has never said the ‘L’ word and has never indicated in any way that he is thinking about marriage. And yet she fawns and drools over him constantly.
You know, I don't really like the idea that he is banging my wife, but at the same time I respect what he is doing. She is an idiot, and thinks he is going to ‘propose’ every time she sees him. The guy has the game down pat. Imagine being stuck in perpetual ‘dating’ mode. Every man's dream.
He is smarter than me, that's for sure. I would be so much better off today if I had never married. That guy is the guy I could have been without marriage. Just needed a couple of more brain cells, I guess. It was stupid to get married.
But yeah, the way American Law is set up today, marriage is a life-killer. The woman will have your balls mounted on a trophy, while she looks for the next.
Really, Why buy the cow?
Unfortunately, Kate wouldn’t marry me.
Couldn’t have said it better myself.
These deep thinkers are ignoring the simplicity of what happens, especially here in meth country: low-lifes live together to pool their welfare checks. Marriage would be a penalty for them and their offspring’s bennies. It’s not exactly a philosophical decision!
———I think we have to make our own rules. I don’t think we should live our lives in relationships based off old traditions that don’t suit our world any longer.”-——
There is no better statement of liberalism. Boiled down, it throws out tens of thousands of years of accumulated human wisdom be it Christian, Jewish, Moslem of Buddastist.
The final word is the woman is the personification of evil.
And if we glue some turkey feathers on the unicorn, he'll be able to fly!
When a man and a woman have sexual intercourse, it's not long before "children are involved" ... children who are then either born in the shack-up/unshack relationship, or are aborted.
How, after 40 years of sex education, have we ended up with a population - irrespective of their age or level of schooling - that is apparently totally ignorant of the fact that sex makes babies? Elementary-school children are taught about personal behavior that would make ancient Romans vomit, but adult women with college degrees are shocked, SHOCKED! when they "fall pregnant." For example:
“children living with their mother and her boyfriend are about 11 times more likely to be sexually, physically, or emotionally abused than children living with their married biological parents.”
Well yeah. You’re more likely to hook up with a jerk when bailing out is an implied option. When you’re going to look that person in the face and say “I do” you’re more likely to consider whether you really want to spend your life with this person.
Thank you. Sometimes I get the “live” link, and sometimes I just get the address, and I don’t know why.
Oh, I agree, and in the multitude of counsellors, there is safety.
My main concern is just when grandparents refuse to let their kids raise their own kids. When kids have four or six people giving them often contradictory direction, that’ll confuse a kid like nothing else.
My wife and mine’s parents are both pretty good about it (though they also both live at least 500 miles away). There have a been a few times where I’ve had to (gently) tell my own mother how it is when she’s tried to interfere with our disciplining our son.
Oops - my sense of humor failed to appear to some!
While it’s true I did say to the daughters and sons-in-law that I would be picking their son’s wives, it was because I was insinuating there would be no ‘perfect’ female for our grandsons, of course, therefore I would need to do the choosing because I would be older and wiser than they!
After having 4 daughters and no sons, these 5 grandsons-in-a-row was hilarious, and very precious! (The 6th came afer some granddaughters).
Therefore, I was moved to make the humorous declaration, and I intended to sound ‘bossy!’
I’ll be happy to be alive when they start marrying - the oldest is 23 - - - I would like to dance at their weddings. : )
As an aside, we have never lived near OUR families (USA states separating) after marriage. Can only wonder how that would have gone. Looking back, we kind of robbed some of them of their bonding with our kids....
But 3 of our daughters live near us.
We in no way intrude, but/and do babysitting for the youngest g-kids. And do holidays, etc. together. We’re all rather civil!
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Aha! Thank you.
“When a man and a woman have sexual intercourse, it’s not long before “children are involved” .”
Yes, and I’d say this happens at least as often if not more when the couple isn’t “shacked up”, and has little to do with my post.
Unicorns aside, my comment stands on the issue of living together before marriage....”if there are no children involved, and the couple is in their 20s or older, I dont have a problem with living together before marriage”
I think we’re failing to communicate, but life is like that.
Believe me, I know. One of the reasons I live where I do is that my mother would have meddled in my marriage to much if we lived within driving distance. I feel bad for my child, in that she will not have the same family experience I did growing up, but it is better in the end.
Ms Diaz is a product of and advocate for the slut culture. She used to be fairly hot but seems to be aging very rapidly. She is on the Maureen Dowd track and in a few years can look forward to living a bitter loveless life, getting shagged by gigolos out for her money.
Easiest and best decision I ever made.
And you are right. As my great aunt once told a single nurse “You know, we know what causes babies now!” Shocked and offended the nurse, but made me laugh! Seems like most people want to screw their brains out, but not accept that makes babies.
Two of my grandchildren have grown up just across the street from us. They are great kids and have benefitted from 4 adults in their lives but I have always deferred to their parents in everything to do with their raising.
We pay people to not marry - just look carefully at the tax law and welfare benefits. My father was an IRS agent and when I told him I was going to get married at age 28, almost in a panic, he asked me if she was pregnant. I said no and he said, “my God, do you know what this is going to do to your taxes? Don’t tell the government your married, just your mother-in-law”.
I figure getting married has cost over $250,000 in extra taxes over the past 34 years. I lost all the benefit of income averaging and we had to pay highest rate on most of my wife’s income.
We figure early, keeping our incomes separate and sharing the cost of shared expenses gave us both a great deal of freedom and eliminated excess haggling over BS. If I want a new toy and could afford it, it was mine, she wanted new clothes, she could afford it, fine. The only rule, no debt.
The cause for marital discord are children and money, which are highly interrelated. Most of our friends who had children after 30 seemed miserable and would have give us there’s if we had asked. So we chose not to have kids. Everyday we hear about the expense of college, cars, abortions, STD’s, unemployed (unemployable) kids moving back in with their fatherless kids, etc., etc.,.
Everyday we look at each our, after nearly 35 years of marriage, and say “God I am glad we did not have kids, aren’t we smart!!” We have a little code with some one is dumping on us about some problem with their kid/grandkid - “Have I told you today (rest unspoken) how glad I am we did not have kids”.
People with kids say I don’t know what I missed. What I am blind and deaf? I tell them what they missed - sunsets on the Zambesi river listening the the elephants; the aurora borealis on the Stellar Glacier watching the bears; fishing the Prince William Sound; Dining with the aboriginals in the Aussie Outback; dropping rocks 11,000 feet into the ocean from the Southern Alps in New Zealand.
Yep, an extra fancy safari costs 2 months tuition at a private university. I know exactly what I would have missed..., Early retirement. If I had listened to my father, I could have retired even earlier, that $250,000 would be $1.5 mil now and I suspect I would still be with the same Lady.
“...your life is guaranteed to be an expensive hell for up to 18 years...”
I’m assuming you’re talking about the kids? It ends up costing them much more than it does either of the parents.
What I don’t understand is alimony. Why...I thought that women were equal? Even if they get the kids they get child support.
Can't agree more.
I'm sure as the sun will come up tomorrow my mother in law (now on her third divorce) lived anywhere near us our 30 year marriage would have be a living hell with her butting in every day.
Still after 30 years and raising six kids she warns my wife I might leave her so she better be prepared (whatever that means)
Thankfully she lives 2,000 miles away.
...and it only took me 15 years to convince my mother I'm not a doctor or lawyer became I married her. She actually sort of likes her now....sort of LOL
You sound like the kind of man who made the right decision.
I have Suetonius and Ovid on the shelf ;-).
It’s funny that when a couple has a large family, people always say, “Don’t you know what causes that?” However, they’re not suggesting that the couple should remain celibate the rest of their lives ... only that the natural outcome of sex is somehow unexpected or distasteful.
(I like to respond, “Of course. Don’t you?”)