Skip to comments.(UK) New mothers told it's better to go back to work
Posted on 07/21/2011 10:00:46 AM PDT by markomalley
Children whose mothers return to work within the first year after birth are less likely to fight with their classmates or become anxious than if their mothers stay at home, according to new research.
Despite concerns that young children suffer if they are left in childcare during the early years of their lives, academics at University College London found that there were no detrimental effects resulting from mothers going back to work.
The best arrangement for childrens emotional stability is a home in which both parents are in paid jobs, partly because mothers who work are less likely to be depressed, the study concluded.
The findings follow warnings that childrens health and emotional wellbeing can suffer if their mothers go back to work too soon.
According to earlier studies, the children of working mothers are more likely to develop bad eating habits, take less exercise and become overweight than those of stay-at-home mothers.
The United Nations Childrens Fund warned that children could be suffering because maternity leave provision in the UK is inadequate, while a separate international study found earlier this year that British working mothers spent just 81 minutes per day looking after their children.
However, the latest report, funded by the Economic and Social Research Council, suggested that parents who are struggling to combine paid work with family life need not fear that they are undermining their childrens emotional wellbeing.
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I have a relative who was stationed in Turkey who told me that when a woman had a baby in the morning she went to work that afternoon. If she had it in the afternoon she didn’t have to go back to work until the next day. These women worked as field hands.
I never saw such a thing in the three years I lived in Turkey. Lived in both Ankara and Istanbul.
Such a thing might be required of the woman's family in some cases, but with the villages I was familiar with outside of Ankara, that wasn't the case. It certainly was not government policy.
But did they carry the baby with them in a sling?
I agree with you. The worst behaved kids I know go to day care. The kids that stay at home with mom are the best behaved, especially those who are home schooled.
He was in Izmir.
He was in Izmir.
He didn’t say.
The Big Lie. It is the first seven years which are the most crucial to worldview—it determines everything—IQ is set. Morality is set. Sure it can still be thwarted, destroyed and manipulated, but it is much harder for the state to do it. John Dewey called it “fixed beliefs” which he wanted the state to destroy. It is what started the destruction of American education and made it a joke. He was into “shaping the minds” of the future. Social engineering. Americans were too head-strong—didn’t like to be told what to do—thought “outside the box”. BAD for governments.
To control worldview, there has been a concerted effort by government to destroy the natural nurturing instincts of motherhood (Marx—destroy the family) and take the humanity out of children which is only posited by a loving, caring adult in the formative years.
Tear that mother away and stress and anxiety create little useless idiots, easily manipulated and controlled. They will have no possibility in becoming self-assured, emotionally healthy, responsible people with strong principles of right and wrong. If they do—it is an accident and some wonderful selfless person intervened. Exactly what the state wants—people devoid of the feeling that they had a loving mother-—that profound love only a mother can give—in the early formative years (first seven) which gives them the ability to slay the dragon—to take on hardships in their lives. They feel important and powerful only because of unconditional love in the first seven years of life. After that—it takes severe trauma to change that worldview.
Daycares destroy the connectivity to family and creates stress and the feeling that no one cares—leads to self=doubt and hopelessness. They become obsessed with group think—the approval of the “group” because in daycare settings they are constantly humiliated and corrected because they need to learn. It destroys initiative and “thinking outside the box”.
There will be no people like Patton, MacAurthur, Churchill, Lincoln—it won’t be possible with group think—group learning in early years is antithetical to the development of children.... where 1 0n 1 ratio is the design of nature and it is the ratio of adult to child which determines much of IQ. Higher IQ for children who have one to one ratio—it is why the oldest in families usually achieve higher academically (changed with advent of daycare).
Dalrymple writes about the destruction of the family unit which is the reason the children have no chance at anything—intellectually, emotionally or physically.—institutionalized kids....they are wasted, useless “human” beings with no ambition, no drive, etc. even if they make it to adulthood.
Early year development specialists (the non communist ones) say taking children away from mothers prior to age 7 for long hours, creates stress hormones which destroy IQ if it is a day care setting. High adult ratio to children is what creates higher intellect and more mature behavior....that is because children are copying smart, mature people not other one year old language and actions.
The stupidity of parents, not understanding the fundamentals of learning and trust-creation for children, astounds me. I feel so sorry for the “artificial family” of day care children—the sense of importance of self and love and support and comfort should be given by family members. But that is the Marxist end—destroy family connections, the meaning of genetics, the design of nature—mother instincts— and all relationships (trust goes for day care kids) and VOILA—you can reinvent the family to whatever boys marry boys—and all the silliness Marxists want your children to learn-—demand your child learn!!!!!AND people wont even realize it is weird and lacking of emotional, sound happiness.
Izmir is a beautiful city.
I hope you had a chance to visit.
I didn’t but he did. He was stationed at Cigli Air Base outside of Izmir. He really liked the area, the people and the history.
Mothers who get depressed because they are stuck at home with the kids shouldn’t be mothers in the first place.
I was at home for all 4 kids and had a blast with them - the MOST important job in the world.
“We remember the Home of the Infants where we lived until we were ten years old. Together with all the other children of the city that had been born that year. The Sleeping Hall there was clean and white and bare of all things save for 100 beds.” - Anthem
“I was at home for all 4 kids and had a blast with them”.
I stayed home with all three. My last one is set for kindergarten in the Fall and I am already weepy. Children with stay at home Moms, IMHO, are better behaved. For example, I volunteered on one of the school trips and there was a group of girls who were being just pistols. My one friend said “watch this” and asked them what daycare they had been in. Each one of them answered her with a group name. I was astonished (how did she know?). She use to do daycare in her home and said she can spot a daycare kid a mile away.
I think my granddaughter is living the best life. She’s six months old and I watch her M-F. She is the best and I must say she likes me a little, too. She has a mommy and daddy that adore her and the whole family was lucky that I’m able to stay home with her. Her grandpa even comes home to eat lunch everyday and play. :-)
There was just a study that said kids turn into bullies because of lack of attention from their parents. Duh
Also, why would we let the formation of the moral standards (the first 5 years) be in the hands of daycare workers?
Everyone really knows that children do best when they are:
(1.) raised by their parents in a:
(2.) religious home.
Secular socialists devote so much time and energy claiming the opposite because they know their position runs counter to common sense.
Maybe you should consider homeschooling? It isn’t for eveyone, but it’s surprisingly easy. Tons of free curriculum online, too.
And because some goobermint funded "study" was made, by happy little commies with an ax to grind, we're supposed to believe the goobermint daycare facility is better than a loving parent ?!
There's great oceanfront property on sale in El Paso, too.
I get really, really tired of MY money being used to fund the propaganda of eco-nazis, food nazis, smoking nazis and other scurrilous scum.
“Why would we let the formation of the moral standards be in the hands of daycare workers?”
Personally, I blame the left and liberal educators. It became “fashionable” to be the “do it all woman”. Hold down a career, have kids, etc... It was never fully discussed what a Mom who was away 50-60 hours a week did to the kids. I remember when I was pregnant with my first and said that I was staying at home with him. You would have thought that I murdered someone. Some women said, “I thought you were smarter than that?” or “husbands lose interests in wives without a paycheck”. Children became an accessory (no different than the latest purse). Female strength was derived from making it in a “man’s world” vs “raising a well adjusted, loved, cared for generation”. That is how I see it.